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Dear Dish-It: I Was Dumped Before Valentine's Day

Dear Dish-It,

Uh... hi. Okay, like it's getting very close to Valentine's Day and all, but my boyfriend just dumped me a few weeks ago cuz he thought I was cheating on him. And I've left a few notes in his locker and all... but I got the worst possible answer back. We were sitting across (in an angle) from each other and he said, "You're so depressing, that's why everyone hates you." I wanted to crawl in a dark hole and die. But, then like my friend started yelling at him, making me feel even worse. So now I'm sitting at home in the dark, skipping school. Help. Me. Please...
Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

First of all, don't be skipping school cuz your ex-boyfriend made a jerky comment about you. That's no reason for you to be missin' out on your education and fallin' behind in class! I honestly don't think he meant what he said about everyone hating you. He probably said it cuz he thinks you cheated on him and is mad at you. That's why it's important to set the record straight - and leaving notes in his locker isn't going to do the job. If you want him to know the truth, you're going to have to tell him face-to-face that you didn't cheat on him (you didn't cheat on him, right?). If he doesn't want to talk to you or believe what you're saying, then it's his loss. What matters is that you're making an effort to tell him the truth - and that'll help you move on from this traumatizing ordeal. As well, he may not want to get back together, but again, it's his loss and you'll find another guy who's a better match for you. And who says you need a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, anyway? This day isn't only about spending a romantic time with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but also about loving your friends and family, so celebrate with them by baking them V-Day cookies and handin' out cute Valentine cards! That'll show your ex that you're okay with the outcome of things and he'll eventually stop making mean comments about you.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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    bookwormlestrange
    I don't have ADHD, but I know plenty about it. One of my friends has ADHD and Tourette's, and the teachers were always turds about it. Anyway, i think that a good way to deal with ADHD acting up is either changing medication or trying to eat foods or drinks with caffeine. I'm not sure if it works for you, but a lot of people with ADHD have seen significant improvements after putting caffeine in their systems. If your friends are acting like turds, you need better friends. I hope my advice helps.
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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    AnnaOfExquizurd
    Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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