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Dear Dish-it: I Want To Grow Up

Dec 27, 2012

Dear Dish-it,

I'm a young teen, just finishing pubertybut I really want to be an adult. No one will hire someone my age, so I can't get an after school job. My parents buy a lot of junk food; I want to be able to go to the store on my own and pick out a better diet, but I can't do that either. I also want to move out and get my own place. Is there something wrong with me?

13 Going On 30

Dear 13 Going On 30,

Let me start by saying that there’s nothing wrong with you. Lots of people your age feel the desire to grow up and be an adult before it’s time. It’s your desire for freedom that’s causing you to feel this way. It just shows that you’re maturing. But remember, being a kid and a teen can be the best part of your life. You have very few responsibilities and you get to have fun and hang out with your friends on a daily basis. Most adults don’t have that luxury.

With Adulthood Comes Responsibilies

What you’re desiring are the good things about being an adult: choosing what you eat, living on your own, making your own money. But you’re forgetting about all the responsibilities that come along with that. With a job, you’ll have to pay taxes and lose your free time to spend with friends. Buying your own food seems like a nice idea, but the costs can be astronomical. And of course, having your own place would cost you a fortune in time and money. You’d have to maintain a yard if you have one, clean your entire house, and cook your own meals. Plus you need to pay rent along with other expenses like your cable, internet and hydro.

Enjoy Life’s Journey

Don’t rush your life. I did the same thing when I was your age. But my mom always told me, “it’s the journey that defines you, not the destination.” This always seemed so preachy until I really thought about it. The journey is what defines us. It’s good to dream, but if we focus too hard on the things we want rather than the things we have, we won’t enjoy life’s ride. Not only that, but we also won’t appreciate the things we achieve if they come too quickly or easily. So please, enjoy being a teen. It’ll only last for a few years and once it’s over, you’ll be wishing you had that time back.

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rainbowpoptart
rainbowpoptart posted in Style:
Hello Amelia! Fellow natural ginger here. Your hair is a gorgeous colour and I don't blame your parents for not wanting you to dye it. How about the dye only be temporary? It won't stay on forever, so you'll have your cool rainbow colours and still have your natural colour. I do need to warn you, though, don't dye your hair too much. It's not good for your scalp. Good luck. :)
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Pink_Cool_Girl
Pink_Cool_Girl posted in Style:
They know what is best for you. But if you really wanna dye your hair, you should compromise with them. Like for instance: tell them you can dye the bottom of your hair the color, and then when you get older, you could maybe dye a little more, and so on. But your parents know what's best for you, and they want you to look presentable.                       ~PCG :)
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Hello players of KidzWorld! I am Amelia, feel free to call me Payton or whatever you'd like! So, let us jump right into this! :D -=+=- I have natural ginger hair and really, REALLY strict parents. I would like to dye my hair this blue color called "Atomic Turquoise" by Maniac Panic :) However, my parents don't want me to dye my hair as they think that these colors look "trashy". Girls whom I know, have dyed hair. One of them even has piercings I want. Another has had her hair every color of the rainbow and more! So, my parents are very strict and quite... I don't even know. They won't allow me to do anything really... Does anyone have anything I can use to have my parents allow me to dye my hair? Thank you! :D <3 ~Payton
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Style:
lisp or not, i'm sure you're a nice person. i don't even know if you can get rid of this lisp- maybe practice speaking at home, try different movements with your lips or mouth, i don't know. don't let a lisp make you less confident, that doesn't change anything about you as a person. be yourself and be confident.
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Ezma
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Dear Dish it, Im already a grown teen but I don't think I am that easy to get along whem meeting new friends in school. And I think its because I lose my confidence cause I got some speech defect which called lisp. I often sometimes looks weird when theyre talking to me and It really affects me. What should I do? I have read and tried all the practice and therapy I read in the internet for a year but it doesnt make a change. I hope you help me
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