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Dear Dish-It: Trouble with Dad

Dear Dish-it,


My dad hits me. Like, really hard. He does it almost every single day. I live with him now and I want to go back to my mom’s house but he says this is best for me. After he hits me, all my BFFs ask me what happened and I have to say I fell. But really he chokes me, throws glass at my face and says I’m fat. I want to run away …


bhla


Dear bhla,


I’m sorry – it sounds like you’re in a really tough situation. But you’ve done the right thing by telling someone. The next step is to tell an adult that you’re close to, so they can help you get the help you need to deal with your dad.


Not Your Fault

The first thing to realize is that none of this is your fault and you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. It seems like your dad has a tendency to get violent when he gets stressed out or upset, and he’s taking out all his frustration on you. Remember never to take the blame for something you can’t control. His anger has nothing to do with you.


Getting Away

With so much bad stuff going on at home, it’s no wonder you feel like running away. But trust, me, running away is NOT the answer. Instead, you could try finding things to do that will keep you busy and out of the house. It might be a good idea to join an after-school club or activity to take your mind off things. This way, you'll boost your self-esteem and feel tons better doing it. You'll meet new friends and won't feel so down about your dad.


Talking About It

Honesty is always the best policy, and in order to get help and make the situation better for yourself, you need to get things off your chest rather than leave it all bottled up. Can you talk to your mom about what’s happening? You should also seek professional help. Please see a counselor at your school or ask your doctor to refer you to one who can help you feel more secure. In fact, talking to any adult you feel you can trust will be helpful. An adult will be able to tell you who to turn to next for help.


Get Help Now

The Abuse Victim Hotline is 100% confidential and free: 1-877-448-8678. There’s also There's also Childhelp USA at (800) 4-A-CHILD ([800] 422-4453). Please don't be too shy or embarrassed to get help. I know it takes guts, but once you're working this out the right way, you'll feel so much better. No one will judge you, and this is in no way your fault!


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G-Gear

G-Gear wrote:

this is beyond aggrivating..you need to call another family member and if you cant do t...
commented: Sat Jul 19, 2014

Prime130

Prime130 wrote:

He has no right to do that to you you are a living breatheing thinking being with emoti...
commented: Sat Jul 19, 2014

mandy996

mandy996 wrote:

isn't this ilegal or what?! no one should be treated this way!!!( i might slap him and...
commented: Thu Jun 26, 2014

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