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Dear Dish-It, I Am Not Over Him

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend and I broke up last year but I still like him a lot! I am not over him and I don't know what to do because my friend has a MAJOR crush on him too! What should I do... help!!!!
R.R.

Dear R.R.,

It's only January of 2002, so when you say last year, I'm not so sure 'bout just how much time has ticked off. Here's some truth for you - gettin' over a broken heart is hard. In a way, it's the price we pay for being soooo into someone else. One thing I know though... I'd rather pay that price than never feel like I really connected with someone.

The reason you feel so sad is cuz you're actually in mourning, like when someone you know dies. In this case the someone you mourn is the relationship that is gone. Tons of doctors have tried to figure out what is a normal length of time to be sad after a relationship is over, or why some peeps feel sad longer than others. One theory figures that for every year you were hooked up with your boy, it will take about three months to get over it. So you do the math. How long were you together? One year? Two years? Cuz two years means you might be blue for as long as six months. As for your girl... dating rule numero uno - a friend's X is totally outta bounds.

(Click here to read Jerbarcka's Dear Dish-It question.) There's another thing 2, she's really sensitive about what people think about her and her school work. If your 1st advice doesn't work what should I do?
Jerbarcka2002

Dear Jerbarcka,

If you haven't already had the talk with your friend and she's really sensitive... maybe a different, not so obvious, approach would be better. Try chattin' with her. Be really casual but start talking about some of your fave beauty products. Then tell her how you just discovered this "can't live without" deodorant. Tell her it works a billion times better than anything you've tried before, and suggest she give it a try. If this doesn't work... go back to plan A. Whatever you do, remind her that you're telling her as a friend, not to hurt her feelings. Good luck and let me know how it goes.

Dear Dish-It,

Well, this girl in class, I think she likes me but I don't know if I should ask her to go out with me. What should I do?
Trunks900

Dear Trunks900,

Hey there boy. Great to here from the "Y chromes" cuz all you boys should be hittin' me up with your Qs just like the girls do! Trunks, you ask the very basic of dating questions, but you forgot to tell me if you like her. So assuming that you do - go for it! I will keep shoutin' it at everyone. Go for what you want in life. If it's that hottie two rows over, then ask her out. If she says no, don't worry about it. She's the one that loses, while you are good to mix it up with the next hottie you lay eyes on. And peeps, don't never ever feel bad cuz someone says no... there ain't nothin' wrong with you, it's just a mismatch.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? It's really nice that your mother supports it, that always helps!! I'm glad that your family enjoys his company as well. Being 16 while he's 20 is alright. It's a slight odd age gap. But, I think as long as you both are ready, it's alright. Make sure you're mature and safe with your choices though. Personally, I think you should wait until you're closer to at least, 17. But, as long as you two are smart about what you're doing, it should be alright when it come around to it.
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"Shygirl15" wrote:I really like this boy in my second period class but i dont know how to tell him because he knows that im transgender do whatever makes you feel comfortable or just wing it and tell him and if he tells you something because you're trans forget about him! He doesn't deserve you. But it's totally okay if you want to play it safe and not go up to him. You do you. :3 
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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? i suggest you wait i mean you are going to be 16 that's way too young to be dating someone who is 4/5 years older than you,no? You can still talk to him when it comes to your anxiety attacks and all of that because I have those too every night so I know how it feels, but maybe you should wait. But at the end of the day it's your decision I'm just here to give advice 
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SatanslilDemon
Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice???
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SmartSunnyShadow
I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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