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Dear Dish-It, My Dad's Yelling Scares Me


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Hey ya Dish-It! Umm... I like dis gurl and I don't know if she likes me. Ya see, she's bein' nice to me and I'm not sure cause every time I'm around her I go brain-dead and can't talk. I just look every where 'cept at her, so can ya help me? Holla back, ya here.
lilkidbigheart


Dear lilkidbigheart,

Why u doubtin' yourself? It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see, this girl doesn't exactly think you're dog poop. She seems to be interested. And you've got a big-time case of the crush jitters. That means that you become about as useless as a baseball card in a Pokemon collection. Relax - she's just a girl. If you keep acting freaky and lame around her, you might scare her away. Just be yourself.


Dear Dish-It,

This boy I like is best friends with my best guy friend. So, thinking this was all ok, I told the guy I liked him online. My guy friend told me that my crush knew me, so I wasn't worried at all. Well, then he IMed me back and he said, "I don't know who u are." So I said, "Kevin (guy friend) said that you did." Turns out, Kevin was lying and now all my crush knows is that someone likes him, but he doesn't know who!
BOYZARECONFUSING


Dear BOYZARECONFUSING,

Well, Kevin's not very cool, is he? Lying, especially when someone's feelings are on the line, is a big no-no. Course, you might not wanna come down too hard on your pal Kev, cuz maybe he meant no harm, and really, you shouldn't be pumping him for info on his bud anyway. You need to just get to know your crush without putting Kevin in the middle. Keep IMing him and or chatting him up at school, or whatever and give him a chance to not only know who you are, but decide if he likes ya. Then tell him how you feel. Let me know how it goes!


Dear Dish-It,

Sorry, but I just have a lot of problems this year. Anyways, my parents have been fighting and my brother's getting in fights with my dad. How would I tell my dad not to yell because it scares me so much?
Jess


Dear Jess,

I'm sorry to hear you've got a lot of probs this year. Hang in there, girlfriend and you know you can bend my ear whenever you feel like it. Ok, about the 'rents and the fightin'... you gotta know that all families have arguments. But if it's freakin' ya out that much, you really should say something. The key to being heard - and not causing bigger fights - is to tell your 'rents how you feel at the right time. Don't throw it out there in the middle of a heated argument. That will only make it worse. Wait until you're just chillin' with your dad and then tell him something like "I get really stressed out when you yell, Dad. It makes me upset because..." Well, you don't have to use those exact words - that's just an idea. The point is to tell him how you feel when you're calm (and he's calm) and you can word it in a nice way. Good luck!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
I'm not quiet sure what's a real friend and what's a fake one anymore. I know when there's a friend who's only a school friend rather than an 'outside' friend as well, but at the same time it makes me so confused. Here's my story: There's a girl named Xian. We had a unique way of becoming friends ... but it clicked. For the whole year I've been trying to keep in contact with her ... but she's not very willing to try and put in any effort to stay in contact with me. Her personality is beyond sweet, and her skills at art are even better. If she was to have an award, it would be a giant trophy with her face plastered on it and big bold letters listing 'Nicest Girl In The World!' ... Its just ... she lied to me.  I was all about this friendship. I was ... i'll admit ... sort of a lost puppy following around her owner.  So, I got her this T-Shirt she really wanted for her birthday, and not long her birthday was mine, April First. I was expecting at least a letter, or maybe even something cheap. It didn't really matter to me.  But on my birthday she didn't even come to school. Nor when she got back did she ever say sorry, or give me any be-lated gift of any sort.  That should have been my first clue. Even my mother started catching on. My second clue was she even told me she was oblivious and wasn't good at keeping in contact. I thought she was joking. How could a friendship so sweet be tossed out just like that? My third one was near the end of school, one of her friends in elementary was bragging about the plushies she got from Xian. Apparently she had four from her.  Xian had originally told me it was AGAINST her religion to give out gifts to other people. I knew she wasn't lying about her religion in general, because I met her mom on a field trip and she was quiet ... different. But I didn't understand why Xian had gotten so many small plushies for her, and yet not a single small stamp for me? My last clue was the last day of school. She didn't even try to say good-bye or even hang out with me for that matter. I know what you're thinking. "Girl, you've gotta be kidding me if you can't see that she has no intention of being your friend!" But this girl was the nicest to me. She stood next to me during harsh times, and comforted me when I was down. She told me I was important.  And you don't get many friends to do those special things to you. It was rare to have a friend make me feel so tall and worthy.  ... So ... I can't understand ... why'd she do all that .... and suddenly ... just ... walk away ...
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
American Apparel croptop, Juicy Couture velvet sweatpants and Uggs
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Friends:
depends 
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