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Dear Dish-It: Summer Romance

Dear Dish-It,

I really like this guy and he likes me, too. How do we stay connected over the summer?

I love music

Dear ILM,

School’s out and summer’s here: no more teachers, no more books and…wait, no more flirting with the cute guy in math class! That’s the one drawback of summer break, isn't it? Especially if you’re still just crushing and unsure what the “status” between you is. Here’s how to stay connected with your crush over the break - the RIGHT way!

Daydream…in Moderation

Someone (a famous person, I think) once said, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” In other words: the less you see of your crush, the more you tend to like him or her. But be careful: too much daydreaming and not enough reality can give you an unrealistic perception of what your crush is really like, especially if you don’t know them that well to begin with. Daydreaming is totally fine (and fun!), but make sure you keep your fantasies in check over summer break so you don’t go back to school in September expecting too much (you could be disappointed).

Communicate…in Moderation

If you IMed, emailed or texted with your crush during the school year, there's no reason why you can't continue to check in with them over the summer. Just make sure it's MUTUAL (that is, you're not the one doing all the texting) and definitely DO NOT don’t spend all your vacay time waiting for them to appear in the KW Chat Room. Stay busy doing all the warm-weather stuff you love to do and try not to let your crush take over your entire summer holiday.

Keep it Real & Get it Together

Not seeing your crush as much over the summer as you did when school was on may make you wonder what they’re up to… Try to fight the urge to check their KW Profile every day, though, and don’t update your own profile like crazy to make it seem like you’re SOOO busy. Just be yourself, be cool and be real and you can’t go wrong!

In terms of getting together…if you’re ready to spend time with your crush outside the classroom, just because school’s out doesn’t mean you can’t do stuff with them! If you’re part of the same group of friends, why not plan a summer outing for everyone? If you’d rather have one-on-one time with just your crush (and you feel comfortable asking), go ahead and see if they wanna hang out some time. The nice thing about this season is that there’s plenty to do, especially outdoors… Get creative and have fun!

HAVE YOUR SAY: What do you think I love music should do? Got any good advice? Leave your comment below!

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astucieuse331
astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
I feel like that too! I know where you're coming from, but believe me, I've moved on. Those people? Bleh. Not worth my time, and certainly don't deserve me.  You described me exactly: good with people and friends, but don't have a best friend at all, and others really don't care whether I'm lonely or sad. Well, it might sound crazy, but guess what? I've found a friend in me instead of others. I've learned to accept that you can't please everyone, and that some of the fish in the sea aren't worth wasting your time on. So I've become independent, to learn to depend on myself more than to rely on others. Trust me, it works, and I think it'll work for you. But if you really need a friend, me and @alienincognito are here to talk to you if you need us! @alienincognito: LOL! DUDE! That's HOW I THINK! Whenever one of my friends talks behind my back or backstabs me, I'm like, "Ah, whatever, 'screw em, I'll let Karma take over! I ain't letting those negative peeps ruin my day." Maybe you, me, and hasti10 could start a group where we can talk to each other!  :) :D 8)
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astucieuse331
astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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ts01
ts01 posted in Friends:
im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
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lolflowergirl
lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
i feel alone too
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kayme123
kayme123 posted in Friends:
i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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