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Dear Dish-it: Am I Cool?

Feb 28, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I don't think I'm cool. I have lots of friends, and even a girlfriend. Does that make me cool?

Questionably Cool

Dear Questionably Cool,

Being cool is determined by your state of mind, and it affects how other people perceive you. You don't have to look a certain way or dress in fashionable clothes or have a bad attitude. All you really need is confidence. But that has to come from inside of you. So you need to change your thoughts. Stop telling yourself that you're not cool. Instead, tell yourself that you're a good person, surround yourself with positive people and don't worry about what other people think of you.

What Does Cool Look Like?

Consider the kids at school who are considered cool. There's probably a wide range of looks and body types and personalities. What makes them cool? Likely it's because they're confident and outgoing and they have a lot of friends. Well, you already have the friends part down. Now you just need the confidence.

Remember What's Important

Keep in mind, though, that being cool is not what life is about. The fact that you have a great group of friends and a girlfriend should be enriching enough. Always be yourself and don't try to fit into someone else's mold of what cool or popular looks like. In other words, embrace who you are. If the "cool kids" don't think you're cool, then they're not the type of people you should be surrounding yourself with anyway. However, if your friends and your girlfriend and all the people who love you think you're cool, then, my friend, you've already won.

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BookWorm86
This is GREAT advice! Thx a lot StephRox!:) I have a younger brother & he can be EXASPERATING at times lol! Great advice!!:D
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My little brother is annoying as ever, but I have to handle him. He is my brother after all.
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Arenl
Arenl posted in Family Issues:
@Sophieeee I definitely agree with you.
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Sophieeee
 Loosing a parent is hard, your dad knows that and I'm sure that he misses your mom just as much as you do. Whether you explain to him how you are feeling or not, you should know that your Dad will always love you and admitting to him how you feel isn't going to change that. Although it is completely understandable how you feel, you need to let your dad move one eventually. It's not fair to him if he has to spend the rest of his life alone. Even though you might not see it, its a good thin that your dad is finally feeling comfortable enough to date. It doesn't mean that he is letting go of your mom or that he will forget about her, it means that he is moving on with his life. You lost your mother and he lost the love of his life. Dating other people will probably start off being just as hard for him as it is for you. My advice is that you talk to your dad. Let him know how you feel in the most gentle and understanding way that you can. Don't flat out say that you don't want him dating anyone, tell him that you still miss your mom and its hard to see him with other people. Let me know how it goes, good luck. :)
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