Dear Dish-It, I Want to Find My 7th Heaven

Advice for Teens About Divorce

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

My parents have been divorced since I was five, and I live with my mom, so I really miss my dad. Please give me some advice on how to deal with this! The theme song to 7th Heaven says, "When the world doesn't treat you right, to go home; it's the one place that you will find 7th Heaven." The problem I have is what home to go to - my mom's or my dad's?
Walkbifaith

Dear Walkbifaith,

Though it would be nice if everyone's life could be as happy and idealistic as the members of the Camden family, real life rarely plays out like an episode of 7th Heaven. We're not all going to grow up in a house where there are seven kids, our dad is a preacher and fresh baked cookies are waiting at the end of every bad day. Real life cannot be resolved in an hour and we can't try to compare our lives to a TV show theme song. It totally sucks that you have to go back and forth between your parent's houses but at least you have two parents who you really love. If you're unhappy with the amount of time you get to spend with either parent, sit and talk to them about it. I'm sure they'll be willing to work out a schedule so you can get as much face time with each of them as possible. Instead of worrying which house is the best, think of it as having two "7th Heavens" to go to. Because we all know that two is way better than one.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.

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