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Dear Dish-It: I'm So Stressed!

Dear Dish-It,

I’m not uber popular but I’m not a loser at school, either. Let’s just say I’m the average girl who likes to stay out of trouble. Well, that all changed when I started Grade 7. There are so many projects, book reports … plus all my rotary homework! Then there’s this guy who likes my best friend, which really sucks :( And the sad part is that I’m not even in high school yet! If I can’t handle all this love, homework and stress now, how will I handle it in Grade 8?!? Please, please help!

so confusing!!


Dear so confusing,


Sounds like you’ve got a lot of stuff on your plate and it’s really stressing you out! It’s totally normally, though – pretty much everyone gets stressed now and then. The difference is that different people handle stress in many different ways. Here are five steps you can take when you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed that should help you deal with the feeling and relax.


Step 1: Get Support

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Reach out to the people who care about you. Talk to your mom or dad, a school counselor or a coach. And don't forget about your friends. They might be worried about the same test or have some good advice for you.








Step 2: Don’t Freak Out!

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It's easy to let your feelings go wild when you're upset. Notice your feelings and name them; for example, "I am so angry!" And say or think about why you feel that way. Then, find a way to calm down and get past the upset feelings and find a way to express them. Do breathing exercises, listen to music, write in a journal, play with a pet, go for a walk or a bike ride, or do whatever helps you shift to a better mood.








Step 3: Don’t Take It Out On Yourself

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Sometimes when kids are stressed and upset they take it out on themselves. That's not a good idea. Remember that there are always people to help you. Don't take it out on yourself. Be good to yourself and ask for the helping hand or pat on the back that you need to get you through a tough situation.








Step 4: Try To Solve The Problem

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After you're calm and have support from adults and friends, it's time to get down to business. You need to figure out what the problem is. Even if you can't solve all of it, maybe you can begin by solving a piece of it.








Step 5: Stay Positive & Know It’s Gonna Get Better Soon

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It may not seem like it when you're in the middle a stressful situation, but stress does go away, often when you figure out the problem and start working on solving it.









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    How Do You Beat Stress?

    • I go for a jog or play a sport.
    • I watch a funny movie and zone out for awhile.
    • Chocolate. Lots of chocolate.
    • I talk to a friend about what's stressin' me.

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    aftershock
    aftershock posted in Style:
    Thanks all of you guys for your responses. It seems many of you don't share pics to get help from friends when you're choosing. Thats OK. If anyone does want to go on the VIP list to be the first to try the new app then feel free to complete the info form here: http://goo.gl/forms/FOiKWa4DoAQHxtOx1 
    reply about 15 hours
    CoolerThanMyself
    I'm a 12 year old girl with really strict parents! I do chores( even handling BLEACH sometimes) , I take care of my little brother, I'm in top set for all my classes- even on the gifted and talented register and I've only ever had 1 detention- and that was their fault anyway bc I was late( they drive). But, I'm still NEVER allowed out with my friends! My friends are all in top sets as well, are well behaved and all we literally would do is window shopping. I mean, there are my age smoking shisha and doing #####- they should be lucky I'm not a delinquent! But my parents always say I can't hang out. Not because they're worried about my safety, they just dont want me to go out.! Even sleepovers, my parents always say no because they ' haven't met the parents" but they make NO effort to do so. I'm losing out on knowing my friends better and whilst they're all making best friends, at school I'm just the person in the background- the left out friend. It hurts and most of the time I wish I was fostered or something. How can I make them loosen up? ( don't say anything about sneaking out because I chose life)
    reply 2 days
    Corps
    Corps posted in Style:
    Thank You Mate :)
    reply 2 days
    Kirsteeeeen
    Kirsteeeeen posted in Friends:
    Is there a particular reason or situation causing you to feel this way? I can't provide much advice other than talk to them about it. Communication is important.
    reply 3 days
    Arenl
    Arenl posted in Friends:
    He is a jerk, but then what ?? He is your best friend . Maybe you should tell him to sleep for an extra hour. It may be a lack of sleep.
    reply 3 days