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Dear Dish-It: Should I Write Him A Note?

Dear Dish-It,

I want to ask this guy to the dance but I'm scared of what he will say.Should I write him a note or should I ask he?And idk if he would want to go with me. Thank you!

windgirl


Dear windgirl,


When it comes to asking a guy out, whether it’s on a date or to a school dance, the most important thing is to TALK TO HIM. NEVER use an indirect approach to ask a guy out, EVER! This includes notes, friends asking for you, etc. Most every guy prefers the direct approach. If you give a guy a note he doesn't know you or isn't sure who it's from he will most likely ignore it. If you have your friends ask him it's not only a turn off but can be very intimidating, especially when there girls and even more when they come up to him in a group (this normally is a sign of trouble for guys and he'll think he did something wrong). Unless he is desperate or you're drop-dead gorgeous he'll most likely turn you down. If you're too shy to ask him with your words, you can turn an indirect approach into a direct one, such as giving him a letter yourself. This is not recommended as a good idea but it's best if you're too shy, he just might understand that your shy and if he says no it will be more gentle. Although some guys might think shy girls are cute. The direct approach is always better, though.


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moongemowl
moongemowl posted in Friends:
Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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jordand08
Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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jordand08
You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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