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Dear Dish-It, Should I Still Talk to Her?

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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I dated a guy for a month over summer vacation and I got really attached. I liked him so much, but we broke up because he said he didn't want a girlfriend. Now he's going out with my so-called friend. Should I still talk to her? I mean, she was supposed to be my friend and she knows how much I feel for him. To top it off, he won't even be my friend.
Eva


Dear Eva,

Absolutely not! Normally, I recommend sharing your thoughts with a friend before cutting them loose, but this girl is stomping all over your heart. Friends should never date each other's exes, and the fact that your friend is picking up where you left off goes to show that she ain't no friend of yours. And your ex - it's up to him to decide who he wants to date, but he's a jerk for lying to you about why he wanted to break up. If he wanted to date other girls, then he should've been straight and told you the truth instead of lying and saying he just wanted to be single. It sounds like you're trying to be friends with people who aren't worthy of your friendship. If you don't believe me, then sit down and write a list of pros and cons of your ex and so-called friend. If the cons outweigh the pros, then you've answered your question.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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Rawrr_its_mee_2527021
Wow that's a low blow
commented: Thu Jul 25, 2013

imunsure

imunsure wrote:

you sure shes your friend!
commented: Wed Jun 05, 2013

roger2901s

roger2901s wrote:

I wouldn't be her friend any more
commented: Sun Jul 29, 2012

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jordand08
jordand08 posted in Friends:
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I hang out with a bunch of different groups of people.. All of which have drama. And it is NOT fun. They all expect me to choose a side and start making me feel bad so that I would HAVE to pick them. It really doesn't make me feel so good, I don't know what to do. :/
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Bwubbles posted in Friends:
My best friend will NOT stop self harming. She's told about 2 other of our close friends and we all tried to work together to make her stop. She'd just lost her favorite cousin, that's when it all started. We tried to tell her that there's better things to do but she just will NOT stop! I've already told her mom, and there's still no stopping her! I'm just really worried for her and I don't know what else to do!  =( =(
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My bestie Lydia's mom, had her when she was 12. Lydia's mom is like the best mom out there. True, Lydia has a hard time not having a dad and having to be real responsible. But Rosalyn is an awesome mom. Don't be so judgy people.
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