Dear Dish-It, I Have Crushes on Other Boys

Dear Dish-It

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Dear Dish-It,
I have a boyfriend and he likes me and I like him, but I have a CRUSH on a boy in my class and he is my best friend. He asked me to try to hook him up with some other girls that are my friends. I mean, should I still have crushes on other boys I like and still have a boyfriend? Please help me. I don't really get to see my boyfriend that much... only for about five minutes after school. I can't go outside during the winter because it is too cold and I have asthma. So I can't see him. It's like I don't even have a boyfriend.
Hopeless

Dear Hopeless,
Nothing is hopeless! Girl, you've dealt a few issues at once. First, there's nothin' wrong with checkin' out the hotties... if we're talkin' about appreciating them as being oh-so-fine. But, if you're developing feelings for them, that's just not cool. More to it, it could be a sign that things aren't so fine between you and your boy. On the other... there may be nothing wrong with your relationship, you may just be (and I'm vibin' this is true,) a bit jealous and or territorial. Does this friend usually pay you loads of attention? Maybe you don't want to lose that or his friendship... maybe you're thinkin' he won't be there for you if he's busy with another girl. My advice girl, is ask yourself what is really happening in your head - do you think he's hot or are you worried you will lose his attention. If the second is true, then hook him up already. He deserves happiness too... and a friend would help him find it, not keep him hidden from the rest of your girls. As for the sketchy time with your own boy... why not invite him over. Sure, it's cold outside but can't you hang out at home? - his or yours.

Dear Dish-It,
I recently dated a guy for 1 month and I got really attached. I liked him so much, but we broke up because he said that he didn't want a girlfriend. Now he's going out with my so-called friend. Should I still talk to her? I mean, she was supposed to be my friend and she knows how much I feel for him. To top it off, he won't even be my friend.
Love always, Eva

Dear Eva,
Uhhh yeah, NO!! Holy harsh girl. Normally I recommend sharin' your thoughts with a friend before cuttin' 'em loose but... this girl is hip-hoppin' all over your heart. Rule one - never pick up where a friend left off. Your girl sure isn't winning any medals for principles. To have a relationship with your X is way low, but to allow him to be so rude as to not be your friend. It sounds like you're tryin' to be friends with people who aren't worthy of your friendship, but if your not convinced of this... check it out, write a list of pros and cons. If the cons outweigh the pros, you've answered your question - Bye, Bye, Bye, to both of them.

Dear Dish-It,
There is this boy at my school that I really like, (and I mean a whole lot!!!) Anyway, my friend blabbed to him that I liked him. Now whenever I see him he acts different. I am starting not to like him as much as I used to!!!! What should I do?
Farmdogkids

Dear Farmdogkids,
So is he actin' weird, good (like he likes you too) or is he actin' weird, bad (like he thinks you're scary?) Cuz it totally matters which weird it is. If he's actin' like he likes you, give the boy a break. Go out on a date, hang out, talk to each other. He might just have a bad case of nerves. But, if he's actin' all smug and stupid, then forget about him. Learning that someone likes you should feel good, cuz it's a compliment (even if you don't feel the same way back.) It shouldn't reduce you to a mean, petty jerk. If he's donning the jerk shirt, walk on by.

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