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Dear Dish It: How Do I Get Him To Notice Me?

Dear Dish-It,

how do i get him to notice me?

getto


Dear getto,


It’s hard when you've got a huge crush on a guy who seems to look right past you. You spend your time daydreaming wondering: "How to get him to notice me?" Well, it’s a lot easier then you might think.


Getting the attention of a teen guy doesn't take much. But he definitely WON’T notice you if you:

  • You sleep in class or don’t even bother to show up!
  • You bury your head in your books and don't look up.
  • You avoid eye contact with everyone except your friends.


  • Now, the goal of getting him to notice you is not only to get his attention, but also to get him interested in you. He WON’T be interested if you don't practice good hygiene (meaning, bathing, deoderant, brushing your hair, etc.) or don't dress to impress. So leave the sweats at home and, in school or out in public, try and wear clothes that are flattering.


    Now that you know what WON’T work, here are some tips on using the five major sense to get yourself noticed by your crush:


    Sight: Get The Look

    Dress appropriately. The right clothes don't have to cost a lot, they just have to fit and match and reflect your own personal style. Brush your hair and wear flattering makeup, too, if you’re comfortable with that. It’s not ALL about looks, but part of the initial or first attraction is definitely physical.


    Smell: Get Him With Scent

    Smell is a huge part of attraction. Create a light signature scent – a smell others can identify you with instantly. Pick a perfume that smells great on you (be sure to try a few on – different body chemistries work differently with different scents and fragrances). Or, if you can’t afford to buy a new bottle of perfume, try a great-smelling body wash from your local drugstore.


    Sound: Let Him Hear Ya

    Casual laughing and intelligent conversation can get his attention if he's in earshot. Guys like girls who tend to be in good moods and are kind to others. Don't let him hear you being mean to others or talking anyone else down. Speak up in class and participate in group activities.


    Touch: Him

    Nothing grabs a guy’s attention more than a playful touch. Don’t go overboard with this one – stick to appropriate boundaries, like a light touch on the shoulders or back, which can get him to stop what he's doing and take notice. Walk by him and casually put your hand on his back as if to gracefully pass by. Any casual touches, especially those that he may think are accidental are good touches, will work. If he's already a friend, casually grabbing his arm or brushing against in while in conversation can get his mind off the "just friends" vibe and onto the "I think I like her" train of thought.


    Taste: Bring Goodies

    Guys love food – they love love love it. Especially treats. If you make goodies or have candy with you pass them out to friends nearby and offer him one as if to just be polite. Chances are he won't forget the gesture.


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