Dear Dish-It: Should I Write Him A Note?

Love & Dating Advice

Dear Dish-It,

I want to ask this guy to the dance but I'm scared of what he will say.Should I write him a note or should I ask he?And idk if he would want to go with me. Thank you!

windgirl

Dear windgirl,

When it comes to asking a guy out, whether it’s on a date or to a school dance, the most important thing is to TALK TO HIM. NEVER use an indirect approach to ask a guy out, EVER! This includes notes, friends asking for you, etc. Most every guy prefers the direct approach. If you give a guy a note he doesn't know you or isn't sure who it's from he will most likely ignore it. If you have your friends ask him it's not only a turn off but can be very intimidating, especially when there girls and even more when they come up to him in a group (this normally is a sign of trouble for guys and he'll think he did something wrong). Unless he is desperate or you're drop-dead gorgeous he'll most likely turn you down. If you're too shy to ask him with your words, you can turn an indirect approach into a direct one, such as giving him a letter yourself. This is not recommended as a good idea but it's best if you're too shy, he just might understand that your shy and if he says no it will be more gentle. Although some guys might think shy girls are cute. The direct approach is always better, though.