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Dear Dish-it: Still Single

Dear Dish-it,


I’m going into Grade 8 and the problem is I’ve never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel lonely. All my friends tell me that I’m really pretty but it doesn’t really seem that way. I have no problem hanging out with guys but no one asks me out. What do I do?


Lonely


Dear Lonely,


At your age, lots of guys and girls start dating. But just because your friends are getting boyfriends first doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!


Super Single

It’s totally normal to feel left out when your girls are off with their BFs, but there are tons of great things about being single, too! You don’t have to stress about your first fight or about making your boyfriend mad or jealous just because you talk to another guy. Most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love. In other words, spend this time being the best you that you can be, so when the right guy comes along, you’ll have tons of great stuff to offer as a girlfriend!


Make a Move

If the boys aren’t coming to you, why don’t you take control of the situation and go to them? There’s no rule out there that says girls have to wait around for guys to ask them out. If you’re crushing on someone, make the first move by saying hi and talking to him. Once you get to chatti9ng one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?


Be Sure

Beware of dating a dude just because all of your friends are in relationships. The worst thing you can do is start dating before you’re ready – it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll date a lot of duds. Plus, if you move too quickly from one boy to another, you run the risk of not being taken seriously by a guy that you REALLY want to be date in the future. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours … or even two days. Since you haven’t had a boyfriend yet, your first relationship can still have the chance to actually mean something to you. Wait until you meet the right guy and go from there!


Be Happy

For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t worry! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right!


Sound Off

How did you meet your first boy/girlfriend? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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lelnah posted in Friends:
"Tldc_Julisha" wrote:I'm in the popular group but im trying to figure out if maybe its time to stop being in the popular group or notI like being in the group but at the same time I don't because-The other girls in the popular group are kind mean to othersThey make fun of people who don't wear what we wearThey push/shove people into lockersIs it time to leave the popular group or should I stay there??? Of course not! What kinds of people just go through their everyday lives shoving good kids into hard metal lockers? It's not right. I would never associate myself with a group like that. What kind of popular is that, shoving kids into lockers?  
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Ok i have the same problem with every guy! I have a crush on the cutest guy and i think somebody else likes him! And i mean like for sure think that they like him!
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shae508
shae508 posted in Friends:
"classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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jordand08
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