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Dear Dish-It, Should I Still Talk to Her?


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I dated a guy for a month over summer vacation and I got really attached. I liked him so much, but we broke up because he said he didn't want a girlfriend. Now he's going out with my so-called friend. Should I still talk to her? I mean, she was supposed to be my friend and she knows how much I feel for him. To top it off, he won't even be my friend.
Eva


Dear Eva,

Absolutely not! Normally, I recommend sharing your thoughts with a friend before cutting them loose, but this girl is stomping all over your heart. Friends should never date each other's exes, and the fact that your friend is picking up where you left off goes to show that she ain't no friend of yours. And your ex - it's up to him to decide who he wants to date, but he's a jerk for lying to you about why he wanted to break up. If he wanted to date other girls, then he should've been straight and told you the truth instead of lying and saying he just wanted to be single. It sounds like you're trying to be friends with people who aren't worthy of your friendship. If you don't believe me, then sit down and write a list of pros and cons of your ex and so-called friend. If the cons outweigh the pros, then you've answered your question.


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Even though we broke up, we still chill together and do (stuff) but I really want her back.
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Is it Okay to Date a Friend's Ex?

  • Sure - if they're broken up, the ex is fair game.
  • Only if you ask your friend first.
  • No - it's always a bad idea.

Dear Dish-It In The Forums

bookwormlestrange
I don't have ADHD, but I know plenty about it. One of my friends has ADHD and Tourette's, and the teachers were always turds about it. Anyway, i think that a good way to deal with ADHD acting up is either changing medication or trying to eat foods or drinks with caffeine. I'm not sure if it works for you, but a lot of people with ADHD have seen significant improvements after putting caffeine in their systems. If your friends are acting like turds, you need better friends. I hope my advice helps.
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SmartSunnyShadow
I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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SmartSunnyShadow
Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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SmartSunnyShadow
Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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AnnaOfExquizurd
Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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