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Dear Dish-It, I Want My Sister's Guy

Dec 27, 2006

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

I really could use your advice. Right now I am with this guy, well... not actually "with" him. You see, me and him have been on-and-off for the past year. He cheated on me once but I took him back. He told me that he regretted cheating on me and that I was the best thing that has happened to him. Things changed and we are really happy together. We LOVE each other. But the thing is, summer is just around the corner and I really won't be able to see much of him. I love him but a part of me thinks that he is gonna do me wrong again. He thinks that's crazy but he did it once, he might do it again. I really never believed the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Maybe I'm just being paranoid. Seriously I don't know what's up with me. Dish-it, I could sure use your advice.
Loving_Angel


Dear Loving_Angel,

This is tough. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship and once it's gone, it's way-hard to get back. You love this guy, and he may seem honest when he says he'd never cheat again, but for some reason you still don't believe him. Now, I'm not a big believer in the saying "Once a cheater, always a cheater" either... but I am a big believer in the saying "Trust your gut." Your gut says this guy can't be trusted. Maybe you should tell him you need "a break" this summer and take the time apart to really think about things. Good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

My best friend is in love with a guy but she is very shy and doesn't know how to talk to him. We planned to have a party at my house so she could get all hyper and show him who she really was, but there was one BIG problem. One of our friends started flirting with him, touching, feeling, massaging. . .you get the picture. She knew our plan, she knew exactly what we were gonna do, but she couldn't keep her hands off of him! It was gross. Even I didn't like it. It really hurt my friend. What should I do? And what should my friend do to get him to notice her? How should she talk to him? What should she say?
Princess Buffy


Dear Princess Buffy,

Whoa! This girl you say is "one of our friends" is no one's friend. If I were you, I would tell her as much. Even if the "friend" liked the same guy as your other friend, it's not cool to just make a play for him like that. She should have told your friend that she was interested too, not just molested the crush infront of her. I would tell your "friend" all of this and then stop hanging around her. With friends like that, who needs enemies? And as for your burned friend - the one you were throwing the party for - tell her not to worry about it too much and, unless this girl has the hottie into a relationship already, your friend should go for him. Just hang out with him sans bad-friend and let him know she's interested.


Dear Dish-It,

Hi, I am 14 and my sis is 17. She is dating an 18 year-old guy. I have very nice conversations with him and I have a mega-crush on him. I'm wondering if I should tell him and see if any thing happens or just forget it. Please write back asap!
i love ben


Dear i love ben,

What did your sister ever do to you that would make you think it's cool to steal her man? Your sister is your family and family is way more important than any crush on some random guy. I hate to be harsh, but you should not only forget about making a play for your sister's man, you should also feel pretty low about even considering it. If this guy is all that like you seem to think, you should be happy that he likes your sister and that she's got such a great guy. Now try to find one of your own.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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