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Dear Dish-It: Summer Romance

Dear Dish-It,

I really like this guy and he likes me, too. How do we stay connected over the summer?

I love music

Dear ILM,

School’s out and summer’s here: no more teachers, no more books and…wait, no more flirting with the cute guy in math class! That’s the one drawback of summer break, isn't it? Especially if you’re still just crushing and unsure what the “status” between you is. Here’s how to stay connected with your crush over the break - the RIGHT way!

Daydream…in Moderation

Someone (a famous person, I think) once said, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” In other words: the less you see of your crush, the more you tend to like him or her. But be careful: too much daydreaming and not enough reality can give you an unrealistic perception of what your crush is really like, especially if you don’t know them that well to begin with. Daydreaming is totally fine (and fun!), but make sure you keep your fantasies in check over summer break so you don’t go back to school in September expecting too much (you could be disappointed).

Communicate…in Moderation

If you IMed, emailed or texted with your crush during the school year, there's no reason why you can't continue to check in with them over the summer. Just make sure it's MUTUAL (that is, you're not the one doing all the texting) and definitely DO NOT don’t spend all your vacay time waiting for them to appear in the KW Chat Room. Stay busy doing all the warm-weather stuff you love to do and try not to let your crush take over your entire summer holiday.

Keep it Real & Get it Together

Not seeing your crush as much over the summer as you did when school was on may make you wonder what they’re up to… Try to fight the urge to check their KW Profile every day, though, and don’t update your own profile like crazy to make it seem like you’re SOOO busy. Just be yourself, be cool and be real and you can’t go wrong!

In terms of getting together…if you’re ready to spend time with your crush outside the classroom, just because school’s out doesn’t mean you can’t do stuff with them! If you’re part of the same group of friends, why not plan a summer outing for everyone? If you’d rather have one-on-one time with just your crush (and you feel comfortable asking), go ahead and see if they wanna hang out some time. The nice thing about this season is that there’s plenty to do, especially outdoors… Get creative and have fun!

HAVE YOUR SAY: What do you think I love music should do? Got any good advice? Leave your comment below!

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shae508 posted in Friends:
"classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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