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Dear Dish-it: How Do I Change My Reputation?

May 15, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

I’ve been putting up a front for 2 years now. I pretend to be reckless, evil and crazy, and I don’t know why. Now I have a stupid reputationI want to go back to the way I was before, a girl who loves animals, nature, anti-bullying clubs, school, reading and writing. What should I do?

Pretender

Dear Pretender,

As we grow up, it’s normal to go through different phases. We try out different personalities, clothing styles, groups of friends and over-all personas. But in truth, we’re only trying to figure out who we are. Usually there is a deeper reason why we adopt extremes, like being evil and crazy as you say. Look inside yourself and figure out what is missing in your life that is causing you to act this way. Are you having troubles at home? With school? With friends? With your self-image or confidence? Are you lonely? Once you’ve figured out the reason, you need to take steps toward filling this void with positivity.

Moving On

The great thing is, it looks like you’re on the right track. The fact that you want to return to your old self shows that maybe you’ve already moved on from that underlying issue. So congrats! That’s a big step.

Get Involved

The things that you love are very impressive and it’s important that you pursue these passions again. Try getting involved at school, by joining a club or sport. People might be resistant to accept this new you at first, especially if they know the reckless side. But if you consistently show them your softer side, people will eventually forget your crazy past. Another way to go is to join a club outside of school. The new people you meet there won’t know you. So you can be the person you want to be from the start.

Take The First Step

The first step will definitely be the hardest. You may have to change your look or your attitude or, toughest of all, your friends. But it’ll be totally worth it once you stop living this lie and reveal your true self. Don’t let anyone bring you down. You’re strong and you can do this!

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Princessxxo
Princessxxo posted in Friends:
I would have a talk with your friends.  Don't let her take advantage of them. 
reply about 5 hours
Cupcakemaster865
There is a certain someone hanging with my friends that i do not like. I will not say HER name. A few days ago, my friend and I were supposed to buy and sell sweets for a school fundraiser. That SOMEONE took my friend and told her that they should buy sweets and eat them together. When I saw them I was so mad! Then, she wants to say that I'M the issue. ME! And because of that girl, me and my friends don't talk.  :devil :devil :devil :devil :devil she is just like the DEVIL!
reply about 7 hours
Princessxxo
 :/ :/
reply 1 day
Princessxxo
I love them both so much equally :hug [s:p/1m4p] [s:p/1m4r] [s:p/1mkb] [s:p/1mkg]
reply 2 days
angelover4
angelover4 posted in Style:
well, I don't exactly decide it lol. It just a thing that comes naturally to meh. Like I don't like dresses at all and id waay rather wear leggings with a t-shirt and leather jacket lol. Just comes naturally.
reply 3 days