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Dear Dish-it: Still Single

Dear Dish-it,


I’m going into Grade 8 and the problem is I’ve never had a boyfriend. All of my friends have boyfriends and I feel lonely. All my friends tell me that I’m really pretty but it doesn’t really seem that way. I have no problem hanging out with guys but no one asks me out. What do I do?


Lonely


Dear Lonely,


At your age, lots of guys and girls start dating. But just because your friends are getting boyfriends first doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you!


Super Single

It’s totally normal to feel left out when your girls are off with their BFs, but there are tons of great things about being single, too! You don’t have to stress about your first fight or about making your boyfriend mad or jealous just because you talk to another guy. Most importantly, you have more time for Y-O-U. Spend that spare time trying out new hobbies, perfecting skills and doing stuff you love. In other words, spend this time being the best you that you can be, so when the right guy comes along, you’ll have tons of great stuff to offer as a girlfriend!


Make a Move

If the boys aren’t coming to you, why don’t you take control of the situation and go to them? There’s no rule out there that says girls have to wait around for guys to ask them out. If you’re crushing on someone, make the first move by saying hi and talking to him. Once you get to chatti9ng one-on-one who knows what will happen from there?


Be Sure

Beware of dating a dude just because all of your friends are in relationships. The worst thing you can do is start dating before you’re ready – it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll date a lot of duds. Plus, if you move too quickly from one boy to another, you run the risk of not being taken seriously by a guy that you REALLY want to be date in the future. Relationships aren’t meant to last only two hours … or even two days. Since you haven’t had a boyfriend yet, your first relationship can still have the chance to actually mean something to you. Wait until you meet the right guy and go from there!


Be Happy

For now, just sit back and enjoy! Talk to guys, get to know them better, make guy friends and see what happens. Relationships that start out as friendships are often the best ones. So don’t worry! You’ll find your Prince Charming when the time’s right!


Sound Off

How did you meet your first boy/girlfriend? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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The Best Part of Being Single?

  • I get to flirt with anyone and not feel bad.
  • I don't have to feel sorry about what my BF or GF thinks.
  • More time to spend with friends.
  • There's nothing good about being single!

Dear Dish-It In The Forums

rainbowpoptart
Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
reply about 19 hours
jake495
jake495 posted in Family Issues:
Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
reply about 20 hours
ThePaleWalker636
I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
reply about 20 hours
drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
"NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
reply 2 days
drowning
I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
reply 2 days