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Dear Dish-It, Should I Dump My Guy?

Dear Dish-It,

I've been having difficulties in my life. My parents are divorced and my mom hates me. School is dragging me down, and that's not all. I've been going out with a boy who's a year older than I am. At first we had a connection - I knew sparks were going off like the 4th of July. Now, I don't know how I feel. It's like we grow more apart each day. He takes everything I say and rewords it into something bad and negative. Please help.
survior01


Dear survior01,

Have you ever heard the saying, "When it rains, it pours?" Sometimes in life, it seems like whatever can go wrong, does go wrong - all at the same time. What you need to do is stop and deal with each issue separately. First, with everything else going on in your life, you definitely do not need a guy who's making you feel bad about yourself. If you don't think you are ready to totally break things off with your BF, then why not take a bit of a breather from one another? That'll give you time to focus on working on your relationship with your mom and getting things back together in the school department. If things are meant to be with the two of you, the "break" won't change that.


Also, you should seriously consider talking with someone about your parent's divorce and your relationship with your mom. Things aren't going to change unless you make an effort and let someone help you. If you're not comfy talking with your school counselor, find a support group for teens with divorced parents, in your area. Sometimes just talking with peeps that are going through similar situations, can really help you deal better. Good Luck!


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    First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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    i need help.   i have really bad anxiety and im depressed all the time.   i dont have anyone that im close to.  its just hard for me to trust people      im really bad at comveying my feelings    id ask someone for help but as i said i dont really get close to anyone     i almost never talk and when i do i say few words and act happy    i also compulively lie so no one knows what im really feeling  i cant express my feelings        i dont have anyone that i trust and its really hard       i thought about killing myself but im afraid to die so i never do anything      since i cant ask anyone in real life im hoping that someone on here can help me           i dont have any interests and im depressed and its almost impossible for me to tell people about it      what do i do?
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