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Dear Dish-It, My Crush Thinks I'm Like a Sister

Dear Dish-It,

I've been reading all the advice you've been giving ppl and I think thatz totally cool!!! but now I need your help. Ok, first of all therez a really popular guy called Josh that goes to my school, and we're in the same grade (7th.) Anywayz in the 6th grade I started liking him, but 'bout 2 monthz ago I gave up and stopped liking him. I told one of my friendz, but instead of keepin' it to herself, she went and asked him if he would ever go out with me. It didn't seem so bad until she told me what he said, he said something like: "she's cute and everything but I'll never go out with her because she's like a little sister to me!" I didn't think that was so bad until, like, yesterday when I was watching a movie and started thinking 'bout him and for some reason I'm starting to like him again!! What am I 'pose to do? He's never going to like me, IM SO CONFUSED!!!!! Help me please!! I know I'll forget about him but I'm off track so I can't do ANYTHING about it.
Confused


Dear Confused,

Thanks for the kudos girlie. I'm glad you're impressed - hopefully my advice to you will also be impressive to ya. Your letter reveals one heck of a story - and one I bet more than a few peeps can relate to. Here's the deal... it's obvious you've givin' Josh a good chunk of crush time, and judging by what he told your friend, he's not gonna be interested anytime soon. Still, the upside to this is, he thinks a lot of ya. Obviously you're cool if he considers you like a blood relative. I mean at least he didn't run screaming or say you were like his arch enemy or anything. You're right though, it's time to move on.


Still, don't be too hard on yourself if you find yourself slippin' and thinkin' of him instead of watchin' a flick. It'll take time to move on, but you can do it. Here's a tip - when you find yourself starin' longingly at him from across the lunchroom, take a deep breath and purposely scan the room for other peeps. You might find another hottie to crush on - or better yet, you might find someone staring longingly at you! Hang in there, girlfriend.


Dear Dish-It,

There is this boy that I like. We talk and we flirt with each other but he acts as if he does not like me. I even told him that I liked him and he told me that he liked me as a friend but as I said before, he doesn't act like it. What can I do to get him to tell me what he likes for real?
Iced_Tea00


Dear Iced_Tea00,

Ok, whoa! First you say he's flirtin' with ya and then you say he says he likes ya as a friend, but doesn't act it. Cuz flirtin' and friendship don't go hand-in-hand... and when they do, it leaves everyone trippin' just like I am from this e.
Here's the deal, if he's flirtin' and then saying he just likes you as a friend, that means he's not mature enuff to get a grip on his emotions. I know it sucks, but you really don't wanna make this guy come around - and you can't anyway. His emotional maturity is something he needs to develop on his own, trying to push him along will only lead to further head games and possible heartache. Don't worry, if he really likes ya, he'll figure it out soon enough - and if he doesn't, his loss.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    SatanslilDemon
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    I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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