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Dear Dish-it: Does He Love Me?

Jan 03, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 and a half months now, but he still hasn’t told me he loves me. Is there a problem with our relationship? Is he too afraid to admit his true feelings to me because he’s scared of how I feel about him?

Boyfriend-Drama

Dear Boyfriend-Drama,

As you say, you’ve only been together for 2 and a half months. That’s not a very long time. Saying “I love you” is a big step. A HUGE step. When people say it too early, they’re often confusing lust for love. In the early stages of a relationship, things are really exciting. You’re having fun and discovering all the things you like about each other. But in order to know that you truly love someone, you need to experience their faults as well. And sometimes, at the beginning of a relationship, people stay on their best behavior so their faults don’t show. That’s why it’s so important not to be hasty. You need to know exactly what you’re getting into before you say those words.

Communication Is Key

But that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your feelings. In fact, it’s important that you do. That way you’re not playing head games with each other, constantly wondering “does he still like me?” So sit down and have a chat with him. Tell him where you stand, and even if he’s not forthcoming with his feelings, flat out ask him where his head is at. If he’s into you, you can breathe easy. If he’s not, then it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. No sense giving your heart to someone who isn’t feeling it. That way, you can move on and find someone who won’t keep you guessing.

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xfile93

xfile93 wrote:

perhaps she's right@ JennyD
commented: Mon Jul 07, 2014

Disney_

Disney_ wrote:

Rather have him say it once nd mean it than many times nd not mean it c;
commented: Thu Jul 03, 2014

shushu21

shushu21 wrote:

he is just nervous to get out his true feelings for you sometimes guys have that they d...
commented: Wed Nov 27, 2013

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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
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young fee
young fee posted in Friends:
I think you can not be sure he likes you. take me as an example theres this girl in my class who i talk to everyday. Now i see her as a sister and i have and will go to lengths just to make sure shes okay and her boyfriend doesnt hurt her. This might be what is happening in your situation so i advice that you wait a bit longer because him loooking at you may mean that he likes you and is waiting for the right time to tell you. Meanwhile you can get closer to him and flirt once in a while to asure that him you also like him (that is if he isnt sure). And dont worry if he doesnt like you back its better to have a friend who cares about you than a boyfriend who doesnt like you that much and is dreaming about someone else.
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InternetOwl
What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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ElfyKathy
Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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