Dear Dish-It, I Told Him I Was Dying

Advice for Teens

Dear Dish-It,

I told my friend a lie to make him be sympathetic towards me. I said that I was going to die but I wasn't. He found out that I wasn't. I told him someone was just using my screen name, like a hacker but he didn't believe me and now he hates me! He's full of himself but I like him and I want to be friends. What do I do?
climbis1

Dear climbis1,

I don't blame your friend for not wanting to be your friend anymore. Not only did you lie about dying, (which was a pretty serious, completely unfunny lie,) you then lied about lying. That's pretty low. If you haven't figured it out yet, allow me to explain... the way to a boy's heart is not through lying. You may have ruined the friendship forever, so the best plan is to give the dude some space and hope that, in time, he finds a way to forgive you. Also, if you think he's so full of himself, why are you so desperate to hang on to his friendship? Perhaps it's time for both of you to go your separate ways.

Dear Dish-It,

Not too long ago, my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. The reason was because I'm not really suppose to be dating until I'm 17. I'm 16. He wasn't too thrilled about dating secretly, so we broke it off. He said he'd still want to date me when I turned 17, though. Not too long after we broke up, he got a new girlfriend. At first I was totally sad, but I got over it and now I couldn't be happier for him. We're still friends and we still talk at school. But a few days ago he asked me to dream of him if I could, and he added an "I love you." Does he still possibly have feelings for me? I'm a bit confused.
Nique

Dear Nique,

Yeah, this is a tough one. Your ex broke up with you because you weren't supposed to have a boyfriend but said he'd definitely be interested in dating you in the future. Then he asks you to dream of him, and tells you he loves you, despite the fact that he's dating another girl. If only he would spell things out for you, huh? Do you see where I'm going with this? I don't think your ex could make his feelings more clear. Of course he still likes you. I think your blind Aunt Martha could see that! So, if you still wanna try and work things out with him, let him know that you feel the same way. But you should probably wait until he loses the current GF before you start lockin' lips again.

Dear Dish-It,

I'm mad at my friends for ditching me for a more popular group.
Tiff

Dear Tiff,

If your friends have ditched you for a different group of peeps, they don't sound like the kind of friends you wanna be stressin' over. Don't waste your time being mad at them, they aren't worth it. Just get on with things and start lookin' to make friends with some cool kids who'll like you for you. Your ex-friends will realize soon enough that being popular isn't all it's cracked out to be and they may come back beggin' to be friends again. But by then, you won't need 'em!

So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.

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