Dear Dish-It, My Dad's Yelling Scares Me
Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".
Hey ya Dish-It! Umm... I like dis gurl and I don't know if she likes me. Ya see, she's bein' nice to me and I'm not sure cause every time I'm around her I go brain-dead and can't talk. I just look every where 'cept at her, so can ya help me? Holla back, ya here.
Why u doubtin' yourself? It doesn't take a brain surgeon to see, this girl doesn't exactly think you're dog poop. She seems to be interested. And you've got a big-time case of the crush jitters. That means that you become about as useless as a baseball card in a Pokemon collection. Relax - she's just a girl. If you keep acting freaky and lame around her, you might scare her away. Just be yourself.
This boy I like is best friends with my best guy friend. So, thinking this was all ok, I told the guy I liked him online. My guy friend told me that my crush knew me, so I wasn't worried at all. Well, then he IMed me back and he said, "I don't know who u are." So I said, "Kevin (guy friend) said that you did." Turns out, Kevin was lying and now all my crush knows is that someone likes him, but he doesn't know who!
Well, Kevin's not very cool, is he? Lying, especially when someone's feelings are on the line, is a big no-no. Course, you might not wanna come down too hard on your pal Kev, cuz maybe he meant no harm, and really, you shouldn't be pumping him for info on his bud anyway. You need to just get to know your crush without putting Kevin in the middle. Keep IMing him and or chatting him up at school, or whatever and give him a chance to not only know who you are, but decide if he likes ya. Then tell him how you feel. Let me know how it goes!
Sorry, but I just have a lot of problems this year. Anyways, my parents have been fighting and my brother's getting in fights with my dad. How would I tell my dad not to yell because it scares me so much?
I'm sorry to hear you've got a lot of probs this year. Hang in there, girlfriend and you know you can bend my ear whenever you feel like it. Ok, about the 'rents and the fightin'... you gotta know that all families have arguments. But if it's freakin' ya out that much, you really should say something. The key to being heard - and not causing bigger fights - is to tell your 'rents how you feel at the right time. Don't throw it out there in the middle of a heated argument. That will only make it worse. Wait until you're just chillin' with your dad and then tell him something like "I get really stressed out when you yell, Dad. It makes me upset because..." Well, you don't have to use those exact words - that's just an idea. The point is to tell him how you feel when you're calm (and he's calm) and you can word it in a nice way. Good luck!
So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .
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