Dear Dish-It: I'm Afraid of Performing in Public

Crazy asks: I love to dance and all but I'm afraid of dancing and singing in public. I can never build up the confidence to do the things I love in public. Is there something wrong for me or is it natural? Back to Article

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Sasha200 wrote:
2012-11-15 07:13:13 -0800

If you feel confident, you'll do great!

kyraboo101 wrote:
2012-11-11 16:25:04 -0800

I Am Super Scared But I Have Learned To Build Up Confidence And Now I Can Do It With People I know....

kyraboo101 wrote:
2012-11-11 16:19:25 -0800

Why Would U Tell Her That If She Is Trying To Build Up Confidence? Dumb People theses Days I Sware!! Just Wanna Talk

five26 wrote:
2012-11-02 18:59:21 -0700

just do your best

unexist wrote:
2012-11-02 16:46:02 -0700

it is completely human nature. i feel that way too.if youre willing to try, the only thing keeping you back is worrying about it. trust me.

:PSiLlY wrote:
2012-11-01 16:55:53 -0700

I'm not afraid to perform in public. Just remember that it does not madder what people think of you its what you think of yourself.

Marbear21 wrote:
2012-10-27 11:20:05 -0700

I also have another way that may make you less scared. Find one person in the audience, boyfriend/girlfriend, mom, dad, grandparent, best-friend, ext, and think they are the only person watching you look only at them and only think they are here for you. (f.y.i. make sure you think of a person that would not put you down because if they put you down you might get more nervous.) Good luck with preforming. And remember always do your best no matter what.

Marbear21 wrote:
2012-10-27 11:16:00 -0700

It is totally natural to be afraid to preform in public. I am 14 and when I was 3 I started to dance. I was soooo terrified my first performance, but my teacher told me to think of everyone in their underwear and you will think you are the only person who is not weird and u will not be as scared. Its a rather silly thing to do but it works.

pooka7 wrote:
2012-10-23 16:47:52 -0700

i think crazy you should think possessive take a few deep breaths then ignore your nerves of being afraid of performing in public..

niamhlolly wrote:
2012-10-22 14:04:39 -0700

yesterday me and my bffs were peforming in front of 500 people what i did was looked at my mum when i was singing and i got stopped my old people and they said i was gr8 Raspberry

unicorns101:) wrote:
2012-10-21 18:12:03 -0700

i start crying when in public, my voice starts to crack and my face turns hot. I get soooo scared

_-UnderTheSun.- wrote:
2012-10-20 11:57:08 -0700

Crazy: You are not weird. I love singing and performing on piano, but I am afraid what people will think xD. I have now thought, who cares what people think? Be you. We are all beautiful in our own way!

Doodlebug311 wrote:
2012-10-19 10:02:14 -0700

Dear Crazy: your not alone! You should see me when I have a dance lesson at school, i'm a nervous wreck! don't worry about people thinking your weird, most people don't like performing in public. you could try what I did, which is to do small things with some of my mates first, to get used to it, and then do a couple of solos. hope this helps. big luv! xxx

all about carly
all about carly wrote:
2012-10-16 14:47:44 -0700

i know u won a talent shoe brittnay12 about 5 of them soo i gues u now am kinda not

the x mster
the x mster wrote:
2012-10-16 14:47:18 -0700

well im not scared to play my violin in front of people that i dont know it helps to think about what your playing or some thing that you are doing and that you love doing it but if you dont i have nothing to say need mor help talk to me and i will help you

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Cree Lady_1622740 wrote:
2012-10-16 14:46:34 -0700

I get nervous too. I do plays and sing in front of my whole church. But I am afraid of messing up!

brittnay12 wrote:
2012-10-16 14:43:47 -0700

am not its fun

codysimpsonstar wrote:
2012-10-16 14:40:09 -0700

im scared too help HELP

zebragurl34 wrote:
2012-10-13 20:19:49 -0700

i am amazing at art and music but i am afraid that i will get nervous and start to choak up on stage and mabe everybody will laugh at me and i try to image everybody in underwear but the only person i see in underwear is ME! Dazed

Erin96878 wrote:
2012-10-09 13:33:01 -0700

I know how you feel. I've been dancing ever since I was 6 and I still get nervous!

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