Dear Dish-it: Should I Risk My Friendship for Love?

sakotako asks: "I have this HUGE crush on this guy in my class. He’s been my friend for a really long time and I don’t want to ruin it. But he seems kinda into me and I know he used to like me. Should I go for it and ask him out?" Back to Article

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Disney_ wrote:
2014-08-31 09:02:22 -0700

Guys should chase the girl doe .-.

chop454 wrote:
2014-06-11 09:47:06 -0700

thank you dish it

Skipley wrote:
2014-01-30 18:08:35 -0800

But what if your friend is 2 years older and it seems like he does and does'nt at the same time?

HyperAnna3 wrote:
2013-12-19 13:41:14 -0800

I would do exactly what Dear Dish-It tells me to! Great Advice!

Sabinab9 wrote:
2013-11-15 06:15:44 -0800

i would do the same thing but Think having a guy friend is common but to me it's weird.I wanna stick to girls

charlize22 wrote:
2013-08-07 19:33:47 -0700

same thing to me sistah

pickels14 wrote:
2013-06-20 19:39:12 -0700

i think this was great advise thanx! Hippie

lostergrl wrote:
2013-05-13 21:36:18 -0700

I've been needing info like this! oh ari i know what to do!

tbug01 wrote:
2013-04-27 04:52:42 -0700

yeah!!! thats like me my best friend is a guy and we are close!!! I mean like BFFL!!! and I like him he likes me and we have been "talking" and I mean I dont want to ruin our friendship so... what do I do?

QTpie14 wrote:
2013-04-12 12:11:21 -0700

This is so close to my situation...

sweetlysweet100 wrote:
2013-03-19 18:40:24 -0700

stay his friend till your 16! cuz my best friend went out with me then he left and now we cant even look at each other! its the most painful thing in the world

ladivah2 wrote:
2013-01-22 15:46:12 -0800

i have a guy friend that i really like and im so scared to ask him outt, i do not know if he likes if u like me just friend me and mail me

purplequeen118 wrote:
2013-01-09 18:27:05 -0800

i meant if he says no

purplequeen118 wrote:
2013-01-09 18:26:33 -0800

um if i get my friend to ask out my crush for me, if he says know do u thnk it would work if she said that she was kidding anyway?

SiaV112 wrote:
2012-12-11 19:41:19 -0800

I have a friend and last year, i told him That i liked him more than a friend but that was after he told me that he did too. He still likes me, but now I'm over him. But now that I see that hes with another girl and I'm developing feelings. Dont ruin your chances, but dont ruin a good relationship either.

SiaV112 wrote:
2012-12-11 19:41:19 -0800

I have a friend and last year, i told him That i liked him more than a friend but that was after he told me that he did too. He still likes me, but now I'm over him. But now that I see that hes with another girl and I'm developing feelings. Dont ruin your chances, but dont ruin a good relationship either.

swagismymiddlename wrote:
2012-12-08 18:46:54 -0800

I asked out my guy friend let's just say it really
akward but we treat each other with respect like

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grease fan 123 wrote:
2012-11-19 12:02:37 -0800

I am also in this situation. I don't know what to do and I think I might bug his bff as his friend has been bugging us to date so I'll see if he's said something to him

ILMDGRL wrote:
2012-10-31 15:16:46 -0700

Don't ruin a good relationship, but if U can find a way to talk to one of his close friends and he like-likes U get the friend to make Ur guy friend ask U out.

hotskock94 wrote:
2012-10-25 22:46:43 -0700

id would but i cant

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