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Dear Dish-It: I Was Dumped Before Valentine's Day

Dear Dish-It,

Uh... hi. Okay, like it's getting very close to Valentine's Day and all, but my boyfriend just dumped me a few weeks ago cuz he thought I was cheating on him. And I've left a few notes in his locker and all... but I got the worst possible answer back. We were sitting across (in an angle) from each other and he said, "You're so depressing, that's why everyone hates you." I wanted to crawl in a dark hole and die. But, then like my friend started yelling at him, making me feel even worse. So now I'm sitting at home in the dark, skipping school. Help. Me. Please...
Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

First of all, don't be skipping school cuz your ex-boyfriend made a jerky comment about you. That's no reason for you to be missin' out on your education and fallin' behind in class! I honestly don't think he meant what he said about everyone hating you. He probably said it cuz he thinks you cheated on him and is mad at you. That's why it's important to set the record straight - and leaving notes in his locker isn't going to do the job. If you want him to know the truth, you're going to have to tell him face-to-face that you didn't cheat on him (you didn't cheat on him, right?). If he doesn't want to talk to you or believe what you're saying, then it's his loss. What matters is that you're making an effort to tell him the truth - and that'll help you move on from this traumatizing ordeal. As well, he may not want to get back together, but again, it's his loss and you'll find another guy who's a better match for you. And who says you need a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, anyway? This day isn't only about spending a romantic time with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but also about loving your friends and family, so celebrate with them by baking them V-Day cookies and handin' out cute Valentine cards! That'll show your ex that you're okay with the outcome of things and he'll eventually stop making mean comments about you.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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