Dear Dish-It: My Heart Hurts

Dear Dish-it,

I had to break up with my boyfriend today because he was hurting me. And it's not like I feel sick, it's just my heart hurts. I can't stop crying, and I'm wondering if I was wrong to let him go. How do I get over him???


Dear Crushed,

Try as you might, breakups are bound to happen. And whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's gonna hurt. But it IS possible to get over a broken heart - promise! Here's how …

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Throw a (Brief) Pity Party

I'm not gonna lie. The first day of a breakup is a huge, honkin' disaster. It's crucial to get those icky emotions out of your system, and the only way to do that is by experiencing them. So, for one day only, hustle home from school and dive under the covers. Chow your way through a carton of ice cream. Call your BFF and talk about how wrecked you feel. Now, bawl yourself to sleep.

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Figure it Out

Once the shock wears off, you're gonna feel mixed up about why your relationship ended. Did you do something wrong? Was there something you were supposed to say or do to stop it from happening? Don't blame yourself! To stop agonizing over every doubt-filled detail, write down five things you didn't like about dating him. Maybe he sneered at your jokes or checked out other girls. Instead of dwelling on what you could have done differently, be honest about his faults and shortcomings.

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Pamper Yourself

There's nothing like a bad breakup to cause a girl to forget how gorg she is. Reality check: you are totally foxy. To get back in touch with your hotness, tell your BFF to bring her makeup case to your casa first thing after school. Then spend the afternoon enjoying a full-on makeover. Polish your nails, gloss up your lips and get yourself totally babed out.


Get Back Out There

After a breakup it's easy to feel like there'll never be another guy in your life. It's normal to feel this way, but stop it! Go to that party tonight and talk to at least three guys. No rebounding - just focus on some nice convos so you'll see that boy really are still into you. Don't worry, there'll be tons of dating fun in your future.

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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
This is gonna be long:   I have this 'friend' Amelia. She and I bonded really fast last year and we've become inseparable.   But lately she's blowing me off and my other best friend Belen told me: Amelia is actually using you. She does this to new kids at school, especially from foreign countries. She thinks because you're Chinese and the Chinese teacher's daughter, you'll help her. She's also using you as a backup friend - a substitute. There's this new girl Daniela, who Amelia thinks is her new best friend. She thinks that when Daniela stop hanging out with her, she'll have you.   The thing is, Daniela is pretty nice and she probably doesn't know all the trouble she's causing. Belen's old 'best friend' Andrea is doing the same to her.   I also learned that Amelia is seemingly the 'most popular girl in school' because she's mean to everyone. She always passes by the little kids' classrooms and hugs them & stuff. They seem to love her, but now I know it's because they think if they're nice they won't get bullied.   Maybe she WAS using me but I dunno. Belen says that each kid in the entire school has a bad story about Amelia and something she did to them. I said, "Then how was she so nice to me last year?" Then Belen was all like, "She was using you."   I don't know if she's telling the truth. She and Amelia are deadly enemies and she might be making up the whole Amelia story just to get back at her. Although Amelia has been dropping a few signs that she IS using me as a substitute friend.   Sometimes when I walk in, she'll be like "OOOOHHH! CASSANDRA! HI! HOW ARE YOU! C'MON, LOOK AT THIS! WE'RE GONNA HAVE SOOOO MUCH FUN TOGETHER ..."   And other times I'm like, "Hey, Amelia!" and she says, "Oh. Huh? Yeah, hi ..."  Once during PE we had to sit down and on the way to the gym, she was chatting with me in a BBBBFFFF way. But then when we had to partner up she said with Andrea, Daniela and someone else who I forgot.   I don't know what to do. It's just so weird. Even though now I know she MIGHT be using me (I'm not sure if she really is) it just seems WEIRD. Even for a supposed ##### she was my possibly fake best friend for the whole of last year. It's WEIRD to suddenly switch.   I don't even know if this should be happening. We've only just started 5th grade. Doesn't this WEIRD #### start happening around middle school? Thank you, everyone who will help in advance. P.S. Please include flirting advice. - A Girl Who Might Just Lose Her Possibly Fake Best Friend
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Okay I have school today and my hair is not sitting how I want it to. But my mum says it is sitting fine WHEN ITS NOT! SHE IS NOT LISTENING what do i do?
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