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Dear Dish-it: I Hate the Way I Look

Mar 07, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I'm only 11-years-old and I weigh 155 pounds. I know I'm fat, but I want to lose weight and get a boyfriend. Can you help me?

Overweight

Dear Overweight,

I'm sorry to hear that you're not happy with your appearance. But the truth is, most people aren't. More often than not, even people who may look perfect to you want to change something about themselves. There's so much pressure in the media nowadays to look a certain way. But honestly, many of the celebs you see in magazines and on tv who look skinny and beautiful are actually underweight. They either over exercise or they have unhealthy eating habits that don't give them all the nutrients their bodies need. Normal people shouldn't expect to look like that. For you, the most important thing is finding the weight that makes you both happy and healthy.

Everyone's Body is Different

Keep in mind that everyone's body is different. Some people have a higher metabolism than others, which allows them to eat more and stay trim. I'm not saying that you don't need to be concerned about your weight, however. Idealy, at 11-years-old, you don't want to weight 155 pounds. But don't be discouraged. Part of that weight could be due to your height if you're fairly tall. In theory, 1 inch in height is supposed to equal 4 to 6 pounds. Online you can find healthy weight-to-height charts for your frame size, or ask your doctor.

Be Active

If your family has poor eating habits, that could be the problem. Ask your mom or dad to cook healthy meals, and replace your snacks with fruits and vegetables. Nowadays people have the tendency to overeat, so Google the appropriate portion sizes you should be having with each meal for someone your age. And don't forget to exercise. Join a sport, jump rope or go swimming. Anything you can do to be active for at least 1 hour every day will help you shed those pounds. It's better to take the weight off now when you're still young and growing, and while your metabolism is still high. The older you get, the slower your metabolism will become making it harder to lose weight. 

Talk to Your Doctor

If you have anymore questions or concerns about your weight or how to shed those unwanted pounds, ask your parents to book an appointment with your family doctor. He or she can put you on an eating plan or at least get you motivated. Just remember, it's never too late to make a change. And once you do, it will boost your confidence and improve your health. Best of luck!

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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? i suggest you wait i mean you are going to be 16 that's way too young to be dating someone who is 4/5 years older than you,no? You can still talk to him when it comes to your anxiety attacks and all of that because I have those too every night so I know how it feels, but maybe you should wait. But at the end of the day it's your decision I'm just here to give advice 
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Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice???
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I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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