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Dear Dish-it: Help Me Make Sure I See My Friends This Summer!

Jun 10, 2010

Dear Dish-it,


So OK, I’m so excited for summer. But I’m worried me and my friends aren’t gonna see each other often. What activities can I plan so I can spend time with them?


jay


Dear jay,


Great question! The important thing to do, if you’re worried about not seeing your friends enough this summer, is to plan ahead! Don’t leave it until the last minute – that’s when people get busy and can’t come out to your impromptu barbecue or volleyball game. Chat about your vacation plans with your friends and ask them to help you create some fun activities and events every one can look forward to – check out our list of 50 fun things to do with your friends this summer if you get stuck coming up with ideas!


Summer Fun List

    1. Have a picnic in the park or in your backyard.
    2. Get out your digital cameras out and go for a walk, taking pix of all the summery things you see.
    3. Buy some fashion mags, pick out a couple cute summer outfits and then spend the day visiting thrift stores to see if you can recreate the same looks for less.
    4. Bead some friendship bracelets and sell them for charity.
    5. Volunteer as a group at your local animal shelter or hospital.
    6. Ask your friends to help you organize your room – then return the favor.
    7. Bake cupcakes.
    8. Break out the board games you used to play as a kid!
    9. Go on a group dog walk.
    10. Get in shape together by creating a daily fitness routine you all can stick to.
    11. Make a friendship scrapbook.
    12. Have a make-your-own-ice-cream-sundae party!
    13. Go see a movie.
    14. Go window shopping.
    15. Set up a lemonade stand.
    16. Set up your own dog-washing business.
    17. Make dinner for your families.
    18. Have a sleepover party and watch scary movies.
    19. Babysit a few different kids together.
    20. Sign up for an art class.
    21. Make mixed CDs of all your fave songs.
    22. Order pizza and eat it out on the porch.
    23. Fill up your old plastic kiddy pool and splash around.
    24. Run through the sprinkler on your front lawn.
    25. Start a book club that meets every week.
    26. Start diaries and meet up to write in them every day.
    27. Spend the day at the library.
    28. Draw portraits of each other.
    29. Make collages of your dreams and goals for the next year using old magazines.
    30. Go to a museum.
    31. Go out for lunch.
    32. Meet for a pancake breakfast.
    33. Learn to sew or knit.
    34. Have swinging contests at the park.
    35. Bike around the neighborhood.
    36. Tie-Dye old T-shirts.
    37. Make smoothies.
    38. Make your own freezer popsicles.
    39. Turn up the stereo and dance!
    40. Plan a day at the beach or pool.
    41. Set up a tent and go camping in your backyard.
    42. Plant a veggie garden.
    43. Start a lawn-mowing business.
    44. Get enough friends together to play a game of softball, baseball, volleyball or soccer.
    45. Go to the zoo or an amusement park.
    46. Take a self-defense class.
    47. Have a communal yard sale and get rid of all your junk!
    48. Jump in the pool with your clothes on.
    49. Go cloud watching.
    50. Make your own checklist of things to do with your friends this summer and check each item off, one by one, as you do them!

    What’s Your Advice?

    Like or list or do you have some better suggestions for jay? Sound off by leaving your comment below!


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    Harmonia
    Harmonia posted in Family Issues:
    "HannahG" wrote:I've honestly learned a lot with my parents, and with my experiences I'd like to share with you what I've learned so you don't make mistakes(although you will, I'm here to prevent as many as possible). So go grab your parents and your siblings, and listen to My Rant To Parents Across America(or mainly to my own parents, since this is what I'd tell mine). #1. The relationship between a child and his or her parent is NOT a dictatorship. Sorry to burst your bubble but it's not. See, dictators are cruel to prisoners of war or basically ANYONE and push them around in any way they want because their people should obey them. The dictator's people are his slaves. Because they should obey them, because he keeps them alive. In your case, you think that you should be the dictator because you gave them the gift of life, making them owe you themselves. Well, see, um, no. You gave them the gift of life because you LOVED them! 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The second reason why you should never compare is because, see, I don't care if you are bff's with them on social media sites, or how often you speak to them, you probably don't know your child as good as you think. You may not know what they're going through. They may not have been the lead in the school play, but most of this generation can actually be really good at acting when you're around. So many parents think that they know their child so well, when they haven't a clue. You don't see what goes on outside that door of your house. They can hide it if they're being bullied. And you just made it worse by comparing them to someone else. This world will tear them APART. To pieces, until all that's left is a small atom left inside of them. They need to know that there's always gonna be someone there for them when they're hurting, when this world has crushed them to bits. Someone who loves them, who doesn't think anyone else in the world is better than them. 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But what other way can I get to you than by lying?)! You don't know! What if that insult could be the one thing that leads me to suicide? What if I'm gone tomorrow? I bet you'll have wished you hadn't said that now. The parents, they probably know who they are, they go insulting their child and guess what happens the next day? They're bringing a knife to their heart! Those parents feel like absolute ####, and they wish they hadn't said that. I'm not suicidal or anything, but what if someone else is? What if you don't know who that person is? You probably don't know. You don't have any idea at all the effect you can have on people. If it were me, I'd want my effect to be good. Your compliment could mean the difference of a lifetime and you'd never know. You have no idea. Please take my word, and pass this on. And thank you for reading this. -HannahG Every parent needs to read this. From my personal experience, my parents are examples of a lot of the stuff you listed above. No one's parents have a complete idea of what is going on, and by one word or one action you could make everything worse. In fact, my parents were the reason I self-harmed for the first time... But that was in the past. No kid should ever have to be slaves, be punching bags of their parents that make them miserable. Parents need to care about their kids. Isn't that what a mom or dad is?
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    HannahG
    HannahG posted in Family Issues:
    I've honestly learned a lot with my parents, and with my experiences I'd like to share with you what I've learned so you don't make mistakes(although you will, I'm here to prevent as many as possible). So go grab your parents and your siblings, and listen to My Rant To Parents Across America(or mainly to my own parents, since this is what I'd tell mine). #1. The relationship between a child and his or her parent is NOT a dictatorship. Sorry to burst your bubble but it's not. See, dictators are cruel to prisoners of war or basically ANYONE and push them around in any way they want because their people should obey them. The dictator's people are his slaves. Because they should obey them, because he keeps them alive. In your case, you think that you should be the dictator because you gave them the gift of life, making them owe you themselves. Well, see, um, no. You gave them the gift of life because you LOVED them! You knew that your child may make mistakes, and you didn't care because you loved them more than anything else. You didn't give them life so they could be your slave, you gave them life because you loved them enough to let them live with you. Which brings me to my next point.... #2. Don't compare your child to other children. Don't tell them you like that person better. I thought that you loved them so much you wouldn't care about their mistakes, you gave them life knowing they may not be the best of the best, but you loved them so much you wouldn't care! Do you not have that unconditional love between a parent and their child now? Because if not, maybe you should leave yours at an adoption center and go adopt the child you're comparing them too, because they're OBVIOUSLY better. The second reason why you should never compare is because, see, I don't care if you are bff's with them on social media sites, or how often you speak to them, you probably don't know your child as good as you think. You may not know what they're going through. They may not have been the lead in the school play, but most of this generation can actually be really good at acting when you're around. So many parents think that they know their child so well, when they haven't a clue. You don't see what goes on outside that door of your house. They can hide it if they're being bullied. And you just made it worse by comparing them to someone else. This world will tear them APART. To pieces, until all that's left is a small atom left inside of them. They need to know that there's always gonna be someone there for them when they're hurting, when this world has crushed them to bits. Someone who loves them, who doesn't think anyone else in the world is better than them. You're not giving them that message when you compare them to another. And also, you don't even know the person you're comparing them to most of the time. That child could be screwed in the head and you'd have no idea. They could be a much worse child than yours is. #3. Yes, I WILL make mistakes. I'm not perfect. I'm sorry. I wish I were too. But I'm not, and you need to accept that! It hurts me when you're insulting me. That stuff makes me feel bad. You don't even know the effect you have on me. I know I say I don't care. But guess what? I'm the best actor there is at saying that. I do care. And it really hurts me when you insult me. Like, seriously, I just got home after being bullied by a girl who called my fashion style stupid, and you're treating me worse than she did. You don't know what's going on in my life! Why do you hurt me? For all you know, I could be a suicidal who's cutting themselves every night(I'm not, just using it as an example. I love life. But what other way can I get to you than by lying?)! You don't know! What if that insult could be the one thing that leads me to suicide? What if I'm gone tomorrow? I bet you'll have wished you hadn't said that now. The parents, they probably know who they are, they go insulting their child and guess what happens the next day? They're bringing a knife to their heart! Those parents feel like absolute ####, and they wish they hadn't said that. I'm not suicidal or anything, but what if someone else is? What if you don't know who that person is? You probably don't know. You don't have any idea at all the effect you can have on people. If it were me, I'd want my effect to be good. Your compliment could mean the difference of a lifetime and you'd never know. You have no idea. Please take my word, and pass this on. And thank you for reading this. -HannahG
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    Tech-King
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    Just tell him, or do what my friend did, get someone to do it for him.
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