Dear Dish-It: My Heart Hurts
I had to break up with my boyfriend today because he was hurting me. And it's not like I feel sick, it's just my heart hurts. I can't stop crying, and I'm wondering if I was wrong to let him go. How do I get over him???
Getting Over a Breakup
Try as you might, breakups are bound to happen. And whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's gonna hurt. But it IS possible to get over a broken heart - promise! Here's how …
Throw a (Brief) Pity Party
I'm not gonna lie. The first day of a breakup is a huge, honkin' disaster. It's crucial to get those icky emotions out of your system, and the only way to do that is by experiencing them. So, for one day only, hustle home from school and dive under the covers. Chow your way through a carton of ice cream. Call your BFF and talk about how wrecked you feel. Now, bawl yourself to sleep.
Figure it Out
Once the shock wears off, you're gonna feel mixed up about why your relationship ended. Did you do something wrong? Was there something you were supposed to say or do to stop it from happening? Don't blame yourself! To stop agonizing over every doubt-filled detail, write down five things you didn't like about dating him. Maybe he sneered at your jokes or checked out other girls. Instead of dwelling on what you could have done differently, be honest about his faults and shortcomings.
There's nothing like a bad breakup to cause a girl to forget how gorg she is. Reality check: you are totally foxy. To get back in touch with your hotness, tell your BFF to bring her makeup case to your casa first thing after school. Then spend the afternoon enjoying a full-on makeover. Polish your nails, gloss up your lips and get yourself totally babed out.
Get Back Out There
After a breakup it's easy to feel like there'll never be another guy in your life. It's normal to feel this way, but stop it! Go to that party tonight and talk to at least three guys. No rebounding - just focus on some nice convos so you'll see that boy really are still into you. Don't worry, there'll be tons of dating fun in your future.
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