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Dear Dish-It, I Froze Up... Now She Has a Boyfriend

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Dear Dish-It,

I've known this girl for a few months and we've talked a bit. I told my friends I liked her and they told her (and her friends found out) and all this stuff happened. When it came to the perfect chance to ask her out I froze up and just didn't do it... Now she has a boyfriend (I think.) I started walking home with a few of my friends and I found out she walks with them too... I think I might still have a chance and I want to ask her cuz I think she's still interested. But when it comes to asking her, I'm kinda shy and I just can't do it. I feel like an idiot and I know we both want to go out with each other. Can you help me with some pointers on how to talk to her and ask her out?
Shy Guy


Dear Shy Guy,

Do ya play sports? Ever been in the zone? Well, it sounds like you're half way to being in the dating zone. If your gut tells ya that she's interested, odds are the girl could be your girl with just a few sweet moves. Girls like guys who are real. They like a guy to be interested in them romantically, but they also want friendship. It sounds like you're already payin' attention to the vibes she's sending, and it sounds like you're sendin' them back. So just step up to bat and ask the girl out already. You should get her digits and call her at home. Chat with her for awhile and listen to what she is sayin'. That means you've gotta really pay attention. After a bit of phone dishin', ask her out.


When you go out, make sure you take her somewhere you won't bump into all your friends... that can make for awkward moments. You're both bound to be cooler when it's just the two of you. And make sure you keep the mix equal - part romance (be sweet, tell her you think she's all that,) and part friendship (ask her about the stuff she likes.) You do have one little problem though... she's gotta boyfriend. The dating handbook (no there isn't really a book) clearly says not to move in on anyone who's already hooked up. You could just ask her (the next time you're alone with her) if she's seeing someone. If you ask, she'll get the signal that you're interested.


Dear Shy Guy,

I kinda have the same prob but sometimes you just have to step up to the plate. I like like my best friend. She smacks me for no reason but I still hang with her and I still like one in a few ways. I've sneaked the quest in different words and forms (I either write it in different words or I kinda sneak it in when we are having in deep personal convo.) So the trick is to be sly and I believe a great (maybe not great,)poet/philosopher said, "We only live once so live it out." In general, we live once and there is no rewind button so just take the dive.

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    pitbull22

    pitbull22 wrote:

    man up and ask her out
    commented: Sat Jun 01, 2013

    pitbull22

    pitbull22 wrote:

    man up and ask her out
    commented: Sat Jun 01, 2013

    Obey_Talazia

    Obey_Talazia wrote:

    Just tell her how u feel even if she has a bf then at least she will kno
    commented: Mon Mar 04, 2013

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