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Advice for Teens About Divorce

Dear Dish-It,

I've been having difficulties in my life. My parents are divorced and my mom hates me. School is dragging me down, and that's not all. I've been going out with a boy who's a year older than I am. At first we had a connection - I knew sparks were going off like the 4th of July. Now, I don't know how I feel. It's like we grow more apart each day. He takes everything I say and rewords it into something bad and negative. Please help.
survior01


Dear survior01,

Have you ever heard the saying, "When it rains, it pours?" Sometimes in life, it seems like whatever can go wrong, does go wrong - all at the same time. What you need to do is stop and deal with each issue separately. First, with everything else going on in your life, you definitely do not need a guy who's making you feel bad about yourself. If you don't think you are ready to totally break things off with your BF, then why not take a bit of a breather from one another? That'll give you time to focus on working on your relationship with your mom and getting things back together in the school department. If things are meant to be with the two of you, the "break" won't change that.


Also, you should seriously consider talking with someone about your parent's divorce and your relationship with your mom. Things aren't going to change unless you make an effort and let someone help you. If you're not comfy talking with your school counselor, find a support group for teens with divorced parents, in your area. Sometimes just talking with peeps that are going through similar situations, can really help you deal better. Good Luck!


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    Liyah_Mahone

    Liyah_Mahone wrote:

    I would be scared to hurt the guys feeling's thats all
    commented: Sat Jul 27, 2013

    aewan

    aewan wrote:

    I hate readind .... :devil
    commented: Sat Jul 27, 2013

    Aarjan

    Aarjan wrote:

    Never Read It...
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    kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
    "Wooper1255" wrote:No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._.Okay, okay, let's get serious.Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND!You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully...You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also.Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you!A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your madYou should ask her any of the following questions:Are you Okay?Why are you bullying me? You're my friend.Is something wrong like family issues?Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom.Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too.Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3  your right and the only reason I have put up with her this long is because her dad died but I cant stand her anymore so but seriously I feel like there is another reason bcuz she has had people confront her saying "u know what I have put up wit this for a while and I have told u to stop and u don't listen and I know your dad died but that doesn't mean u can treat people like that "  but she still does it and for the past 3 yrs. I have put up with it but not anymore I will talk to her about it. Thanks.
    reply about 11 hours
    Wooper1255
    Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
    You NEED to tell your parents or HER parents about her attitude, this is abuse from your OWN best friend! Tell an adult, don't be afraid, it's not even SILLY to tell an adult, this is serious, she is HURTING you! Tell someone before things get out of hand and she REALLY hurts you! D=
    reply about 12 hours
    Wooper1255
    Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
    No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._. Okay, okay, let's get serious. Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND! You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully... You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also. Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you! A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your mad You should ask her any of the following questions: Are you Okay? Why are you bullying me? You're my friend. Is something wrong like family issues? Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom. Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too. Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3
    reply about 12 hours
    Boysrock50
    Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
    Yeah I had a friend in the same situation as you, he was too scared to say anything so we spoke for him. Now the 'friend' has changed and hes our mate. Just tell her straight and firmly, its the only way
    reply about 12 hours
    kaykay2002
    kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
    "Boysrock50" wrote:She is obviously NOT your best friend.I wouldn't even call her a friendShe is a bully who thinks she can have her own wayShe thinks she can control you like you're her follower because she the truth is she needs youBe smart and leave her because she's only going to keep you down and then one day she will find  friends just like her and she will just ignore you forever, thinking shes too cool for you.I would either:Tell her straight that she needs to make her own friends because you don't want to be friends anymoreor:Tell her that you don't like what she does and either she changes her ways and acts more like a friend, or you cant be friends anymore.I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm being wise and you should be wise too. Thanks I actually might try that but she is really stubborn and will not take no for an answer I have tried just ignoring her but he will kick, hit, or punch me to get attention. my parents also don't like her bcuz she is bossy. I also have to go to summer camp with her for the next 2 weeks and w have to be buddies for it so i think i might die
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