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Dear Dish-It, Does He Like Me Again?

Dear Dish-It,

There's this guy at school that I liked all of seventh grade. Well, I'm in eighth now and I thought I was over him, cuz he was a total jerk last year. Turns out, that he's 10 times nicer and I really want to go out with him. He's cute, funny, smart, the works. But I don't know if he likes me back. He's paying a lot more attention to me than he did last year. He's acting like he did in sixth grade and I know he had a crush on me then. What should I do?
Mouwe


Dear Mouwe,

Ask him out. If you can deal with the fact that he was a jerk before and you're getting that special vibe from him - just go for it. It sounds like this guy has had a change of heart and may be worth a second chance. Good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

One of my best friends is really mad at me. No matter what I say she just won't listen. What can I say to her so maybe she will listen? She has never been mad at me before. PLEASE HELP ME SOON!!!!
hannah_banana23


Dear hannah_banana23,

Dude! What the heck did ya do to get her so ticked-off? It's a little hard for me to know how you should win your BFF back if I don't know what got her upset to begin with. Ok, here's all I can suggest with limited info... Give her some time to cool off. Obviously, whatever you did really hurt her or angered her and she needs time to chill. After a couple days - maybe after the weekend - I would try approaching her again.


If it was something dumb like an argument over whether you love Jack Osbourne more or she does, then I would make a joke out of it. When you see her wave a hand-made white flag or give her a funny friendship card or something. If it's something more serious - like you kissed her BF or you got her grounded or something, then I would give her a mushier card and tell her how sorry you are and how much she means to you. Sometimes, cards or letters do the trick better than talking it out because she'll really have the chance to listen (read) what you have to say and you have time to get the words out right. Good luck.


Dear Dish-It,

I have a crush on a boy and I want to ask him to be my secret boyfriend but I don't know how. Can you help?
lydster


Dear lydster,

I can sorta help. I mean I can suggest that you just tell the dude you like him - or ask him to hang out with ya, go to a movie or out for some chow. What I can't do is ask him for ya. The thing with love and crushes is it's up to you (and/or him) to make it happen. Now I have a question for you - why do you want a "secret" boyfriend? That's kinda lame if you ask me. If you're not ready to have a boyfriend out in the open, maybe you're not ready for one at all. Don't mean to be harsh - just tellin' it like it is.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    "Lulu335" wrote: I live in a military family, which means we have to move A LOT. I'm halfway through 6th grade, and I'm really stressed out. The reason is because I have a guy who really likes me, and we liked each other back in the 5th grade, and he's even got me presents and everything, but now I'm starting to doubt whether I still like him or not. And he is a great guy; he's silly, funny, kind- but I just don't know if he's the right guy for me. Plus there's a friend of mine who I know likes me as more than a friend, and he's a great guy, too. I really need advise!! Oh sweetheart, your situation is so, so very far from being complicated. In fact, it's actually, entirely simple. But I'm here to help you see that, because you can't see it yourself quite yet. Brace yourself, you may never hear such advice in your life ever again. Or you might, I can't predict the future. You're in sixth grade, you said. Assuming you live in the United states and weren't held back, you're probably 12, maybe 11. The problem is, the human brain isn't fully developed until a person hits the age of about 25. This means, without debate, that your brain unable to fully grasp what being in a relationship actually entails, what it means, what the consequences are, and so forth. You can't even fathom it, my dear. I couldn't at your age; no one can. You've just begun to hit puberty at this point in your very young, completely normal life. Certain hormones are now being developed by your body that, up until puberty began, your body did not produce. Let me explain, in simple terms, what this means: these new hormones are giving you fuzzy feelings for boys, but these feelings are not what people with fully developed brains call "love." Love means being self sacrificing, compromising, giving and taking, communicating clearly and honestly, and so much more. What you're feeling is a part of love-romance-but it's not all there is to love. It's actually just a few simple chemicals being released in your brain: dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and few others. Your brain releases those chemicals when, say, you see a boy you like, and those chemicals make you feel all fuzzy inside. In fact, (brace yourself,) there's nothing inherently special about the boys you like, or the boys that like you; in fact, they're also, entirely normal, and aside from a few minor differences in character, completely like most other boys their age. Had you been born in another town, gone to another school, you would have gotten the same fuzzy feeling about whatever boy you thought you liked at that school. You see? I'm not saying this to make you feel insignificant, but perhaps the insight will make moving easier for you. The next place your militant parents settle down in will also have a middle school, with a bunch of normal 11-14 year old boys and girls, all doing the exact same things the kids at your school do right now. Does that put things in perspective for you? The world is a very, very big place, and it's home to billions upon billions of people. Your situation is far from being a needle in a hay stack; it's more like a blade of grass, in a vast field of foliage. The feelings you're feeling aren't uncommon or complicated, they just feel that way to you. (Now, really brace yourself, because this is going to get uncomfortable.) We, as people, tend to think that we're special. Each one of us a unique snowflake, drifting about in big blue sky, that exists solely to show the world how special we are. The problem is, the other seven billions snowflakes (people) think exactly like we do, and in this way, we are all the same. We think our problems are new problems that no one has ever dealt with before, and no one else could possibly understand the pain and suffering we're going through. We all think this way, by nature; but it's simply naive. Heartache and suffering have existed since people existed, and possibly before then. Your situation may not be ideal to you, but once you come to terms with the fact that life isn't ideal for anyone, you might actually feel comfort. The easiest way to cope with our many problems, is to accept them for what they are: a part of the human experience. Natural, normal, repeating generation after generation without end. Again, these are concepts that require some deep thought, and you might not fully grasp them quite yet. But remember them. With time, as you grow, think about them more, and you will find peace with your life. And remember this: although you're stuck (for now) on a giant rock hurling around the sun at an incredible speed, you're not alone. With billions of other people stuck here with you, you'll never be without friends.
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    Fun_125
    I personally think that when you ARE ready then go for it! As long as the person you like isn't a jerk to anyone or you go for it! Just don't get too serious. It's middle school. Good luck!
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    Error44
    "Lulu335" wrote:I live in a military family, which means we have to move A LOT. I'm halfway through 6th grade, and I'm really stressed out. The reason is because I have a guy who really likes me, and we liked each other back in the 5th grade, and he's even got me presents and everything, but now I'm starting to doubt whether I still like him or not. And he is a great guy; he's silly, funny, kind- but I just don't know if he's the right guy for me. Plus there's a friend of mine who I know likes me as more than a friend, and he's a great guy, too. I really need advise!!I know, it is too late but I think you should not go for a deeper relationship, don't make it hard for yourself and try to be his just friend because you are so young .
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    Error44
    "queenslay173" wrote:I was at school when I noticed people started to tell me this boy liked me and I thought it was cool because I'm used to that type of stuff then we started to dated in October we broke up right before christmas and it was so strange. we got back together in the beginning of January and we broke up again on the 4 my friends are really mad at me and he seemed really upset I like him but I just don't want to be with him anymore what should I do ?- confused lover Tell him your reasons and make it clear for both of you
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    lottie_h141 posted in Style:
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