Dear Dish-It, My New BF Wants to Do It
I went out with this guy for three months, maybe four. We were really into each other and I felt nothing could go wrong. Then all of a sudden he wants to have sex and feel me up... I am so confused - or I was - but I broke up with him. Now I miss him and maybe I should of done it, or at least done something with him. But I miss him and I don't know what to do. He's changed a lot and I think he likes me again. What should I do?
Dear *InoCenT anGeL*,
Stick with your original decision to dump the dude. Sure, you miss him but he was moving WAY too fast for you. I think you need to stick with your gut and move on. He may have changed, but then again, maybe that part of him didn't change. He may think he is ready for sex, but you obviously know you aren't. I mean, there is a lot to consider, like birth control, STD protection, etc. Hold-off on dating this guy again, especially if you're emotions are making you miss him. Missing someone doesn't mean you are ready for sex.
Well, yesterday a boy asked me out and I said yes. Today we went to the mall and then when I got home he invited me for dinner at his place and I went with him. When we got there his parents had to go to the store, so my new boyfriend and I stayed home alone. A few minutes after they left, he asked me if I would "DO IT" with him since no one was home. I said I would think about it and I still am. What should I say to him and how should I say it?
Firstly, in my humble opinion, if he can't say "have sex" or "sexual intercourse" or you can't say it in an email you aren't ready to have it. Then there is the fact that you have only been going out with this dude for one day. Isn't it a bit soon to be jumping into bed with him. I mean, what do you honestly know about him? Not much, I'll bet. And just because his 'rents aren't home doesn't make it perfect timing to get busy. What makes it perfect timing is being in love, being mature enough to handle it, being committed to each other and being ready (as in you have condoms, you're on birth control, you're seeing a gynecologist regularly and you're aware of all the risks.) If I were you I'd probably break-up with him or at the very least tell him you aren't "DOING IT" anytime soon.
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