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Dear Dish-It: My Heart Hurts

Dear Dish-it,


I had to break up with my boyfriend today because he was hurting me. And it's not like I feel sick, it's just my heart hurts. I can't stop crying, and I'm wondering if I was wrong to let him go. How do I get over him???


Crushed


Dear Crushed,


Try as you might, breakups are bound to happen. And whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's gonna hurt. But it IS possible to get over a broken heart - promise! Here's how …


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Throw a (Brief) Pity Party

I'm not gonna lie. The first day of a breakup is a huge, honkin' disaster. It's crucial to get those icky emotions out of your system, and the only way to do that is by experiencing them. So, for one day only, hustle home from school and dive under the covers. Chow your way through a carton of ice cream. Call your BFF and talk about how wrecked you feel. Now, bawl yourself to sleep.


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Figure it Out

Once the shock wears off, you're gonna feel mixed up about why your relationship ended. Did you do something wrong? Was there something you were supposed to say or do to stop it from happening? Don't blame yourself! To stop agonizing over every doubt-filled detail, write down five things you didn't like about dating him. Maybe he sneered at your jokes or checked out other girls. Instead of dwelling on what you could have done differently, be honest about his faults and shortcomings.


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Pamper Yourself

There's nothing like a bad breakup to cause a girl to forget how gorg she is. Reality check: you are totally foxy. To get back in touch with your hotness, tell your BFF to bring her makeup case to your casa first thing after school. Then spend the afternoon enjoying a full-on makeover. Polish your nails, gloss up your lips and get yourself totally babed out.


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Get Back Out There

After a breakup it's easy to feel like there'll never be another guy in your life. It's normal to feel this way, but stop it! Go to that party tonight and talk to at least three guys. No rebounding - just focus on some nice convos so you'll see that boy really are still into you. Don't worry, there'll be tons of dating fun in your future.


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HannahG posted in Style:
Well to the people above, I shop at stores like Hollister, Forever 21, and H&M, but it's still a continuing problem because I have no way of telling if it's too kiddish. 
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glitterbomb911
glitterbomb911 posted in Style:
I think they should be aloud to wear make up when ever they want and if the parents allow them to because its not just the child's choice it's also the parents xxx
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my ears are pierced but i don't wear earrings anymore but i wanna get a septum piercing but idk if its gonna work with my face lol  [s:p/10f2]
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Your parents clearly hate you... Just kidding but maybe its time to talk to them and see if they understand where you are coming from.
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Lynx_The_Lynx posted in Friends:
Okay, since I'm a girl and have helped many of my guy friends with this (even though I think they r too young for this but meh whatever), I can give you some advice.  1) Don't be mean or nice. You have to be yourself. Don't be nasty to her to get her to like you (it won't work), nor should you be Mr Nice Guy. Don't be there to carry her bag for her just yet.  2) If you want her attention, be creative. Writing a song is a good idea, but don't dedicate it to her. Just pretend you're aiming it at the general female population of your class. You can tell her that it's for her later, when she's into you. 3) Find out what she likes. Does she play instruments? Does she do sports? Does she fangirl over stuff? Does she play video games? Find out and DISCREETLY get her to know that you like it too, if you do of course. This is what worked for one of my friends: 1) Stay low until the perfect moment. If she falls over, come over and help her up, smile at her and blow her away with your charms, and then proceed to say hi and ask for her name as if you don't know her. It is creepy when a random guy knows your name and says it to you.... it just is idk. Walk away without looking back. This will make her curious for this stranger who helped her up. Do this for whatever situation. BUT JUST ONCE. DO NOT REPEAT. 2) If this happens again (she falls over etc), be sure to be really obvious that you're not going to help her up. Walk by without sparing a single glance. She will be reminded of you and wonder why didn't you help her. This is good - you want her to think of you. 3) Do something sweet for her. For example, if she likes a particular drink or cheap snack, buy it for her and walk up to her. Give it to her, but say something like "Hey _________! Here you go. I accidentally bought the wrong flavour and didn't want to throw it away. Don't worry - I didn't open it. Do you want it?" She should say yes, and ask for your name to say thank you. That's when you tell her. 4) Start to wave to her in the hallways and say hi sometimes. Don't do this too much though. Sometimes, if she waves first, ignore her. This should make her want your attention more. 5) Do something sweet again (like the song), but aim it not directly towards her (like I already said before - aim it towards girls in general). If you want some more, tell me! I hope this helped, but it might not - depends on what kind of girl she is.
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