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Dear Dish-It: What Should I Wear?

Dear Dish-It,

I've been invited to my best (guy) friend's end-of-the-school-year party and I don't know what to wear! There won't be many preppy or super-popular people there, so I doubt it'll be that dressy. I'm also sort of a tomboy so I don't want to wear a skirt. Would a music tee, skinny jeans and Converse be OK? How about music tee, shorts and sneakers?

Soccerstarr22


Dear Soccerstarr22,


The first thing you should do is ask your friend what kind of party it is or what he thinks you should wear. That may seem weird or awkward, but it's the best way to find out for sure what sort of outfit will or won't be appropriate. If you really don't feel comfortable asking him (maybe because he's a guy), why not find another girl or girls who are also going to the party and ask them what they plan to wear?


You're also pretty specific in terms of what you absolutely refuse to wear (i.e. dresses, skirts, etc.). So I'm going to try and recommend a few pieces and outfits you'll feel most comfortable in.


Shorts are very in this summer and they can be easily dressed up for a party by pairing them with a top that's slightly prettier or dressier than the shorts themselves. If you get a pair of white shorts try matching them with a colorful top that's got some detail (a v-neck collar, capped sleeves, ruffled straps, etc.) and is long enough to cover most of the shorts.


I'm afraid if you wear shorts with a regular t-shirt it will just look like you're going for a bike ride or something like that.


The same goes for skinny jeans. These would look slightly more dressy if you pair them with a long, flowy shirt that's got some pretty details to it. If you want to wear a tee with your skinnies try one that's a little more form-fitting and shows off your curves a bit.


Tees with large graphic prints are totally hot this summer, so one of those would work well with jeans.


As for footgear, if kicks make you happiest then that's what you should wear . But if you're willing to try something new, why not slip on a super-cute pair of sandals -- leather is neutral colors like brown and tan are in, as well as flashier tones like gold, bronze and copper. Bling on sandals is also really trendy this year, as are sandals with cool-looking straps that tie around your ankles or snake up the middle of your foot.


Remember, the main goal of the party is to wear something you feel great in so you can focus on having fun with your friends. Don't worry about it too much -- how you feel at the party is a lot more important than how you look!


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