Dear Dish-It: Did I Do The Right Thing?

Dear Dish-It,

i am trouble with this boy at my school. his name is Grant, i have a huge crush on him but he is one year older than me. i am sure that he likes me too because he is always looking at me and my friends but most of the time he is looking at me. he sends his sister to spy on me. so i went up to him and told him how I felt and he took me by the hand gently and i walked with him. he asked me out and we had our first kiss. Did i do the right thing by telling him how i felt? please right me back, thanks.


Dear PP123,

It sounds like you are doubting your actions – but that’s not a very productive thing to do! Things that happened in the past (like you revealing your feelings to your crush) should stay in the past – you shouldn’t analyze or obsess about them, because there’s no point. What’s done is done. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and repeat your successes in the present.

More specifically, I’m afraid I can’t tell you whether what you did was right or wrong,. It doesn’t sound like it was wrong to me – it sounds like you accomplished what you set out to do, didn’t you? You told your crush how you felt about him and he responded by showing you how he feels about you – and, lucky you, that response seemed to be positive! I’m not sure what you’re worried about or upset over – it sounds like everything turned out well!

My advice to you is to stop obsessing about things you cannot change – that is, things that you did or that happened in the past. That’s not a good way to live. Better to focus on the present and to continue acting (toward yourself and toward others) in a way that makes you feel happy and that helps you lead a good, progressive, contented life!

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