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Dear Dish-It: I'm Afraid of Performing in Public

Dear Dish-It,

I love to dance and all but I'm afraid of dancing and singing in public. I can never build up the confidence to do the things I love in public. Is there something wrong for me or is it natural?

Crazy

Dear Crazy,

Performing in public, especially the first few times you do it, can be a very intimidating experience. Nearly everyone experiences some degree of nerves before taking to the stage and showing off their talent.

Accept Criticism

There are two reasons you might not be able to build up the confidence. The first is that you’re afraid of messing up. Just remember that the more you practice, the easier it’ll be to perform. The second is that you’re afraid that people might criticize or reject your talent. But consider this: if you never show the world what you’re made of, then what good is having the talent in the first place? You weren’t given the ability to dance and sing so that you could simply perform in front of your bedroom mirror for the rest of your life. Just remember that criticism is something every performer faces. You just need keep your head high, don’t get discouraged and use whatever you’re told as a way to improve.

Start Small

The best way to build confidence is to start by performing in front of people you love and trust. Start with your parents or your extended family. Then move onto your friends. Keep the groups small at first so it’s not so intimidating. Next you can try performing in front of your class or in a school talent show. Once you perform in front of a gymnasium of people you know - people you will see on a daily basis - think about how easy it’ll be to perform in front of an even larger group of strangers who you’ll never have to see again.

You're Not Alone

Take comfort in the fact that even big name celebs like Katy Perry get stage fright before performing. “I got chills and butterflies - it’s a huge adrenaline rush. All the hairs stick up on my body,” she said in regards to her performance at the 2012 Radio 1 Teen Awards. She was so overwhelmed by her nerves that it brought her to tears. So remember, being afraid to perform in public is completely natural whether you’re a beginner or an international superstar. It’s time to gather some courage and dive in! And use that adrenaline rush to your advantage!

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Do you have any advice for Crazy? Leave your comment below!

 

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"classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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