Dear Dish-it: Mean Sister
I love my sister but sometimes she can be really pushy and always tells me what to do. If I ever try to talk to her about it, she gets all defensive. What do I do?
On behalf of sisters everywhere, I’d like to apologize for the way we sometimes treat our siblings! My little sister is two years younger and we went through a similar situation to yours. But now she’s my BFF and you can be friends - or, at the very least, get along - with your sis, too.
Write It Out
Since your sister doesn’t seem to be listening to you, maybe you could write her a letter and give it to her. In the letter, let her know how much you love her and that you wish she would listen to you more often - and boss you around less. Also, be sure to tell her how it makes you feel when she acts pushy and defensive with you. Remember: it may feel like your sister doesn't care about your feelings, but deep down she loves you and probably wants to work things out, too.
Rebuild Your Bond
If you wanna get along better and be closer friends with your sister, you have to schedule quality time together. Try planning a slumber party just for the two of you ... or, you can ride your bikes together, take the dog for a walk, cook a meal or do anything else you both like to do - as long as it's done together!
Remember, you won’t be able to change your sister overnight. But once she starts seeing (and treating) you as a friend and not just a sibling, your friendship will become stronger and more meaningful. Just keep working at your relationship and continue to find new hobbies to do together that will bring you even closer. Friends may come and go, but a sister lasts a lifetime. Best of luck!
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