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Dear Dish-It: Should I Write Him A Note?

Dear Dish-It,

I want to ask this guy to the dance but I'm scared of what he will say.Should I write him a note or should I ask he?And idk if he would want to go with me. Thank you!

windgirl


Dear windgirl,


When it comes to asking a guy out, whether it’s on a date or to a school dance, the most important thing is to TALK TO HIM. NEVER use an indirect approach to ask a guy out, EVER! This includes notes, friends asking for you, etc. Most every guy prefers the direct approach. If you give a guy a note he doesn't know you or isn't sure who it's from he will most likely ignore it. If you have your friends ask him it's not only a turn off but can be very intimidating, especially when there girls and even more when they come up to him in a group (this normally is a sign of trouble for guys and he'll think he did something wrong). Unless he is desperate or you're drop-dead gorgeous he'll most likely turn you down. If you're too shy to ask him with your words, you can turn an indirect approach into a direct one, such as giving him a letter yourself. This is not recommended as a good idea but it's best if you're too shy, he just might understand that your shy and if he says no it will be more gentle. Although some guys might think shy girls are cute. The direct approach is always better, though.


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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
This is a really weird situation... Maybe she's feeling sorry for you?
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AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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