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Dear Dish-It: My Heart Hurts

Dear Dish-it,


I had to break up with my boyfriend today because he was hurting me. And it's not like I feel sick, it's just my heart hurts. I can't stop crying, and I'm wondering if I was wrong to let him go. How do I get over him???


Crushed


Dear Crushed,


Try as you might, breakups are bound to happen. And whether you're the dumper or the dumpee, it's gonna hurt. But it IS possible to get over a broken heart - promise! Here's how …


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Throw a (Brief) Pity Party

I'm not gonna lie. The first day of a breakup is a huge, honkin' disaster. It's crucial to get those icky emotions out of your system, and the only way to do that is by experiencing them. So, for one day only, hustle home from school and dive under the covers. Chow your way through a carton of ice cream. Call your BFF and talk about how wrecked you feel. Now, bawl yourself to sleep.


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Figure it Out

Once the shock wears off, you're gonna feel mixed up about why your relationship ended. Did you do something wrong? Was there something you were supposed to say or do to stop it from happening? Don't blame yourself! To stop agonizing over every doubt-filled detail, write down five things you didn't like about dating him. Maybe he sneered at your jokes or checked out other girls. Instead of dwelling on what you could have done differently, be honest about his faults and shortcomings.


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Pamper Yourself

There's nothing like a bad breakup to cause a girl to forget how gorg she is. Reality check: you are totally foxy. To get back in touch with your hotness, tell your BFF to bring her makeup case to your casa first thing after school. Then spend the afternoon enjoying a full-on makeover. Polish your nails, gloss up your lips and get yourself totally babed out.


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Get Back Out There

After a breakup it's easy to feel like there'll never be another guy in your life. It's normal to feel this way, but stop it! Go to that party tonight and talk to at least three guys. No rebounding - just focus on some nice convos so you'll see that boy really are still into you. Don't worry, there'll be tons of dating fun in your future.


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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
This is a really weird situation... Maybe she's feeling sorry for you?
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AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
I'm not quiet sure what's a real friend and what's a fake one anymore. I know when there's a friend who's only a school friend rather than an 'outside' friend as well, but at the same time it makes me so confused. Here's my story: There's a girl named Xian. We had a unique way of becoming friends ... but it clicked. For the whole year I've been trying to keep in contact with her ... but she's not very willing to try and put in any effort to stay in contact with me. Her personality is beyond sweet, and her skills at art are even better. If she was to have an award, it would be a giant trophy with her face plastered on it and big bold letters listing 'Nicest Girl In The World!' ... Its just ... she lied to me.  I was all about this friendship. I was ... i'll admit ... sort of a lost puppy following around her owner.  So, I got her this T-Shirt she really wanted for her birthday, and not long her birthday was mine, April First. I was expecting at least a letter, or maybe even something cheap. It didn't really matter to me.  But on my birthday she didn't even come to school. Nor when she got back did she ever say sorry, or give me any be-lated gift of any sort.  That should have been my first clue. Even my mother started catching on. My second clue was she even told me she was oblivious and wasn't good at keeping in contact. I thought she was joking. How could a friendship so sweet be tossed out just like that? My third one was near the end of school, one of her friends in elementary was bragging about the plushies she got from Xian. Apparently she had four from her.  Xian had originally told me it was AGAINST her religion to give out gifts to other people. I knew she wasn't lying about her religion in general, because I met her mom on a field trip and she was quiet ... different. But I didn't understand why Xian had gotten so many small plushies for her, and yet not a single small stamp for me? My last clue was the last day of school. She didn't even try to say good-bye or even hang out with me for that matter. I know what you're thinking. "Girl, you've gotta be kidding me if you can't see that she has no intention of being your friend!" But this girl was the nicest to me. She stood next to me during harsh times, and comforted me when I was down. She told me I was important.  And you don't get many friends to do those special things to you. It was rare to have a friend make me feel so tall and worthy.  ... So ... I can't understand ... why'd she do all that .... and suddenly ... just ... walk away ...
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
American Apparel croptop, Juicy Couture velvet sweatpants and Uggs
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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