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What's Eating You?

Mirror, mirror, on the wall, when I look at myself - I feel... Okay your turn. Fill in the blank. What do you see when you gaze at yourself? Well, hopefully you're happy with what ya got. But there are many of you who want Janet Jackson hair, abs like Britney Spears, and a butt like Jennifer Lopez. Guess what, it ain't happening.

More and more, young girls (and by young I mean five and up if you can believe it,) don't like the way they look. Some studies published this year found that children, as young as age 5 in Australia and Hong Kong wanted to be thinner. In January, an online US poll found that one-fifth of girls eight and nine want to lose weight. This is a wish that grows bigger as they get older.

What gives? When I was eight I cared more about catching Michael Jackson and his brothers singing than what I looked like. I was more worried about playing with my Barbies not trying to look like one.

Now we have mothers dressing their daughters as Barbies and the kid's section in department stores looks more like Frederick's of Hollywood. It's not right.

And, if you don't like the way you look, there's always plastic surgery. Puhleez. Did you know that the number one requested graduation gift by high school girls is a boob job? C'mon.

You have to learn to love yourself and the package that you came in. Believe me, when you see your favorite celeb on television or in a print ad, what you see is NOT what you get. There is so much makeup and lighting and magic going on, you wouldn't believe it.

Let me tell you something. Once I was going onto a hotel elevator and there was this scrawny, wild-haired woman standing there with a mangy-looking dog (sorry, but they were.) Anyway, I get on and look at them again. Well, it was Julia Roberts. That did it for me. From that day on, I knew the power of makeup. Now this is not to take anything away from her. She's a terrific actress, but oh boy...

The point is this, my crew. Stop comparing yourselves to these overglam, overblown 'beautiful' people. Being thinner will not make you any happier or popular. How you feel about yourself and how you treat other people will always be the most important. Whoever said that 'beauty is only skin deep' was right. Real beauty comes from within.

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    Do You Worry About Your Weight?

    • Yes, I always think I look fat.
    • Sometimes, but I try not to obsess about it.
    • Never. I'm healthy and look like a million bucks.
    • No, but I have friends who do.

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    Abbergrl
    Haha, thank you. I don't want to date, it's just that these stupid crushes :/
    reply about 4 hours
    SimplyAda
    I can relate very much.  :e  It happens a lot. But here's one thing, try not to date. At my middle school, everyone literally dates everybody and relationships never last. Part of the reason is that most of us aren't in that mature phase yet (mostly boys). As the days go by, we're growing. But, it's completely normal to have a crush on a boy. :) :thumbsup
    reply about 4 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Sorry for the late reply, but I'd love to help. If they don't want to talk to you, or don't like your jokes, don't talk to them. They probably don't like you, so you shouldn't try to make it better. You should hang out with your other friends. They'll make you feel better about yourself. If you don't have any friends in your class...that's the problem.  That's exactly what happened to me last year. But I started hanging out with the guys more, and they were really nice and had a lot in common with me. Maybe the guys will be nice to you and accept you. I hope I helped you. :)   
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Aw, that's sad. I know this is a late review, but I would love to help you make new friends. There are kids that do nasty things at every single school, trust me, you'll never find a perfect school, and if people are reporting this form of bullying, teachers are probably supervising children more, so don't worry about that. :) Now making new friends, ahh, that's very difficult. I can be shy myself, but it honestly depends. What I usually do is observe different groups of people, and see how they interact with each other. If the person seems nice, wait until the time is appropriate and greet them. A friendly "Hi, I'm new, could you maybe show me around, or help me with this, or tell me about this school?" That will start off a conversation. :)  As well, I tend to make jokes, or go to my funny side. I usually make way more friends that way. You could try to make slight jokes, and gradually make them less implied and more clear as you joke around.  If there are any other new kids, or shy kids, definitely talk to them. If there are any kids that look lonely, or sad, maybe take some time to approach them. If they look like the want to be left alone, leave them alone. If you're not sure, it's best if you see someone else interact with them first.  If you're bisexual, that doesn't really matter, and don't bring that fact up in a conversation. That's kind of personal, and when you get a little closer, you can say that. It's not really important, and necessary for people to know that. And it's personal too. So don't bring that up unless you really want to.  I hope i helped you! Sorry for the late advice. >_< 
    reply about 11 hours
    SmartSunnyShadow
    Several people are having the same problem as you. Whether they're the same gender or not, many people crush on some of their closest friends. So don't feel alone, remember that. I know this is some late advice, but I hope so far things are going good. Many people are feeling the urge of confessing like you. Yes, I think you should confess to her clearly, but when the time is right. She may not like you, but if you really really like her, you should absolutely confess to her. But be aware that confessing to one of your friends can ruin your friendship. You have to be cautious, confess when the time is right. 5 months may be long for you, but honestly, that's a short-term crush. Don't rush your confession, and don't give up unless you think you should. Getting over someone can be incredibly hard too, but you're either going to get over her, or confess to her. When the time is right, confess. When the time never seems to come, I'm sorry, but unfortunately, I think it's best if you get over her, because you have to be 100% sure before you confess to someone. You're risking your friendship to, so think if it's really worth it.  I hope I helped you. :) 
    reply about 11 hours