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Dear Dish-It: New Classmates

Dear Dish-It,

I was split up from my friends in my class, and now I don’t know anyone except my old friend – who isn’t exactly my BFF. I'm sad and scared ...

NERVOUS

Dear NERVOUS,

I’m sorry; it sucks to be away from your best friends, especially when the feeling you’re left with is one of loneliness or sadness. It totally adds to the stress of going back to school. BUT, the good news is, things CAN – and WILL – change! Check out my advice!

Turn a Negative into a Positive

The first thing you need to do in order to feel better and turn this stressful situation around is change your attitude. I know it’s easy to just sink into sadness without your friends with you in class, but why not think of this as a perfect opportunity to meet some new people, instead? Think about it: that strange girl or guy sitting next to you in class could be an incredible future friend! Keep your positive outlook up, and good things are bound to happen!

Make the First Move

So, how exactly do you make new friends in your class? Well, you COULD wait for them to talk to you … OR, you could be the brave, friendly one and make the first move! Nervous? That’s normal; but once the first “Hi,” has been uttered, the rest is gravy! Another trick: ask one of your classmates if you can borrow a pencil or a piece of paper. It’s the perfect excuse to talk to someone new … and possibly make a new BFF!

After-School Plans

Last but not least, in order to not feel totally disconnected from your friends, make plans to meet up with them after school, at lunch or on the weekend, so you can talk about how your classes are going and who some of the new people you’ve met are. You guys can also choose to join after-school clubs or teams together, where you can spend quality time with each other. Finally, when you do make better friends with the people in your own class, be sure to introduce them to your old besties – it’s always nice to expand your circle of friends, especially if you can all hang out together once the final bell has rung!

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Dear Dish-It In The Forums

rainbowpoptart
Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
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jake495
jake495 posted in Family Issues:
Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
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ThePaleWalker636
I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
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drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
"NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
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drowning
I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
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