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Dear Dish-It, I saw my boyfriend kiss my best friend


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

There's this girl in my school, a real hottie. I like her but I don't think she likes me. I have a few problems... a few of my other friends like her. I think she's seeing someone but she might not be. I don't know how to tell her I want to go out with her. I really don't think she likes me. Can you give me a plan to tell her that I like her, or at least tell me how to tell her? We were talking on the phone and she brought up sex.
brunosbud


Dear brunosbud,

Hmmm, that's a tough one. I can give you advice but there ain't a magic potion to make someone crush on you. If you're already talkin' on the phone, you must be friends and she must like ya a bit. And since she brought up sex, I'm thinkin' she likes ya more than you know. To get this hottie to return your crush, you need to be a friend first. Listen to her, be a sweetie and then build from there. Talk more on the phone, just casual stuff... and keep it all about her. Then hang on the weekends and after skool, but keep it cool. When you think you're pretty tight, ask her out. That's the best I can offer ya, so good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

I've been going out with this boy for a few months and he told me he loves me and wouldn't give me up for anything. Then, just a few weeks ago I saw him kiss my best friend. I was so angry that I told one of the teachers at skool. There I was crying in front of him when we kissed. My teacher is 24 and I am 15. What should I do???
laddie


Dear laddie,

Ask for an A! Sooo kidding! That is wrong on too many levels to list. Without a doubt you have to tell your parents. I don't care what you think - whether you think he's a great guy, a hottie, a good teacher, whatever. He stepped way over the line. No matter how ya look at it, he abused his position of authority when he kissed you. Hello, he's your teacher! You may not think this is a big deal but know this girl - if he did it to you, he'll do it again. And next time it may be more than a kiss. Remember this guy is in one of the most trusted positions an adult can have with a kid. He's up there with your 'Rents and your doctor. He sounds way sketchy and totally not trustworthy. Tell it to the peeps that count... tell your 'Rents.


Dear Dish-It,

I need help. I like a boy and he likes me as a friend, but his best friend likes me. What should I do?
yub


Dear Dish-It,

You know the last letter I sent you... well it got worse! That guy I liked hit on my best friend and his best friend is sexually harassing me. What should I do!?! Please write me back!
yub


Dear yub,

Yikes! This does sound messy. Okay. you're crushin' on hottie number one, but he's crushin' on your gal pal. Meanwhile, hottie number one's best boy is crushin' on ya. How does your friend feel 'bout all this? Cuz if it's no-never to her than ya need to get her to make the message clear to your boy (number one) that you're all that. She needs to talk you up some. You're gonna have to do some talkin' too. You need to be real clear with the friend (that's all over you) that it ain't gonna happen. Be clear, but be kind. You don't wanna make an enemy outta your boy's nearest and dearest. Besides, no one likes rejection. If this doesn't work, it's not meant to be... at least not now.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,>Well dishem up, too.


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What Would You Do if You Were Kissed by a Teacher?

  • Yuck, I'd tell my parents right away.
  • That is so wrong - I'd go straight to the principal.
  • I'd never tell anyone. It's too weird.

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"Lulu335" wrote: I live in a military family, which means we have to move A LOT. I'm halfway through 6th grade, and I'm really stressed out. The reason is because I have a guy who really likes me, and we liked each other back in the 5th grade, and he's even got me presents and everything, but now I'm starting to doubt whether I still like him or not. And he is a great guy; he's silly, funny, kind- but I just don't know if he's the right guy for me. Plus there's a friend of mine who I know likes me as more than a friend, and he's a great guy, too. I really need advise!! Oh sweetheart, your situation is so, so very far from being complicated. In fact, it's actually, entirely simple. But I'm here to help you see that, because you can't see it yourself quite yet. Brace yourself, you may never hear such advice in your life ever again. Or you might, I can't predict the future. You're in sixth grade, you said. Assuming you live in the United states and weren't held back, you're probably 12, maybe 11. The problem is, the human brain isn't fully developed until a person hits the age of about 25. This means, without debate, that your brain unable to fully grasp what being in a relationship actually entails, what it means, what the consequences are, and so forth. You can't even fathom it, my dear. I couldn't at your age; no one can. You've just begun to hit puberty at this point in your very young, completely normal life. Certain hormones are now being developed by your body that, up until puberty began, your body did not produce. Let me explain, in simple terms, what this means: these new hormones are giving you fuzzy feelings for boys, but these feelings are not what people with fully developed brains call "love." Love means being self sacrificing, compromising, giving and taking, communicating clearly and honestly, and so much more. What you're feeling is a part of love-romance-but it's not all there is to love. It's actually just a few simple chemicals being released in your brain: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and few others. Your brain releases those chemicals when, say, you see a boy you like, and those chemicals make you feel all fuzzy inside. In fact, (brace yourself,) there's nothing inherently special about the boys you like, or the boys that like you; in fact, they're also, entirely normal, and aside from a few minor differences in character, completely like most other boys their age. Had you been born in another town, gone to another school, you would have gotten the same fuzzy feeling about whatever boy you thought you liked at that school. You see? I'm not saying this to make you feel insignificant, but perhaps the insight will make moving easier for you. The next place your militant parents settle down in will also have a middle school, with a bunch of normal 11-14 year old boys and girls, all doing the exact same things the kids at your school do right now. Does that put things in perspective for you? The world is a very, very big place, and it's home to billions upon billions of people. Your situation is far from being a needle in a hay stack; it's more like a blade of grass, in a vast field of foliage. The feelings you're feeling aren't uncommon or complicated, they just feel that way to you. (Now, really brace yourself, because this is going to get uncomfortable.) We, as people, tend to think that we're special. Each one of us a unique snowflake, drifting about in big blue sky, that exists solely to show the world how special we are. The problem is, the other seven billions snowflakes (people) think exactly like we do, and in this way, we are all the same. We think our problems are new problems that no one has ever dealt with before, and no one else could possibly understand the pain and suffering we're going through. We all think this way, by nature; but it's simply naive. Heartache and suffering have existed since people existed, and possibly before then. Your situation may not be ideal to you, but once you come to terms with the fact that life isn't ideal for anyone, you might actually feel comfort. The easiest way to cope with our many problems, is to accept them for what they are: a part of the human experience. Natural, normal, repeating generation after generation without end. Again, these are concepts that require some deep thought, and you might not fully grasp them quite yet. But remember them. With time, as you grow, think about them more, and you will find peace with your life. And remember this: although you're stuck (for now) on a giant rock hurling around the sun at an incredible speed, you're not alone. With billions of other people stuck here with you, you'll never be without friends.
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Fun_125
I personally think that when you ARE ready then go for it! As long as the person you like isn't a jerk to anyone or you go for it! Just don't get too serious. It's middle school. Good luck!
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Error44
"Lulu335" wrote:I live in a military family, which means we have to move A LOT. I'm halfway through 6th grade, and I'm really stressed out. The reason is because I have a guy who really likes me, and we liked each other back in the 5th grade, and he's even got me presents and everything, but now I'm starting to doubt whether I still like him or not. And he is a great guy; he's silly, funny, kind- but I just don't know if he's the right guy for me. Plus there's a friend of mine who I know likes me as more than a friend, and he's a great guy, too. I really need advise!!I know, it is too late but I think you should not go for a deeper relationship, don't make it hard for yourself and try to be his just friend because you are so young .
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Error44
"queenslay173" wrote:I was at school when I noticed people started to tell me this boy liked me and I thought it was cool because I'm used to that type of stuff then we started to dated in October we broke up right before christmas and it was so strange. we got back together in the beginning of January and we broke up again on the 4 my friends are really mad at me and he seemed really upset I like him but I just don't want to be with him anymore what should I do ?- confused lover Tell him your reasons and make it clear for both of you
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lottie_h141
lottie_h141 posted in Style:
thank u!!! acc helps so much. Obvs going to superstars aswell 
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