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Dear Dish-it: Still Single

Dear Dish-it,


I’m going into Grade 8 and the problem is I’ve never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel lonely. All my friends tell me that I’m really pretty but it doesn’t really seem that way. I have no problem hanging out with guys but no one asks me out. What do I do?


Lonely


Dear Lonely,


At your age, lots of guys and girls start dating. But just because your friends are getting boyfriends first doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!


Super Single

It’s totally normal to feel left out when your girls are off with their BFs, but there are tons of great things about being single, too! You don’t have to stress about your first fight or about making your boyfriend mad or jealous just because you talk to another guy. Most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love. In other words, spend this time being the best you that you can be, so when the right guy comes along, you’ll have tons of great stuff to offer as a girlfriend!


Make a Move

If the boys aren’t coming to you, why don’t you take control of the situation and go to them? There’s no rule out there that says girls have to wait around for guys to ask them out. If you’re crushing on someone, make the first move by saying hi and talking to him. Once you get to chatti9ng one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?


Be Sure

Beware of dating a dude just because all of your friends are in relationships. The worst thing you can do is start dating before you’re ready – it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll date a lot of duds. Plus, if you move too quickly from one boy to another, you run the risk of not being taken seriously by a guy that you REALLY want to be date in the future. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours … or even two days. Since you haven’t had a boyfriend yet, your first relationship can still have the chance to actually mean something to you. Wait until you meet the right guy and go from there!


Be Happy

For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t worry! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right!


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How did you meet your first boy/girlfriend? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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astucieuse331
astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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ts01
ts01 posted in Friends:
im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
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lolflowergirl
lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
i feel alone too
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kayme123
kayme123 posted in Friends:
i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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Irene_love
Irene_love posted in Style:
"1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
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