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Dear Dish-It, I Have Crushes on Other Boys


Dear Dish-It, is thinkin' about this some more, so TTYL.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and he likes me and I like him, but I have a CRUSH on a boy in my class and he is my best friend. He asked me to try to hook him up with some other girls that are my friends. I mean, should I still have crushes on other boys I like and still have a boyfriend? Please help me. I don't really get to see my boyfriend that much... only for about five minutes after school. I can't go outside during the winter because it is too cold and I have asthma. So I can't see him. It's like I don't even have a boyfriend.
Hopeless


Dear Hopeless,

Nothing is hopeless! Girl, you've dealt a few issues at once. First, there's nothin' wrong with checkin' out the hotties... if we're talkin' about appreciating them as being oh-so-fine. But, if you're developing feelings for them, that's just not cool. More to it, it could be a sign that things aren't so fine between you and your boy. On the other... there may be nothing wrong with your relationship, you may just be (and I'm vibin' this is true,) a bit jealous and or territorial. Does this friend usually pay you loads of attention? Maybe you don't want to lose that or his friendship... maybe you're thinkin' he won't be there for you if he's busy with another girl. My advice girl, is ask yourself what is really happening in your head - do you think he's hot or are you worried you will lose his attention. If the second is true, then hook him up already. He deserves happiness too... and a friend would help him find it, not keep him hidden from the rest of your girls. As for the sketchy time with your own boy... why not invite him over. Sure, it's cold outside but can't you hang out at home? - his or yours.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    bookwormlestrange
    I don't have ADHD, but I know plenty about it. One of my friends has ADHD and Tourette's, and the teachers were always turds about it. Anyway, i think that a good way to deal with ADHD acting up is either changing medication or trying to eat foods or drinks with caffeine. I'm not sure if it works for you, but a lot of people with ADHD have seen significant improvements after putting caffeine in their systems. If your friends are acting like turds, you need better friends. I hope my advice helps.
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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    SmartSunnyShadow
    Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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    AnnaOfExquizurd
    Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
    reply 2 days