Dear Dish-it: Should I Risk My Friendship for Love?
I have this HUGE crush on this guy in my class. He’s been my friend for a really long time and I don’t want to ruin it with a dramatic breakup. But he seems kinda into me and I know he used to like me. Should I go for it and ask him out?
I Like My Guy Friend
Crushing on a guy friend is often a sticky situation. It’s awesome having a guy friend – it seems like those friendships usually stay pretty drama-free. However, going from “just friends” to “boyfriend-girlfriend” can be a bit of a bumpy road.
The last thing you want is to unleash all your feelings, and then find out that he sees you just as a friend. Make sure that your guy friend is interested in being your boyfriend before you tell him you want more. To find out, try to act a little flirty around him and see if he flirts back! If he does, he probably likes you. Another way to find out? See if you or your girl friends can casually talk to his friends and find out his true feelings for you! If he digs you as more than a friend, pursue the relationship. If not, there are always more boys out there AND you still have him as a guy friend.
Remember: when you get into a relationship there’s always a risk that things may not work out. You just have to weigh the pros and cons. Is it worth it to take the step from friends to something more? I know it’s scary, but if you never take the risk, you’ll never know if he’s really the one. If he seems into you, I would go for it. Good luck!
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