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Dear Dish-It, I Am Not Over Him

Dear Dish-It,

My boyfriend and I broke up last year but I still like him a lot! I am not over him and I don't know what to do because my friend has a MAJOR crush on him too! What should I do... help!!!!
R.R.

Dear R.R.,

It's only January of 2002, so when you say last year, I'm not so sure 'bout just how much time has ticked off. Here's some truth for you - gettin' over a broken heart is hard. In a way, it's the price we pay for being soooo into someone else. One thing I know though... I'd rather pay that price than never feel like I really connected with someone.

The reason you feel so sad is cuz you're actually in mourning, like when someone you know dies. In this case the someone you mourn is the relationship that is gone. Tons of doctors have tried to figure out what is a normal length of time to be sad after a relationship is over, or why some peeps feel sad longer than others. One theory figures that for every year you were hooked up with your boy, it will take about three months to get over it. So you do the math. How long were you together? One year? Two years? Cuz two years means you might be blue for as long as six months. As for your girl... dating rule numero uno - a friend's X is totally outta bounds.

(Click here to read Jerbarcka's Dear Dish-It question.) There's another thing 2, she's really sensitive about what people think about her and her school work. If your 1st advice doesn't work what should I do?
Jerbarcka2002

Dear Jerbarcka,

If you haven't already had the talk with your friend and she's really sensitive... maybe a different, not so obvious, approach would be better. Try chattin' with her. Be really casual but start talking about some of your fave beauty products. Then tell her how you just discovered this "can't live without" deodorant. Tell her it works a billion times better than anything you've tried before, and suggest she give it a try. If this doesn't work... go back to plan A. Whatever you do, remind her that you're telling her as a friend, not to hurt her feelings. Good luck and let me know how it goes.

Dear Dish-It,

Well, this girl in class, I think she likes me but I don't know if I should ask her to go out with me. What should I do?
Trunks900

Dear Trunks900,

Hey there boy. Great to here from the "Y chromes" cuz all you boys should be hittin' me up with your Qs just like the girls do! Trunks, you ask the very basic of dating questions, but you forgot to tell me if you like her. So assuming that you do - go for it! I will keep shoutin' it at everyone. Go for what you want in life. If it's that hottie two rows over, then ask her out. If she says no, don't worry about it. She's the one that loses, while you are good to mix it up with the next hottie you lay eyes on. And peeps, don't never ever feel bad cuz someone says no... there ain't nothin' wrong with you, it's just a mismatch.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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