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Dear Dish-it: I Want To Grow Up

Dec 27, 2012

Dear Dish-it,

I'm a young teen, just finishing pubertybut I really want to be an adult. No one will hire someone my age, so I can't get an after school job. My parents buy a lot of junk food; I want to be able to go to the store on my own and pick out a better diet, but I can't do that either. I also want to move out and get my own place. Is there something wrong with me?

13 Going On 30

Dear 13 Going On 30,

Let me start by saying that there’s nothing wrong with you. Lots of people your age feel the desire to grow up and be an adult before it’s time. It’s your desire for freedom that’s causing you to feel this way. It just shows that you’re maturing. But remember, being a kid and a teen can be the best part of your life. You have very few responsibilities and you get to have fun and hang out with your friends on a daily basis. Most adults don’t have that luxury.

With Adulthood Comes Responsibilies

What you’re desiring are the good things about being an adult: choosing what you eat, living on your own, making your own money. But you’re forgetting about all the responsibilities that come along with that. With a job, you’ll have to pay taxes and lose your free time to spend with friends. Buying your own food seems like a nice idea, but the costs can be astronomical. And of course, having your own place would cost you a fortune in time and money. You’d have to maintain a yard if you have one, clean your entire house, and cook your own meals. Plus you need to pay rent along with other expenses like your cable, internet and hydro.

Enjoy Life’s Journey

Don’t rush your life. I did the same thing when I was your age. But my mom always told me, “it’s the journey that defines you, not the destination.” This always seemed so preachy until I really thought about it. The journey is what defines us. It’s good to dream, but if we focus too hard on the things we want rather than the things we have, we won’t enjoy life’s ride. Not only that, but we also won’t appreciate the things we achieve if they come too quickly or easily. So please, enjoy being a teen. It’ll only last for a few years and once it’s over, you’ll be wishing you had that time back.

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-Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
"jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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donteatcarrots
talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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kittenkid
First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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