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Dear Dish-it: Am I Cool?

Feb 28, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I don't think I'm cool. I have lots of friends, and even a girlfriend. Does that make me cool?

Questionably Cool

Dear Questionably Cool,

Being cool is determined by your state of mind, and it affects how other people perceive you. You don't have to look a certain way or dress in fashionable clothes or have a bad attitude. All you really need is confidence. But that has to come from inside of you. So you need to change your thoughts. Stop telling yourself that you're not cool. Instead, tell yourself that you're a good person, surround yourself with positive people and don't worry about what other people think of you.

What Does Cool Look Like?

Consider the kids at school who are considered cool. There's probably a wide range of looks and body types and personalities. What makes them cool? Likely it's because they're confident and outgoing and they have a lot of friends. Well, you already have the friends part down. Now you just need the confidence.

Remember What's Important

Keep in mind, though, that being cool is not what life is about. The fact that you have a great group of friends and a girlfriend should be enriching enough. Always be yourself and don't try to fit into someone else's mold of what cool or popular looks like. In other words, embrace who you are. If the "cool kids" don't think you're cool, then they're not the type of people you should be surrounding yourself with anyway. However, if your friends and your girlfriend and all the people who love you think you're cool, then, my friend, you've already won.

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Hemmingsgirl
Hemmingsgirl posted in Friends:
That's horrible I hope people stop saying that. How rude. 
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jazebelle
jazebelle posted in Friends:
There was a rumor about me losing my ######### to my teacher. It wasn't true. I have a disorder were its hard for me to read Cuz I would think its one word but it wasn't it. And I always stay after school in his classroom Cuz he helps me a lot. 
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Hemmingsgirl
Hemmingsgirl posted in Friends:
Dear Dish-It I have a horse that I board at a local barn. I was really excited when I started going there because there are 3 other kids there my age: Riley, Lilly and Isaac,  who are all 14 (I'm 13). Isaac is the only boy, and lately some of my family have been thinking I have a crush on him. But I don't! I think crushes are weird and gross and honestly have never really had one. I consider him a friend, nothing more. But nobody believes me! Every time they see me texting someone they ask if it's Isaac. If I'm zoned out they ask if I'm thinking about him. But I never am! I know that I should just ignore them but its really difficult. I feel uncomfortable riding horses together or talking because I feel like it'll make people think I have a crush on him. I know my fam isn't trying to be mean but its really upsetting, and the more I get upset the more they tease me. I don't think they realize that I don't find the teasing nice or fun. And also im not usually a sensitive person so maybe this is a touchy subject for me? Thanks so much!  P.S. Riley and Lilly don't think I like him. 
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Kvinne
Kvinne posted in Friends:
Teleportation, wish magic, some black magic here and there (In response to Erza_Scarlet56)
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David_Teh_Derp
David_Teh_Derp posted in Friends:
Well, I don't really know, but I am sort of insane too, but not in the same way. I have instead practiced my own opinion and been very philosophical since I bumped my head when I fell of my bike. So you're not alone, many people including mentally stable ones have imaginary friends. Even some shows are based on someone having imaginary friends. Like a show I used to watch when I was small, Alfons Åberg, yes, in later seasons he did get real friends but he was known for his imaginary friend. About that practicing magic thing, it seems a bit weird but then, there is not much difference from putting frogs, bug's blood and secret herbs into a cauldron from cooking French food. So I think you can discover your future from using cooking stuff to practice your 'magic'. "Insanity is not insanity if you would make a movie of it, and nothing exciting, adrenaline rushing or thrilling would happen in it"  -Me As you can see I have a very complicated opinion on it, maybe even the most. Oh, and you could be loosing your sanity or just having a time where this happens and everything is normal again. (And no, I haven't seen your previous discussions)
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