Dear Dish-It: Quickies (7)
Dish-it gets so many questions, she doesn’t always have time to answer them all right away! Here are some quickie answers for some of the shorter questions she’s received.
I’m 12. A year ago I noticed a small amount of sticky white discharge on my underwear. Over the past year it’s increased and now there’s a lot of it every day. I wear panty liners so I don’t mess up my pants but I’m getting quite sick of it. What is it and should I be worried. – 123
I’m 12 and have sort of a smelly discharge that either has a yellow tint or comes out clear. I feel itchy almost every day. I’m too scared to bring it up to my mom or doctor. – concerned&curious
While discharge is usually completely normal and harmless, it’s best – and EXTREMELY IMPORTANT – to ask a doctor about these things. You can also read Kidzworld’s article on discharge here.
I want boys to like me but they don’t. I’m really pretty (I’m a model) and I’m really nice. What do I do? – lovelywind1
Guys may be intimidated by you. All you have to do is be yourself and treat others the way you’d like them to treat you (with kindness and respect) and have a little bit of patience.
There’s this party and I want to ask this really cool guy out – what should I do? – emma10
I like this boy at school but he doesn’t know I exist – what do I do? – shareeheart
I really like this guy but I don’t know if he likes me the same way. I just moved back to where he lives but I still haven’t told him how I feel. Am I in the wrong? – the shy one
I’m going back to school in two days and I remember my crush finding out I liked him on the last day of school last year. I wanna find out if he feels the same way but I’m not sure he remembers and I’m a bit scared to ask. – whatsherface
I get these sorts of question all the time – they’re part of the Top 10 Most Popular Questions To Dish-It! That’s why I wrote a guide about what to do when you want to tell someone you like them or want to ask someone out on a date. Check it out!
I like a guy that’s three years older than me and he likes me back. We even kissed once. My dad won’t let me date until I’m 14 but we might move by then. I’m 12 now. What do I do? – animallover101
You have to respect your dad’s rules. If he says you can’t date until you’re 14, he has good reasons for that and you need to listen to him. If you lose your dad’s respect now and date this guy he may not let you date until you’re 15, 16 or even older!
I got to talking to this boy and I realized I like him but I already have a boyfriend! What do I do? – hasmmaddy67
I have a boyfriend but there’s this other guy who keeps flirting with me. I’m kind of starting to like him, even though I’ve told him to stop. It really annoys me. Plus, I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to leave him. What should I do? – amazing_toastt
You choose one or the other and you stay honest to both. Don’t cheat on your boyfriend, and don’t lie to your crush. And once you choose, if the other keeps bothering you, just ignore him. He’ll eventually leave you alone. The more you talk to him (even if it’s to tell him to leave you alone or to try and explain to him that you have a boyfriend), the more he’ll think you don’t want to break contact with him. So just ignore it when he calls, texts or e-mails (that means don’t pick up, don’t call back, don’t write back and don’t answer any texts).
I am in love with someone who isn’t in love with me. He loves this really hateful girl who treats him terribly. The problem is we used to be best buds before we started going out on again, off again. Now he thinks I’m nuts and he hates me. But we have so much history together that I can’t let him go. What should I do? – heartbroken
I really like this guy and I asked him out but he said no. I understand his decision but can’t let him go – can you help me? – HELP!
Both of you: let him go. You have to – it’s your only option. You can’t change his mind and you can’t interfere in his current relationship, no matter how wrong you think it is. Let him figure it out by himself (and he will). As for him hating you, heartbroken, why would you even consider liking someone who doesn’t like you back or treat you with any respect? Girls always fall for this – we tend to think if someone treats us badly we should care about them more. But that’s wrong. So do yourself a favor and move on – you’ll feel better and you’ll eventually find someone who knows how to treat you well.
My best friend is going out with my crush – what should I do? – rgredler
Did your BFF know you had a crush on him before she started to date him? If so, she’s not a good friend and you don’t need that kind of negativity and betrayal in your life. If she didn’t know, then there’s nothing you can do. Just try your best to be happy for her and find someone else to crush on.
There’s this guy I’ve liked since Grade 5 and I found out he likes me, too. That was the good news. But when he says he’s going to call or come over or take me to the movies or somewhere he cancels on me and it hurts me really bad. I thought I really liked him but now I’m not so sure … – hotties6726
I’m really sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but this guy doesn’t like you that much. If he did, he wouldn’t be acting so disrespectfully – he’d be calling when he says he’s going to and keeping his promises to come over and see you or take you out on dates. Time to dump him and move on.
We still love each other but I changed schools and moved to a new house so we had to break up. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. What should we do? – mya still in love
For starters, read a reply I sent to a KW member with a similar question to yours: Dear Dish-It: Do I Do Long-Distance?
What do you do when a guy likes you? – christ55ina
Enjoy it! It’s always flattering when someone has a crush on you. You can also think about whether or not you like him back. If you do, you can either wait for him to do it or ask him out yourself. If not, I wouldn’t hurt his feelings by being mean to him or telling him to his face you don’t like him, but don’t lead him on – that is, don’t do or say things that will make him believe he has a chance to date you when he doesn’t.
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