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Dear Dish-It, Should I Dump My Guy?

Dear Dish-It,

I've been having difficulties in my life. My parents are divorced and my mom hates me. School is dragging me down, and that's not all. I've been going out with a boy who's a year older than I am. At first we had a connection - I knew sparks were going off like the 4th of July. Now, I don't know how I feel. It's like we grow more apart each day. He takes everything I say and rewords it into something bad and negative. Please help.
survior01


Dear survior01,

Have you ever heard the saying, "When it rains, it pours?" Sometimes in life, it seems like whatever can go wrong, does go wrong - all at the same time. What you need to do is stop and deal with each issue separately. First, with everything else going on in your life, you definitely do not need a guy who's making you feel bad about yourself. If you don't think you are ready to totally break things off with your BF, then why not take a bit of a breather from one another? That'll give you time to focus on working on your relationship with your mom and getting things back together in the school department. If things are meant to be with the two of you, the "break" won't change that.


Also, you should seriously consider talking with someone about your parent's divorce and your relationship with your mom. Things aren't going to change unless you make an effort and let someone help you. If you're not comfy talking with your school counselor, find a support group for teens with divorced parents, in your area. Sometimes just talking with peeps that are going through similar situations, can really help you deal better. Good Luck!


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