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Dear Dish-it: Mean Sister

Dear Dish-it,


I love my sister but sometimes she can be really pushy and always tells me what to do. If I ever try to talk to her about it, she gets all defensive. What do I do?


Gotcha


Dear Gotcha,


On behalf of sisters everywhere, I’d like to apologize for the way we sometimes treat our siblings! My little sister is two years younger and we went through a similar situation to yours. But now she’s my BFF and you can be friends - or, at the very least, get along - with your sis, too.


Write It Out

Since your sister doesn’t seem to be listening to you, maybe you could write her a letter and give it to her. In the letter, let her know how much you love her and that you wish she would listen to you more often - and boss you around less. Also, be sure to tell her how it makes you feel when she acts pushy and defensive with you. Remember: it may feel like your sister doesn't care about your feelings, but deep down she loves you and probably wants to work things out, too.


Rebuild Your Bond

If you wanna get along better and be closer friends with your sister, you have to schedule quality time together. Try planning a slumber party just for the two of you ... or, you can ride your bikes together, take the dog for a walk, cook a meal or do anything else you both like to do - as long as it's done together!


Sisterly Love

Remember, you won’t be able to change your sister overnight. But once she starts seeing (and treating) you as a friend and not just a sibling, your friendship will become stronger and more meaningful. Just keep working at your relationship and continue to find new hobbies to do together that will bring you even closer. Friends may come and go, but a sister lasts a lifetime. Best of luck!


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-Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
"jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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