Dear Dish-it: Still Single
I’m going into Grade 8 and the problem is I’ve never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel lonely. All my friends tell me that I’m really pretty but it doesn’t really seem that way. I have no problem hanging out with guys but no one asks me out. What do I do?
At your age, lots of guys and girls start dating. But just because your friends are getting boyfriends first doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!
It’s totally normal to feel left out when your girls are off with their BFs, but there are tons of great things about being single, too! You don’t have to stress about your first fight or about making your boyfriend mad or jealous just because you talk to another guy. Most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love. In other words, spend this time being the best you that you can be, so when the right guy comes along, you’ll have tons of great stuff to offer as a girlfriend!
Make a Move
If the boys aren’t coming to you, why don’t you take control of the situation and go to them? There’s no rule out there that says girls have to wait around for guys to ask them out. If you’re crushing on someone, make the first move by saying hi and talking to him. Once you get to chatti9ng one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?
Beware of dating a dude just because all of your friends are in relationships. The worst thing you can do is start dating before you’re ready – it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll date a lot of duds. Plus, if you move too quickly from one boy to another, you run the risk of not being taken seriously by a guy that you REALLY want to be date in the future. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours … or even two days. Since you haven’t had a boyfriend yet, your first relationship can still have the chance to actually mean something to you. Wait until you meet the right guy and go from there!
For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t worry! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right!
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