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Dear Dish-It: Summer Romance

Dear Dish-It,

I really like this guy and he likes me, too. How do we stay connected over the summer?

I love music

Dear ILM,

School’s out and summer’s here: no more teachers, no more books and…wait, no more flirting with the cute guy in math class! That’s the one drawback of summer break, isn't it? Especially if you’re still just crushing and unsure what the “status” between you is. Here’s how to stay connected with your crush over the break - the RIGHT way!

Daydream…in Moderation

Someone (a famous person, I think) once said, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” In other words: the less you see of your crush, the more you tend to like him or her. But be careful: too much daydreaming and not enough reality can give you an unrealistic perception of what your crush is really like, especially if you don’t know them that well to begin with. Daydreaming is totally fine (and fun!), but make sure you keep your fantasies in check over summer break so you don’t go back to school in September expecting too much (you could be disappointed).

Communicate…in Moderation

If you IMed, emailed or texted with your crush during the school year, there's no reason why you can't continue to check in with them over the summer. Just make sure it's MUTUAL (that is, you're not the one doing all the texting) and definitely DO NOT don’t spend all your vacay time waiting for them to appear in the KW Chat Room. Stay busy doing all the warm-weather stuff you love to do and try not to let your crush take over your entire summer holiday.

Keep it Real & Get it Together

Not seeing your crush as much over the summer as you did when school was on may make you wonder what they’re up to… Try to fight the urge to check their KW Profile every day, though, and don’t update your own profile like crazy to make it seem like you’re SOOO busy. Just be yourself, be cool and be real and you can’t go wrong!

In terms of getting together…if you’re ready to spend time with your crush outside the classroom, just because school’s out doesn’t mean you can’t do stuff with them! If you’re part of the same group of friends, why not plan a summer outing for everyone? If you’d rather have one-on-one time with just your crush (and you feel comfortable asking), go ahead and see if they wanna hang out some time. The nice thing about this season is that there’s plenty to do, especially outdoors… Get creative and have fun!

HAVE YOUR SAY: What do you think I love music should do? Got any good advice? Leave your comment below!

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shygirl03
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
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AnneS12
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worldqweencc
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