Dear Dish-it: Does He Love Me?

Jan 03, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 and a half months now, but he still hasn’t told me he loves me. Is there a problem with our relationship? Is he too afraid to admit his true feelings to me because he’s scared of how I feel about him?


Dear Boyfriend-Drama,

As you say, you’ve only been together for 2 and a half months. That’s not a very long time. Saying “I love you” is a big step. A HUGE step. When people say it too early, they’re often confusing lust for love. In the early stages of a relationship, things are really exciting. You’re having fun and discovering all the things you like about each other. But in order to know that you truly love someone, you need to experience their faults as well. And sometimes, at the beginning of a relationship, people stay on their best behavior so their faults don’t show. That’s why it’s so important not to be hasty. You need to know exactly what you’re getting into before you say those words.

Communication Is Key

But that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your feelings. In fact, it’s important that you do. That way you’re not playing head games with each other, constantly wondering “does he still like me?” So sit down and have a chat with him. Tell him where you stand, and even if he’s not forthcoming with his feelings, flat out ask him where his head is at. If he’s into you, you can breathe easy. If he’s not, then it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. No sense giving your heart to someone who isn’t feeling it. That way, you can move on and find someone who won’t keep you guessing.

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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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