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Dear Dish-it: Should I Risk My Friendship for Love?

Dear Dish-it,


I have this HUGE crush on this guy in my class. He’s been my friend for a really long time and I don’t want to ruin it with a dramatic breakup. But he seems kinda into me and I know he used to like me. Should I go for it and ask him out?


sakotako


Dear sakotako,


Crushing on a guy friend is often a sticky situation. It’s awesome having a guy friend – it seems like those friendships usually stay pretty drama-free. However, going from “just friends” to “boyfriend-girlfriend” can be a bit of a bumpy road.


Let Down

The last thing you want is to unleash all your feelings, and then find out that he sees you just as a friend. Make sure that your guy friend is interested in being your boyfriend before you tell him you want more. To find out, try to act a little flirty around him and see if he flirts back! If he does, he probably likes you. Another way to find out? See if you or your girl friends can casually talk to his friends and find out his true feelings for you! If he digs you as more than a friend, pursue the relationship. If not, there are always more boys out there AND you still have him as a guy friend.


Working Out

Remember: when you get into a relationship there’s always a risk that things may not work out. You just have to weigh the pros and cons. Is it worth it to take the step from friends to something more? I know it’s scary, but if you never take the risk, you’ll never know if he’s really the one. If he seems into you, I would go for it. Good luck!


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Disney_

Disney_ wrote:

Guys should chase the girl doe .-.
commented: Sun Aug 31, 2014

chop454

chop454 wrote:

thank you dish it
commented: Wed Jun 11, 2014

Skipley

Skipley wrote:

But what if your friend is 2 years older and it seems like he does and does'nt at the s...
commented: Thu Jan 30, 2014

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AlphaT
AlphaT posted in Style:
Wear bigger clothes. Heck, I wear a 2-3 X
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DisneyanimeLover
"ThunderSpirit" wrote:Wow. We have more in common than I thought.I had the same problem [except she was a little less mean] and this is the advice I was given. Don't exactly go up to her and say, "I don't wanna be friends," because although she is mean, she still might be hurt. Just don't really make it official, but slowly drift apart from her. Try to meet new people, maybe there's someone great you just haven't met yet. And maybe she's having problems of her own, not like that's an excuse. But in the end, if she does apologize to you, she might be a friend worth keeping, but those insults were pretty serious, not something best friends would do, and you probably wouldn't forgive her. I get that. Thanks for the good advice! I don`t see her often so drifting away is the smartest idea. Although I see her at family parties and stuff cause she is a family friend. I`ll try and drift away from her. If she gets better at being kind I`ll be her friend again most likely. Thanks! 
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ThunderSpirit
ThunderSpirit posted in Friends:
Wow. We have more in common than I thought. I had the same problem [except she was a little less mean] and this is the advice I was given. Don't exactly go up to her and say, "I don't wanna be friends," because although she is mean, she still might be hurt. Just don't really make it official, but slowly drift apart from her. Try to meet new people, maybe there's someone great you just haven't met yet. And maybe she's having problems of her own, not like that's an excuse. But in the end, if she does apologize to you, she might be a friend worth keeping, but those insults were pretty serious, not something best friends would do, and you probably wouldn't forgive her. I get that.
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DisneyanimeLover
I have this friend who has been my friend for 6 years. And she is so RUDE. She says mean things about me and MY MOTHER. Seriously she says really awful things about my mom like this: "Her IQ is high? Oh she must have took the IDIOT test." And tells me "Eww you wear Disney Princess shirts? Eww you are so messed up!" She always acts better than me whether we are alone or with people. She tries to make people hate me and she tries to act mature and she alway tells me "You should respect your mom and do what she tells you" She is awful. I wanna tell her she is mean and I dont wanna be friends. But I can`t! Its hard to do that when you know someone for 7 years. HELP!
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Style:
As the previous person said, look online. There are very cute clothes available in bigger sizes! Also when you go shopping take a look in popular stores as well as less popular that might look as if they're for older people. Often they follow very similar trends but have bigger sizes!
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