Dear Dish-It, She's Making a Mistake

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

My best friend and I got into an argument that started with me trying to tell her that her BF is bad news. I think she doesn't care because this is the second time they have decided to start dating. The last time they went out she got into a bunch of trouble and her parents forbid her to see him. So when I talked to her and told her how I felt she turned it all around and then said I was trying to run her life. It hurt my feelings a lot and I didn't want to make her mad. Now I am going to spend the weekend at her house and I don't know how to make it right or should I even have to make it right? This site is really cool and it seems very helpful, thank you. R.C.

Dear R.C.,

Looking out for your friend's well-being is not something you should feel bad about. It sounds like she already knows she is making a mistake by goin' out with this guy again but just doesn't want to hear it. But that doesn't give her the right to treat you badly. Let her know that you are just trying to make sure she doesn't get hurt and you are only looking out for her happiness. Also, make sure she realizes that she hurt you with the things she said about you trying to run her life. She may be too wrapped up in her own drama to fully realize how hurtful she's been. I wouldn't make a big deal of things - just let her know that you're there for her but that you'll stay out of her dating affairs unless she asks for your help. Good Luck!

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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Tbh, your mom is kinda, you know, right about it. I mean, net is not as safe as we think it is. All I can tell you is that don't talk about her in front of your mom and don't give your friend any personal details about you. 
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