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Dear Dish-It, What's Going On With My Body?

Dear Dish-It,

I was wondering if you can help me because recently I have been sexually active and all of the sudden when I pee, it started to hurt and I bled. This was one month ago but it stopped now - it just hurts sometimes when I pee. Do I have an STD or infectious disease? My partner and I have been sexually active for two months already and we are using protection, except for one time, so I'm worried. We are sexually active about three times every week. Please help me.
Gods PRECIous GiFt


Dear Gods PRECIous GiFt,

For many girls, their first sexual experience is not as pleasant as they may have imagined. Bleeding after having sex for the first time is common due to the breaking of the hymen (a thin membrane that covers the vaginal opening). If the hymen is broken during sex, then bleeding, and often pain, will occur. There is a way to prevent all the discomfort though, and that's by not having sex at such a young age. As a girl matures, the hymen often stretches with the growth of your body, which means sex can be a lot less painful once your body has had a chance to fully mature - which isn't until you are at least 18.


Now, if the pain persists when you pee, then there is probably something wrong. You should most definitely make an appointment to see a doctor or talk to your school nurse. Chances are you just have a bladder or yeast infection but you won't know for sure until you get in to see a professional. Although you may feel uncomfortable talking to your doctor about these things, now that you are sexually active, it's not just something that's recommended, it's totally necessary to ensure you stay healthy. Don't forget that there are a ton of free clinics out there where your visit will be completely annonymous (no one has to know that you were even there)! Just make sure you get in to see a doc ASAP and keep on top of your sexual health issues, ok?


For general info on sexual health issues, you should bookmark some of these sites so you'll feel a little more informed the next time around.

  • www.teenwire.com is a site sponsored by Planned Parenthood and has a bunch of interesting features and sections for you to check out about relationships, sexually transmitted diseases and other helpful info.
  • Check out Planned Parenthood's Official Site for help in finding a free clinic in your area.

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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? It's really nice that your mother supports it, that always helps!! I'm glad that your family enjoys his company as well. Being 16 while he's 20 is alright. It's a slight odd age gap. But, I think as long as you both are ready, it's alright. Make sure you're mature and safe with your choices though. Personally, I think you should wait until you're closer to at least, 17. But, as long as you two are smart about what you're doing, it should be alright when it come around to it.
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"Shygirl15" wrote:I really like this boy in my second period class but i dont know how to tell him because he knows that im transgender do whatever makes you feel comfortable or just wing it and tell him and if he tells you something because you're trans forget about him! He doesn't deserve you. But it's totally okay if you want to play it safe and not go up to him. You do you. :3 
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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? i suggest you wait i mean you are going to be 16 that's way too young to be dating someone who is 4/5 years older than you,no? You can still talk to him when it comes to your anxiety attacks and all of that because I have those too every night so I know how it feels, but maybe you should wait. But at the end of the day it's your decision I'm just here to give advice 
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SatanslilDemon
Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice???
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I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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