Dear Dish-It: I Like My BFF’s Crush

Dear Dish-It,

My BFF has a huge crush on this cool and cute guy, but I think he likes me. I’m starting to crush on him, too, but I’m scared it will ruin my friendship with my BFF. I feel so guilty … what should I do? I need them both!

jojo

Dear jojo,

First thing’s first: don’t beat yourself up for having feelings for someone. I know this is a tough situation, but when you like someone, you like someone. If this guy was your BFF’s boyfriend … that would be a different story. But who’s to say you and your friend can’t crush on the same guy at the same time?!

Decisions, Decisions

Once you come to term with your feelings, it’s time to make a decision. The fact is, if you end up going for this guy, there’s a chance it could ruin your friendship with your BFF. The decision you need to make should center around this question: is this guy really worth losing your best friend over? If he is, then it’s time to get real and get honest with everyone – including yourself – and reveal your feelings. Whatever you do, don’t try and hide this from your BFF; the results of lying could be disastrous.

Keeping Your BFF

If you decide that no, this guy is NOT worth losing your friendship over, then you have to stop hanging out with him, stop spending time with him and try to avoid seeing him as much as possible. You may or may not want to tell your BFF what happened; if you think it will do more harm than good, you may not want to say anything and just work on moving on from your crush.

Have Your Say

Has this ever happened to you? Got any good advice for jojo? Leave your comment below!

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cherryblossom125
I rememba dat happend 2 me b4 mi bff liked a guy nd thyvstarted dating nd thn i liked h...
commented: Sun May 06, 2012

BellePrincessxoxoHoran
That happened to me either. i liked a guy but didnt told no one, after my friend told m...
commented: Thu Apr 19, 2012

Princeton12345
Tell UR friend that U like him if she is truly UR Friend she would understand that is ...
commented: Mon Apr 16, 2012

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