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Dear Dish-it: Does He Love Me?

Jan 03, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 and a half months now, but he still hasn’t told me he loves me. Is there a problem with our relationship? Is he too afraid to admit his true feelings to me because he’s scared of how I feel about him?

Boyfriend-Drama

Dear Boyfriend-Drama,

As you say, you’ve only been together for 2 and a half months. That’s not a very long time. Saying “I love you” is a big step. A HUGE step. When people say it too early, they’re often confusing lust for love. In the early stages of a relationship, things are really exciting. You’re having fun and discovering all the things you like about each other. But in order to know that you truly love someone, you need to experience their faults as well. And sometimes, at the beginning of a relationship, people stay on their best behavior so their faults don’t show. That’s why it’s so important not to be hasty. You need to know exactly what you’re getting into before you say those words.

Communication Is Key

But that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your feelings. In fact, it’s important that you do. That way you’re not playing head games with each other, constantly wondering “does he still like me?” So sit down and have a chat with him. Tell him where you stand, and even if he’s not forthcoming with his feelings, flat out ask him where his head is at. If he’s into you, you can breathe easy. If he’s not, then it’s better to find out sooner rather than later. No sense giving your heart to someone who isn’t feeling it. That way, you can move on and find someone who won’t keep you guessing.

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electricatheist
If you're willing to face the consequences, then yes. I know a lot of people say violence is never the answer, but in truth it sometimes is. If you really want somebody to leave you alone, then fight. If you win, it shows that you're dominant over that person and hopefully he/she will leave you alone.
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DisneyanimeLover
Lovely advice. Than you. I found this quite helpful.
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Honestly, I think it's better to get your feelings out sooner rather than later- maybe ask him why he's being mean to you... Though, don't say it in such a way that annoys boys... If you know what I mean.
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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
Hello. Just call me Carrots if you don't know me already. :p Anyway, I'm hoping I'll be able to make a little forum post on making friends and making sure the friendships last. ^-^ ••• I hope this helps. ••• Making friends// Making friends can be dauntless, especially if you moved schools or to a different place which is simply far away from your old friends. I mean, it's fine to keep in contact with your old friends ##-####, text, letters etc), but you do have to consider it'll be better if you can make more friends at your new location- seriously, it'll help! How to make friends// • Get talking with people- join in people's conversations; try to be a little more social- it'll be easier to make friends if you're social around people. • Have a look around- are there any clubs or events that catch your interest- maybe a drama class or art club? If you join these type of things, you're more likely to meet people who have similar interests to you. :3 • Do act yourself. That means not to be so loud that people take you in the wrong way- but don't be too quiet either- otherwise people won't notice you! • Pay attention to people when they're speaking- they'll appreciate it if you just listen to what they say and you can have your say too! • Hang out with one or two people that you already know- who knows, you might be introduced to their friends too. • Do make an effort! c: [posting more tomorrow- I'm sorry that this is absolutely terrible]
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CloudNineGirl
CloudNineGirl posted in Friends:
Aw, so cute! :)
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