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Dear Dish-It, Should I Hook Up With Him?

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

I recently had my first "hooking up" experience. It was a nice Saturday night, I'd been drinking, I wasn't drunk but I was pretty happy, and this guy was being really sweet in a sleazy sort of way, (y'know, the whole "I love your skin. You're so beautiful" thing) and we kissed and it was so nice.

Problem? He told me to call him, so I did, and he was playing it all cool but he was saying really sweet things like "I wanna hold you" and "You made me feel good" etc. But, I can't describe it, he was being all laid-back and it just felt like he was just saying things to make me fall for him. I just felt like he wasn't being genuine. He also kept hinting that he wanted to do it again, which I was perfectly fine with because I hardly knew him and he was a GOOD KISSER. I don't want that whole emotional attachment, but he's just making me feel so confused! Should I hook up with him again, which is what I want to do, or is it a bad idea if he's messing with my feelings like this?
tannii

Dear tannii,

Honey, please tell me you are not seriously considering getting back with this guy. Your first mistake was "hooking up" with him in the first place. Your profile says you're 15 - do you think it's a good idea to be drinking and messing around with random sleazy guys? I think you already know it's not cool to be drinking, but it's super uncool to be drinking and putting yourself in compromising positions. This time all you had to fend off were his cheesy lines, but are you sure that's all you'll have to worry about next time? This guy has just one thing on his mind and you're playing right into his game.

You're too young to be so jaded about relationships and emotional attachment. Dating can be a really great thing, especially at your age. You get to hang out and get to know one another, anxiously anticipate your first kiss, etc. Instead, you're going to start this aspect of your life off on the wrong foot - hooking up with whoever whispers sleazy lines into your ear isn't healthy. So, in case my answer so far isn't entirely clear, I would recommend that you do not get together with this guy again. Have a little self-respect and wait for a guy who will at least take you to a movie before jamming his tongue in your mouth!

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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SmartSunnyShadow
I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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SmartSunnyShadow
Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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SmartSunnyShadow
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AnnaOfExquizurd
Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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drowning
You go out and you find someone who you can be you with. It's not a hard question to find the answer too.
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