Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It: What's A Real Date Like?

Dear Dish-it,

I have never been on a date and I was wondering what a REAL date was like. I have only seen or heard of TV ones. What is a date actually like?

hippie girl

Dear hippie girl,

Even though Hollywood (meaning TV shows and movies) tends to make reality seem better than it really is (you know, with candles and roses and romance), some of the dates you’ve probably seen on your fave TV shows or in books you’ve read are likely close to what some “real dates” kids your age might be going on are like.

The truth is, a date is what you (and the person you’re dating) make it. If you wanna make it formal, then you might go to a restaurant for dinner or to the theatre to a watch a movie or a show. Many dates are a lot more casual than that, though, especially when you’re a kid and need to rely on your mom or dad – or the bus – to get to where you’re going. A casual date could be meeting up at the park or a local hangout for a slice of pizza or, if your parents are cool with it, chilling at your house or your date’s place and watching a DVD or playing video games.

Another dating option that’s a little more casual (and takes a lot more of the pressure off) is doing something in a group. You may go to an event together that you know your friends will be at, like a school dance or a basketball game. The reality is, most kids in elementary or middle school aren’t likely to go on a date just the two of them; if they do, I’m guessing their parents will want to come along!

More Great Advice:
33 Comments

latest videos

F1122496189484

Should Girls Ask Boys Out?

  • Yeah, why shouldn't they?
  • If she knows that he's interested in her.
  • No. Guys should ask girls out.
  • I don't think it matters either way.

related stories

windgirl asks: "I want to ask this guy to the dance but I'm scared of what he will say.Should I w...
Zero asks: "Last year I got a love note from some one. I know who it is. I don't know how to apro...

Dear Dish-It in the forums

horroranimegirl
i need help.   i have really bad anxiety and im depressed all the time.   i dont have anyone that im close to.  its just hard for me to trust people      im really bad at comveying my feelings    id ask someone for help but as i said i dont really get close to anyone     i almost never talk and when i do i say few words and act happy    i also compulively lie so no one knows what im really feeling  i cant express my feelings        i dont have anyone that i trust and its really hard       i thought about killing myself but im afraid to die so i never do anything      since i cant ask anyone in real life im hoping that someone on here can help me           i dont have any interests and im depressed and its almost impossible for me to tell people about it      what do i do?
reply about 7 hours
-Karpov-
-Karpov- posted in Friends:
It's normal to feel jealousy, and it's not really too bad a thing unless you let it get to you and cause problems. I get jealous as hell but I try to avoid letting it affect the way I hold a conversation, for example. 
reply about 7 hours
SydneyWavsYou
SydneyWavsYou posted in Friends:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a week now (It's a week today ♥) and I've noticed how Jealous I get... I trust him, but I don't trust girls... Is that a bad thing? He's my first actual boyfriend so I'm not use to this. 
reply about 8 hours
shygirl03
shygirl03 posted in Friends:
So there's this guy in my class and he sits next to me. Correction he HAS to sit next to me, So my classroom as a table with 2 desks connected to make a huge desk but separated holders things to put our stuff in. So this guy is really the class clown of the class and he can be a jerk when he wants to be but sometimes can be a really nice guy. He likes to talk to me and he "Occasionally" Touches my hand or arm in a friendly way.. I think :3 but anyways he teases me ... A LOT but he sometimes insults me but when he sees my face not cracking into a smile. he instantly says sorry or didnt mean it like that kind of way and i smile. So does he like me? Or he just being a regular guy? 
reply about 9 hours
Mrawsomegamer
My best friend is autistic and mild to moderate on the spectrum. He has a daily routine and obviously keeps to it.  His sister who's 18 told me about his condition. And she spoke to me about how much help he needs around the house. My friend doesn't actually need all that much help, as his autism isn't that bad compared to others I know. He mainly suffers reading people's emotions, and having the confidence to make friends and talk aloud. But his sister did complain that he was always the needy one around the house when she was younger.  What you've got to understand is that autism affects people in different ways, no autistic person is the same, and so requires a different level of work and help towards them. Your brothers didn't ask for this. They were born like that. I know how it feels though, feeling left out. And feeling like your parents don't love you. They really do. They just don't have time to express that love, which is kinda sad really.  Maybe you could get involved in helping your brothers out. Depending on how old they are, you can educate them on reading emotions, and things like that. They're great life skills. Or simply just being there for them is something you can do. Autism itself is a pretty frustrating thing for the person who has it. My friend hates it, but tries to live with it as a gift. Just a little support can go a long way.
reply about 11 hours

play online games