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Dear Dish-It, I Want My Sister's Guy


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I really could use your advice. Right now I am with this guy, well... not actually "with" him. You see, me and him have been on-and-off for the past year. He cheated on me once but I took him back. He told me that he regretted cheating on me and that I was the best thing that has happened to him. Things changed and we are really happy together. We LOVE each other. But the thing is, summer is just around the corner and I really won't be able to see much of him. I love him but a part of me thinks that he is gonna do me wrong again. He thinks that's crazy but he did it once, he might do it again. I really never believed the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Maybe I'm just being paranoid. Seriously I don't know what's up with me. Dish-it, I could sure use your advice.
Loving_Angel


Dear Loving_Angel,

This is tough. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship and once it's gone, it's way-hard to get back. You love this guy, and he may seem honest when he says he'd never cheat again, but for some reason you still don't believe him. Now, I'm not a big believer in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" either... but I am a big believer in the saying "Trust your gut." Your gut says this guy can't be trusted. Maybe you should tell him you need "a break" this summer and take the time apart to really think about things. Good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

My best friend is in love with a guy but she is very shy and doesn't know how to talk to him. We planned to have a party at my house so she could get all hyper and show him who she really was, but there was one BIG problem. One of our friends started flirting with him, touching, feeling, massaging. . .you get the picture. She knew our plan, she knew exactly what we were gonna do, but she couldn't keep her hands off of him! It was gross. Even I didn't like it. It really hurt my friend. What should I do? And what should my friend do to get him to notice her? How should she talk to him? What should she say?
Princess Buffy


Dear Princess Buffy,

Whoa! This girl you say is "one of our friends" is no one's friend. If I were you, I would tell her as much. Even if the "friend" liked the same guy as your other friend, it's not cool to just make a play for him like that. She should have told your friend that she was interested too, not just molested the crush infront of her. I would tell your "friend" all of this and then stop hanging around her. With friends like that, who needs enemies? And as for your burned friend - the one you were throwing the party for - tell her not to worry about it too much and, unless this girl has the hottie into a relationship already, your friend should go for him. Just hang out with him sans bad-friend and let him know she's interested.


Dear Dish-It,

Hi, I am 14 and my sis is 17. She is dating an 18 year-old guy. I have very nice conversations with him and I have a mega-crush on him. I'm wondering if I should tell him and see if any thing happens or just forget it. Please write back asap!
i love ben


Dear i love ben,

What did your sister ever do to you that would make you think it's cool to steal her man? Your sister is your family and family is way more important than any crush on some random guy. I hate to be harsh, but you should not only forget about making a play for your sister's man, you should also feel pretty low about even considering it. If this guy is all that like you seem to think, you should be happy that he likes your sister and that she's got such a great guy. Now try to find one of your own.


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    astucieuse331
    astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
    I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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    ts01
    ts01 posted in Friends:
    im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
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    lolflowergirl
    lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
    i feel alone too
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    kayme123
    kayme123 posted in Friends:
    i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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    Irene_love
    Irene_love posted in Style:
    "1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
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