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Dear Dish-It, Why Do We Have to Get Older?

Dear Dish-It,

I am 14 years old and have never been kissed! I am not ugly or stupid but nobody has ever kissed me. I WANT to be kissed, so is there anything I can do?
iamyourdream

Dear iamyourdream,

There is nothing wrong with the fact that you have never being kissed. Tons of peeps don't get their first kisses until they are well into high school - or even later. It doesn't mean that people don't think you're cool or attractive. It's probably just the opposite. Often when you think that no one likes you, there are a ton of peeps crushin' on you in secret, but are just too shy to say anything. Be patient and your time will come. Even if it seems like you're the only one out there who's never locked lips - I guarantee you aren't.


Dear Dish-It,

Why do you have to start getting older and into boys? I would love to have stayed a little kid forever - at least then I had fun. Now I'm just depressed all the time (it's the stupid teenager years!) Please help.
Lisa_hot_chick


Dear Lisa_hot_chick,

It's true that when you're a kid you have a lot less problems to deal with (and a lot less hormones!) But, there are definitely perks to growing up. Remember when you were a kid and were shoved off to bed before the sun had even gone down? Well, that doesn't happen any more, does it? You get to watch cooler movies, meet cool new peeps in high school and stay out later with your buds. I think everyone goes through a rough patch as a teenager (sometimes a five year-long rough patch,) but eventually things do get better.


When those hormones are a ragin', and you can't think of one positive thing in your life, focus on what lies ahead. Once you get past all the bumps and bruises of teen life, you realize that life really isn't that bad. And don't forget to take advantage of the fact that you're young and can go to school dances, have sleepovers, get an allowance and all the stuff you won't get to do when you're older. Don't miss out on the fun stuff cuz you're too busy focusing on the depressing parts. Peace!


So, ya got a burnin' question? Need some love direction? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex, how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com. But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your "username," ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one will ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters every day, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble! Oh! And if ya got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.


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