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Dear Dish-it: I Hate the Way I Look

Mar 07, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I'm only 11-years-old and I weigh 155 pounds. I know I'm fat, but I want to lose weight and get a boyfriend. Can you help me?

Overweight

Dear Overweight,

I'm sorry to hear that you're not happy with your appearance. But the truth is, most people aren't. More often than not, even people who may look perfect to you want to change something about themselves. There's so much pressure in the media nowadays to look a certain way. But honestly, many of the celebs you see in magazines and on tv who look skinny and beautiful are actually underweight. They either over exercise or they have unhealthy eating habits that don't give them all the nutrients their bodies need. Normal people shouldn't expect to look like that. For you, the most important thing is finding the weight that makes you both happy and healthy.

Everyone's Body is Different

Keep in mind that everyone's body is different. Some people have a higher metabolism than others, which allows them to eat more and stay trim. I'm not saying that you don't need to be concerned about your weight, however. Idealy, at 11-years-old, you don't want to weight 155 pounds. But don't be discouraged. Part of that weight could be due to your height if you're fairly tall. In theory, 1 inch in height is supposed to equal 4 to 6 pounds. Online you can find healthy weight-to-height charts for your frame size, or ask your doctor.

Be Active

If your family has poor eating habits, that could be the problem. Ask your mom or dad to cook healthy meals, and replace your snacks with fruits and vegetables. Nowadays people have the tendency to overeat, so Google the appropriate portion sizes you should be having with each meal for someone your age. And don't forget to exercise. Join a sport, jump rope or go swimming. Anything you can do to be active for at least 1 hour every day will help you shed those pounds. It's better to take the weight off now when you're still young and growing, and while your metabolism is still high. The older you get, the slower your metabolism will become making it harder to lose weight. 

Talk to Your Doctor

If you have anymore questions or concerns about your weight or how to shed those unwanted pounds, ask your parents to book an appointment with your family doctor. He or she can put you on an eating plan or at least get you motivated. Just remember, it's never too late to make a change. And once you do, it will boost your confidence and improve your health. Best of luck!

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Best Way to Lose Weight?

  • Eat more fruits and veggies, even though I hate them.
  • Swear off junk food.
  • Exercise three times a week.
  • Stick to a healthy diet - and follow it!

Dear Dish-It In The Forums

bffeaea
bffeaea posted in Friends:
I don't know you and I'm not exactly sure how you act, but being friendly is definitely the way to go. Don't change yourself for ANYBODY. Especially someone who you don't need to impress. Speaking of impressing, don't try, do. If you are telling a story and that happens to impress them than that's great! But don't go out of your way to try to make yourself look awesome because I'm sure you already are. Be yourself. But the most important thug now you can do is not try to make a million friends. Because personally I would rather have one AWESOME friend than a million ok friends. I hope this helped. :)
reply about 6 hours
HoneyHamstern
HoneyHamstern posted in Friends:
Be yourself and most important of all, be kind. You will get great friends by doing so. Being popular doesn't always mean being nice; sometimes people tend to be rude and bossy to be "popular" and that isn't good. But if you participate or even start a group at school, at the library or somewhere important in the community (community service like the Rotary Club is a good way to start for kids and teens) can be a great way to meet friends and share your happiness.
reply about 7 hours
esthery27
"f3rr3tgal" wrote:dear dish-it,        I absolutely love my family but... my dad has these headaches  where if they are really bad i can not say anything right he will get really mad. i don't know what to do i really hate being yelled at by my  dad and i love him soo much !!!! what do i do?  [s:sm3/1jvp]                                                       thanks,                                                            f3rr3tgal Tell him that you love him and you understand he's suffering but you really don't like it when he yells at you. You can write a note or a card to him. I'm sure he'll understand. And of course if needed see a doctor so that he'll know what to do to deal with those headaches.
reply about 7 hours
esthery27
esthery27 posted in Friends:
You won't want to be, it's exhausting. Just be happy the way you are and don't care about what others think or say about you.
reply about 8 hours
GiddyUpGecko
GiddyUpGecko posted in Friends:
What if you just aren't populr, and you want to be???  :(
reply about 21 hours