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How to be Happy

Being a positive person who is happy about life isn't as hard as it sounds - it's actually a choice you make. Or, more accurately, choices you make every second of your life. Think about it: you can always choose to be upset about it or choose to stay upbeat, no matter what life throws at you. Here are some other basic rules of being happy.


#1: Be Body Aware

Being aware of your body doesn't mean noticing a few extra pounds or worrying that you're too short to join the basketball team. Rather, it means that you can listen to what your body is telling you whenever you have a tough (or easy) decision to make in life. When you find yourself facing a choice, any kind of choice, try staying still and quiet for a moment and asking your body (in other words, your self), "How do I feel about this?" If you stay extra alert and aware and "listen" very closely, your heart will always give you an answer as to what the best thing to do for you is.


#2: Find Self-Esteem

When you totally, completely, absolutely love yourself, nothing in the world can take that away you. So many people waste so much of their lives trying to improve themselves or make themselves "better," just to live up to what they think other people expect of them. The truth is, you are perfect just the way you are. You were born with everything you need to make it in this world, and to be happy in your life. Yes, there's always room to grow as a person, but if you love yourself every single step of the way, you'll always be content.


#3: Detoxify

Detoxifying means cutting out the bad stuff. If you smoke or eat junk food all the time or spend hours on end in front of the TV watching movies and playing video games, then you are not giving your body or your mind a fair chance. Staying healthy, eating right and keeping away from toxins - things that are bad for you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually - give you a far better chance at happiness. This goes for "toxic" people and relationships, too. If you're not happy with your current situation, change it. If you're dealing with someone who's not a true friend, move on. Keep your environment and your body clean and healthy and you'll lead a much happier life.


#4: Stop Trying to be Right

You'll always have a different opinion, perspective or viewpoint than someone else. That's life and that's perfectly fine. The key to happiness, however, is to stop trying and changing other people's minds so that they'll agree with you. Who cares if your friend feels differently about Justin Bieber? So what if your coach thinks you're throwing the ball wrong? Rather than arguing, accept the fact that everyone thinks about everything differently. That's what makes the world such an interesting place to be!


#5: Be Present

Some people actually believe the meaning of life is in the moment. That means, stop thinking about what happened to you in the past, or what may or may not happen to you in the future - you have no control over those things, so it's best just to let them go. The only thing that really matters is RIGHT NOW - it's the only thing you have control over, the only thing you have the power the change, the only thing you can experience fully and the only thing that's truly real and truly counts. The sad can often make you sad and the future can often make you worry. It's best to just let go of those things and concentrate on the NOW - you'll be much happier for it.


#6: See the World in You

This may be a little hard to understand, but you are the whole world and the whole world is you. If you're a whiz when it comes to science, it may be easiest to see this in terms of atoms and molecules - the little tiny particles of energy that everyone and everything, from the tiniest grain of sand to the tallest mountain, is made of. If you're made of the same molecules that the tree in your backyard, the bricks in your wall and the whole entire continent you live on are made of, then that must mean that you and the whole, entire world are made of the exact same stuff! And when you think about things that way, you become a lot more confident, a lot stronger and a lot more understanding - and all of that leads to more happiness.


#7: Look for Your True Self

For most people, it takes a good part of their lives to figure this out. Some people never learn it at all. But if you can start looking for your TRUE SELF as a kid, you'll be better off, and a whole lot happier, for it in the long run. Your true self isn't your name, your age, your nationality, your race, your weight, your height, your address or even the way you would describe your personality. Your true self is your soul and your spirit. It doesn't have a name and it doesn't have a shape; in fact, it can't be described. The only way you can know your true self is to feel it inside you, vibrating and pulsing with life. When you sit still a while, quietly, and connect with your true self, your spirit, your soul, you'll feel a sense of peace and happiness wash over you. Your true self is your ultimate BFF … it's definitely worth finding YOU and forming a relationship with YOU, because that can give you the kind of happiness that will last a lifetime.


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    Wonderfulcalico
    My parents have always been aggressive and abusive and I only just noticed it a couple months ago. Over time they've gotten worse (specifically my mother). Whenever she gets mad she'll yell at us and if she gets mad enough she'll hit and push us around. Whoever we get into arguments it's always one- sided and she always wins, even if she knows she is wrong. An argument we had not to long ago was about me not taking care of myself. She looked at my hair and started to touch it and told me "Your hair isn't soft why is it so dry, it's probably because you aren't taking care of your hair." Then she goes on to tell me that she's going to cut it and all of this other stuff when she knows I'm conscious about me looking like a boy ( Used to get called a boy for having short hair). As the argument goes on, I start to tell her things that she knows she is wrong about. She proceeds to yell at me then grabs me by the face and say "If you don't lower your tone and listen to what I'm saying I'm going to knock you in the head." Then she goes on to tell me she remembers nothing I was saying and that it's a lie. She also hit me when I didn't clean the laundry room correctly and whenever she gets fed up. I'm constantly having to watch what I say and do, because I'm scared that I'm going to end up hurt. She also likes to degrade me and tell how bad I'm doing. She's said plenty of thing like when I didn't have my bed covers tucked in she yelled at me and hit me and I said "Do you expect me to just stand here and take this", and she replied saying "That's what you are supposed to do you are the child and I am the adult, you take whatever I do until I'm done." Another time is when I had my band concert and I had to pick out the right attire. When we went shopping to get the clothing I chose slacks when she liked a skirt better, we went on to fight in the store and she bought the slacks. When we got home she said to me that real girls wear skirts and dresses and boys wear slacks and pants. This hurt me because she knows I have a past with people telling me I look like a boy etc. Another time I started to sleep on the floor, because I was practicing a minimalist life. When I left my pillows on the floor she found it and questioned me on why they were there. I told her it fell of my bed when really I left it there. Later when I told my dad, he told her and she got mad because I was getting cat hair on my pillows. She then proceeded to ask why I lied and I told her sometimes lying is better then the truth (I knew she would get mad that I was sleeping on the floor so I lied) then she told me that I was never going to have a relationship, a job, or friends ( This hurt me because I don't have friends now). She's also said that I don't take care of my body because I ate two sweets in one day which lead her to banning me from Doritos and now I have to ask to get chips and any other snack. She's told me I don't take care of my teeth because I have yellow spots from using whitening toothpaste with braces on. She's told me I don't take care of my hair so I can't wash it or do any hair style or then a bun. She had lead me to starving myself (Unless she makes me eat) and cutting myself. I've just stopped caring, because what ever I do is always wrong. I never get a choice in my activities, she controls my life in fact she me just in a different body. But what is even worse is that she's turning my dad into her. Now I have a scheduled time to eat breakfast and lunch, and to go onto my electronics. I feel like I'm in a prison with my parents constantly watching over me, in fact yesterday when I was pouring my milk my mom got out a measuring cup and poured my milk into the measuring cup and said "Why isn't this a full cup" and I replied saying "Because I don't measure my milk." Then she got angry at me. There's so much I could say about her, but I'll stop. Anyways my father is always sarcastic and he doesn't realize how much it hurts me. Today I was cleaning out my bag for next school year and my dad came in and said, "Wow, you aren't even dress yet and I had to come up here to tell you how sad." Just little things like that hurt me. My little sister got mad at me last week for sitting in a certain area and she said " Why are you sitting there," and I didn't reply because I didn't want to speak to her and she then said, "Probably because you are too stupid to answer." I wanted to break down crying then and there, but I kept it in. I've limited my talking to her, because all she does is break me down. Like when there was a Proactive commercial and she said, "Ha, you need that." That hurt me because just the other my mom was telling me how I don't take care of my face and that's why I have acne. My older sister and I barely talk, because whenever I try to talk to her she's mad for what ever reason and when my parents were talking about hitting my sister she was in the corner laughing. My cat Preston is very young and I got hi,abo a year ago. I get very sad and often cry, because I've seen him turn out scared and aggressive just like me because he's been through what I have. One time he pooped in a clothes basket (It's right next to his litter box) my mom grabbed him by the neck and hit him while she smothered his face in his poop, all while yelling at him. I was going to call the Animal Protective Services, but I got too scared and I realized how lonely I would be. Please help me I'm not sure what to do anymore. Also sorry for the very long post!
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    Error101
    Error101 posted in Family Issues:
    Dear Kkmr324, I hope you get to feeling better as time goes on.  It does get better but like you said you can't actually get over it.  Losing someone to cancer is awful and I have never lost a friend and I hope I never will and I am so sorry that you did, but I have lost family to cancer and it is horrible.  I hope your okay. :(
    reply 4 days
    Kkrmr324
    Kkrmr324 posted in Family Issues:
    A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
    reply 6 days
    Kkrmr324
    Kkrmr324 posted in Family Issues:
    A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
    reply 6 days
    Tennis123
    why are you allowing that to control your happiness? why can't you have true happiness instead of chasing some dream for momentary satisfaction? You're 12. This is when your core beliefs, values, and outlooks on life start. Don't mess it up choosing to be sad over something like that.
    reply 7 days