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Dear Dish-It: I'm So Stressed!

Dear Dish-It,

I’m not uber popular but I’m not a loser at school, either. Let’s just say I’m the average girl who likes to stay out of trouble. Well, that all changed when I started Grade 7. There are so many projects, book reports … plus all my rotary homework! Then there’s this guy who likes my best friend, which really sucks :( And the sad part is that I’m not even in high school yet! If I can’t handle all this love, homework and stress now, how will I handle it in Grade 8?!? Please, please help!

so confusing!!


Dear so confusing,


Sounds like you’ve got a lot of stuff on your plate and it’s really stressing you out! It’s totally normally, though – pretty much everyone gets stressed now and then. The difference is that different people handle stress in many different ways. Here are five steps you can take when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed that should help you deal with the feeling and relax.


Step 1: Get Support

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Reach out to the people who care about you. Talk to your mom or dad, a school counselor or a coach. And don't forget about your friends. They might be worried about the same test or have some good advice for you.








Step 2: Don’t Freak Out!

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It's easy to let your feelings go wild when you're upset. Notice your feelings and name them; for example, "I am so angry!" And say or think about why you feel that way. Then, find a way to calm down and get past the upset feelings and find a way to express them. Do breathing exercises, listen to music, write in a journal, play with a pet, go for a walk or a bike ride, or do whatever helps you shift to a better mood.








Step 3: Don’t Take It Out On Yourself

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Sometimes when kids are stressed and upset they take it out on themselves. That's not a good idea. Remember that there are always people to help you. Don't take it out on yourself. Be good to yourself and ask for the helping hand or pat on the back that you need to get you through a tough situation.








Step 4: Try To Solve The Problem

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After you're calm and have support from adults and friends, it's time to get down to business. You need to figure out what the problem is. Even if you can't solve all of it, maybe you can begin by solving a piece of it.








Step 5: Stay Positive & Know It’s Gonna Get Better Soon

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It may not seem like it when you're in the middle a stressful situation, but stress does go away, often when you figure out the problem and start working on solving it.









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    Heyyyyy_
    Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
    i mean, theres no way reason for her to get upset bc u hav to think about school before anything social. so all u hav to do is tell her hey im sry but i rly hav to work on school right now and once i get tht situated then maybe i can come over to ur house and stay the night.
    reply 13 minutes
    BeautifulPixels
    My best friend is always wanting me to spend the night at her house, but because she keeps irritating me about it, i can't get my school work done and now i'm falling behind. How do I tell her how I feel without hurting her feelings?
    reply 18 minutes
    Heyyyyy_
    Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
    well it most likely depends on y they get mad at u in the first place.
    reply about 2 hours
    nini8988
    nini8988 posted in Friends:
    Almost every time I'm in gym my friends end up getting mad at me and they don't talk to me and then they forgive me and something else happens to ruin it
    reply about 3 hours
    Kirsteeeeen
    Kirsteeeeen posted in Friends:
    "sparkly_chick" wrote: I keep saying stupid things and messing up with my friends and now they hate me. /.\ Don't say "they don't deserve you" or something, because I don't deserve them. They're great friends and I'm just... stupid. I'm sorry dear but things do get better and its not your fault. Everyone messes up, its just a part a life. If you need to talk and explain to me with more info you can, I'm here. :)    ^^This. You're not stupid either. Everybody makes mistakes and messes things up.
    reply about 11 hours

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