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Dear Dish-it: I Have No Friends

Jun 13, 2010

Dear Dish-it,


At school, people think I'm weird. Even on Kidzworld, I only have but one friend. How am I supposed to make friends if in RL (Real Life) nobody likes me?


YoungAuthor


Dear YA,


Sorry to hear about your tough situation. It's really hard to feel like you're all alone or being left out by the kids at school (or even online, like here at Kidzworld). But it doesn't have to be that way! I think with a little work and effort on your part, you’ll have plenty of friends in no time.


Get involved!

Whether it's at school or after school through different organizations, it's time to get active and do something about your loneliness! You really can't just sit back and wait for people to come to you asking to be your friend., Instead, brainstorm some ways that you can meet people your age who have similar interests to you. This could be anything from getting into extracurricular sports or clubs to going around and getting to know some of your neighbors. Or, start your own club or group here on Kidzworld and ask other KW members who have the same interest to join!


Find Your passion

Love sports? Want to help those less fortunate? Got a creative spark? Whatever it is, find something (or even a couple things) you’re way passionate about. Then do your research: go online, check the newspaper or talk to your fam to find out about clubs/groups you can join that you’ll fit right into. When you're there, you’ll meet lots of people with similar interests as you. Once you get involved in something you love, you’ll feel happier with yourself AND your social life.


Don’t worry, Be Happy

When it comes down to it, just be yourself. I know, cliché right? But really, it’ll be a little nerve-racking at first, but just be friendly, be nice, and speak up! If they don’t like you, it’s their loss. But if you don’t open up, your peers will never get a chance to know the beautiful Y-O-U.


Sound Off

Have you ever felt alone or friendless? How did you handle it? What are some of your strategies on making new friends - in Real Life or online? Got any great advice for YoungAuthor? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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