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Dear Dish-it: I Want To Grow Up

Dec 27, 2012

Dear Dish-it,

I'm a young teen, just finishing pubertybut I really want to be an adult. No one will hire someone my age, so I can't get an after school job. My parents buy a lot of junk food; I want to be able to go to the store on my own and pick out a better diet, but I can't do that either. I also want to move out and get my own place. Is there something wrong with me?

13 Going On 30

Dear 13 Going On 30,

Let me start by saying that there’s nothing wrong with you. Lots of people your age feel the desire to grow up and be an adult before it’s time. It’s your desire for freedom that’s causing you to feel this way. It just shows that you’re maturing. But remember, being a kid and a teen can be the best part of your life. You have very few responsibilities and you get to have fun and hang out with your friends on a daily basis. Most adults don’t have that luxury.

With Adulthood Comes Responsibilies

What you’re desiring are the good things about being an adult: choosing what you eat, living on your own, making your own money. But you’re forgetting about all the responsibilities that come along with that. With a job, you’ll have to pay taxes and lose your free time to spend with friends. Buying your own food seems like a nice idea, but the costs can be astronomical. And of course, having your own place would cost you a fortune in time and money. You’d have to maintain a yard if you have one, clean your entire house, and cook your own meals. Plus you need to pay rent along with other expenses like your cable, internet and hydro.

Enjoy Life’s Journey

Don’t rush your life. I did the same thing when I was your age. But my mom always told me, “it’s the journey that defines you, not the destination.” This always seemed so preachy until I really thought about it. The journey is what defines us. It’s good to dream, but if we focus too hard on the things we want rather than the things we have, we won’t enjoy life’s ride. Not only that, but we also won’t appreciate the things we achieve if they come too quickly or easily. So please, enjoy being a teen. It’ll only last for a few years and once it’s over, you’ll be wishing you had that time back.

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Dear Dish-It in the forums

american_brit
I'll say it again, it's not weird. I know plenty of guys who can't do those things and plenty of girls who can.  She's your sister. Your YOUNGER SISTER. Therefore, she must be inferior to you when it comes to this kind of thing, right? Nope. That's far from the truth. And you're not the only guy who experiences this kind of thing.
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Family Issues:
its not weird, she juss wants to look good.  if u think tht its weird or ur envious of ur sisters look, then u should give it a try.
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sweettoothfan
"9bella" wrote:its not weird my yo more yunger sister can run far more pacers than me my younger sis can beat me in arm wrestling and can do push ups and chin ups while i can't. you gotta admit that makes it weird. i want to think its fine but its not. 
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momika45
momika45 posted in Family Issues:
I feel so unwanted.. My father is gone so I only have my mom and other family members.. Plus her stupid boyfriend. My mom has compleat lay disconnected from my family bc they all think her bf is bad for her. They were just looking out for her! So now I only have my siblings, friends, mother, and her STUPID BOYFRIEND!! And to top it all off, my uncle decided he no longer wanted a family, so he just packed up, and left. Just like that. He left my 7 yr old cousin, HIS DAUGHTER, at the age of SEVEN! For no absolute reason! What do I do now..?
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_PreachItSista_
HONEY! Im a really religious Christian and in the Holy Bible it says that you cant kill yourself only God can. So you will end p going to Heck
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