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Dear Dish-it: Still Single

Dear Dish-it,


I’m going into Grade 8 and the problem is I’ve never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel lonely. All my friends tell me that I’m really pretty but it doesn’t really seem that way. I have no problem hanging out with guys but no one asks me out. What do I do?


Lonely


Dear Lonely,


At your age, lots of guys and girls start dating. But just because your friends are getting boyfriends first doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!


Super Single

It’s totally normal to feel left out when your girls are off with their BFs, but there are tons of great things about being single, too! You don’t have to stress about your first fight or about making your boyfriend mad or jealous just because you talk to another guy. Most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love. In other words, spend this time being the best you that you can be, so when the right guy comes along, you’ll have tons of great stuff to offer as a girlfriend!


Make a Move

If the boys aren’t coming to you, why don’t you take control of the situation and go to them? There’s no rule out there that says girls have to wait around for guys to ask them out. If you’re crushing on someone, make the first move by saying hi and talking to him. Once you get to chatti9ng one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?


Be Sure

Beware of dating a dude just because all of your friends are in relationships. The worst thing you can do is start dating before you’re ready – it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll date a lot of duds. Plus, if you move too quickly from one boy to another, you run the risk of not being taken seriously by a guy that you REALLY want to be date in the future. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours … or even two days. Since you haven’t had a boyfriend yet, your first relationship can still have the chance to actually mean something to you. Wait until you meet the right guy and go from there!


Be Happy

For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t worry! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right!


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rebelfeminist
rebelfeminist posted in Style:
Well you won't want to volunteer because that's unpaid.  Your profile says you're 11 which means you can't get a real job but you can babysit (you'll need first aid training for this), or you can pet sit or do yard work. Those are good jobs to have at your age.
reply about 3 hours
lawliet16
lawliet16 posted in Friends:
Maybe your overrating her personality while underrating yourself. Girls extremely like confident men so start working on your self esteem first because it stimulates interest to get to know you more especially on the romantic context and don`t forget to just be yourself so that you will know if she accept you to who you are and don`t let the "ideal boy" standard of the society bring you down. Remember that real happiness can be achieve when you are true to yourself so don`t mind what other people think of you and stop comparing yourself to the boys around her. Embrace your imperfections and wash away your insecurities and maybe she`ll like you back ;)
reply about 6 hours
lawliet16
Considering your age, it is normal that your parents might not accept it in case he likes you and the feeling is mutual and you must understand them. This is time when you need to focus in your studies and prepare for your future career and not for your future husband. You are still very young and trust me, you are still emotionally unprepared for this one heck of a roller coaster ride of emotions. Know the difference between loving that person and loving the feeling that you are in love. ;)
reply about 6 hours
peace16
peace16 posted in Friends:
Well I am happy that you off of them. 
reply about 7 hours
UnknownPoster
UnknownPoster posted in Friends:
"peace16" wrote:Oh man, I feel bad for you. I will sugguest rest it.. and when the 6 weeks of up. you can do whatever you want too do. Thanks. I am already back in school, I no longer have crutches thankfully. Also, i'd like to point out that they don't have social media, or at least, i'm not aware of it and I am out of school for two weeks for Christmas. Crushes are annoying lol. I have never been in a relationship either which makes things so much worst. 
reply about 7 hours

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