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Dear Dish-It, I Dated My Karate Teacher

Dear Dish-It,

I can't seem to stop arguing! I just can't stop arguing and I know it's mainly my fault. Is there a way I can just shut up before I start arguing?
A_the_Arguer

Dear A_the_Arguer,

Yep. There is something that can help you "just shut up" it's called thinking. And another way is to control your temper. You're gonna realize that lots of people, things, situations, etc. irk you but you can't blow up about all of them. It takes too much energy, too much time, and quite frankly, it doesn't make you all that much fun to be around. Next time someone does or says something that ticks you off - or that you don't agree with or whatever - take a minute and ponder it in your head. Decide whether it's really all that important to your life and your well-being to explain to whoever that they're wrong and you're right. Sometimes, it's just easier to keep it to yourself.

Dear Dish-It,

I don't know how to kiss.
googleyeyes

Dear googleyeyes,

Yes, you do. See, here's the beauty of kissing... there is no "right" or "wrong" way to do it. Sure, people have preferences - some like long slobbery kisses and some like short non-slobbery kisses or short slobbery kisses or whatever - but it's not brain surgery. Do you have lips? That's really the only requirement. (Although minty-fresh breath is a definite plus!) You'll also find out that kissing is different with every person you do it with. Again, it's cuz everybody has their own style. You'll develop your style over time. My tips to you, as a newbie, would be try not to knock noses, close your eyes (cuz it's uncomfortable to stare at someone that close-up) and aim for the lips. Good luck!

Dear Dish-It,

I am 15 and I'm at boarding school. I don't see my mum a lot so we tend to tell each other a lot when we see each other. I recently dated a guy who was a few years older than me - he was 18 and my karate trainer. I told mum because we tell each other everything. She got really mad and wouldn't talk to me for a week! When we broke up, she was happy that I was a bit mad with him. When we started talking again she got angry, called his boss and banned us from talking. I often catch him staring at me and he flirts a lot but he was the one who broke it off. I don't know what to do! I think he still likes me but how can I go out with him without my parents or his boss finding out? PLEASE HELP.
Candy

Dear Candy,

You can't go out with him again - at least not behind your 'rents back. It's just not a cool thing to do. Judging by what you've told me, I would guess that he does still like ya and was forced to end it by pressure from your 'rents and his boss. Which, kudos for him, was the right thing to do. He respects your parents wishes and that's cool. I think you need to talk with your mum and figure out what her biggest issues are with this relationship. Is it that he is older than you? Is it that he's your "teacher?" Is it both? You say you guys are tight, so next time you see your mum, have a heart-to-heart about this. Explain to her how much you like him and how much fun you have with him and see if there is any way you can get her approval. If you can't, you probably need to let it go until your a bit older and then try to talk to her again.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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lion2a3
lion2a3 posted in Family Issues:
Well I say don't deal with your friend I mean comfort her and all but if she's doing all that I would leave her alone let her parents deal with it you guys are just kids ending your life isn't the solution and you seem like a really caring person but ####### help from the internet isn't to answer Tell her parents or let her see to see an therapist or something But don't let other people drag you down into depression 
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everybody at my school don't really like me! :( 
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I have 3 close friends at school. Outside of school I have one. I'm soon going up to Secondary school. 2 of my friends, Kathryn and Sophie, are quite mean to me and others in the class. They call me names and push me around. I don't like it but afraid to tell them. They are also quite rude to teachers. When it's just me and Kathryn it's fine and I am wondering if it's just Sophie making an impression. I go to a small school (81 pupils) and making friends is hard for me. Please help!!
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