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Dear Dish-It,

Hi! I like this girl that was in my class last year. Every time I'm around her she is mean or she makes fun of me. Does she like me or think I'm an outcast? I think of her as the perfect girl. Please help me. Plz!
mUdd


Dear mUdd,

So, let's see if I understand you... every time you are near this girl from your class she makes fun of you? She's mean and calls you names but you think she's the perfect girl? Last time I checked the definition of perfect did not include the descriptives mean, rude or cruel - and that's exactly what this girl is (to you anyway.) Turn your gaze towards a different cutie cuz you're just in for major heartbreak with the "perfect girl."


Dear Dish-It,

I have been getting to know this guy. We are friends and we're thinking about becoming a couple. But I was at his house yesterday and his ex-girlfriend (my friend) was there and he was flirting with her and she was flirting with him. She knows her ex-boyfriend & I are "involved." What do I do?
PrettyKitty9988


Dear PrettyKitty9988,

It sounds like it's not just your girlfriend that you have to worry about but also this hottie you are looking to hook up with. If you and he have been thinking about becoming a couple, then why is he flirting with his ex? I would definitely talk to this guy and decide whether you are both on the same page when it comes to dating one another. Cuz it seems to me that he's still interested in the last chapter of his dating history.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this girl but I have a girlfriend already. I hardly see my girl and we hardly talk. Should I dump her and date the other girl? If so, what should I say to the other girl to make her like me? Also how should I dump my girlfriend?
prchulo


Dear prchulo,

If you are considering making a move on a girl other than your girlfriend, then please do your girl the courtesy of breaking up with her first. The last thing a girl needs is to find out that her boyfriend is making goo-goo eyes at someone else behind her back. She might be upset but she will deal a lot better if you just tell her what's up. Tell her that you don't think things are working since you hardly see one another and you think it would be best if you just moved on. You don't have to tell her that you really just wanna dump her to get with someone else. That's just being unusually cruel. As for the new girl, why not try using the moves that you used on your current GF? It worked on her, so why not stick with that tried, tested and true formula?


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    shae508 posted in Friends:
    "classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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    jordand08
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