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Dear Dish-It, I Froze Up... Now She Has a Boyfriend


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Dear Dish-It,

I've known this girl for a few months and we've talked a bit. I told my friends I liked her and they told her (and her friends found out) and all this stuff happened. When it came to the perfect chance to ask her out I froze up and just didn't do it... Now she has a boyfriend (I think.) I started walking home with a few of my friends and I found out she walks with them too... I think I might still have a chance and I want to ask her cuz I think she's still interested. But when it comes to asking her, I'm kinda shy and I just can't do it. I feel like an idiot and I know we both want to go out with each other. Can you help me with some pointers on how to talk to her and ask her out?
Shy Guy


Dear Shy Guy,

Do ya play sports? Ever been in the zone? Well, it sounds like you're half way to being in the dating zone. If your gut tells ya that she's interested, odds are the girl could be your girl with just a few sweet moves. Girls like guys who are real. They like a guy to be interested in them romantically, but they also want friendship. It sounds like you're already payin' attention to the vibes she's sending, and it sounds like you're sendin' them back. So just step up to bat and ask the girl out already. You should get her digits and call her at home. Chat with her for awhile and listen to what she is sayin'. That means you've gotta really pay attention. After a bit of phone dishin', ask her out.


When you go out, make sure you take her somewhere you won't bump into all your friends... that can make for awkward moments. You're both bound to be cooler when it's just the two of you. And make sure you keep the mix equal - part romance (be sweet, tell her you think she's all that,) and part friendship (ask her about the stuff she likes.) You do have one little problem though... she's gotta boyfriend. The dating handbook (no there isn't really a book) clearly says not to move in on anyone who's already hooked up. You could just ask her (the next time you're alone with her) if she's seeing someone. If you ask, she'll get the signal that you're interested.


Dear Shy Guy,

I kinda have the same prob but sometimes you just have to step up to the plate. I like like my best friend. She smacks me for no reason but I still hang with her and I still like one in a few ways. I've sneaked the quest in different words and forms (I either write it in different words or I kinda sneak it in when we are having in deep personal convo.) So the trick is to be sly and I believe a great (maybe not great,)poet/philosopher said, "We only live once so live it out." In general, we live once and there is no rewind button so just take the dive.

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    Talk to your parents about it. Tell them you didn't like your Christmas gift, and don't let your brother boss you around. Your parents can, your brother can't. Your parents gave you life, sorry to tell you but they can do anything they want if it's legal. But your brother can't. Let your parents know that you shouldn't have gotten in trouble for the stuff he doesn't. Tell them he makes you feel really awful and you don't like it. If they're good people they'll understand.
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    HannahG posted in Friends:
    I would stop being friends with her. I mean she should understand that it'd be mean to do that. It's hard to help your friend get through a breakup when you're dating the same person. Plus you don't even know if she was trying to break you guys up so she could be with him.
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    HannahG posted in Friends:
    You want to know if he likes you or not? Just ask him. It's not as bad as people say-I mean, it's a question. It looks like he does, so he probably does. It's not that big of a deal.
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    HannahG posted in Friends:
    Talk to your friend. Tell her that this is the first guy that's ever liked you but you don't want her to get mad at you for stealing him from her. But understand she likes him too so don't get mad if she doesn't want you dating him. Nicely decide which of you should get him instead of the other. Chances are she might be thinking the same thing.
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