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Dear Dish-It, How Do I Get His Digits?

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Dear Dish-It,

Hey there! Your advice for all those teens out there is going real good; keep up the good job! Now it's my turn to ask: what do I do? I've got a crush on a guy in another school (cuz my school's all girls), and I saw him at his school band's concert (I'm in band too). He's one year older than me and doesn't know I exist, and I don't know how to approach him, to get to know him, to get his contacts (phone number, email address, etc.). Should I wait for the next concert and say hi and get to know him? If yes, how do I do it? Or should I get his contacts from my friends' guy friends there? I'm really confused and he's on my mind 24/7. Hope you can give me some good advice so I can get to starting a friendship with him first, then slowly blooming into a relationship later (:
tratakka


Dear tratakka,

The best way to get to know someone that you like is to talk to them one on one. You could get his digits from a friend of a friend, but would it really be easier for you to call him up on the phone? Probably not. If you are both in band and see each at concerts, it shouldn't be too hard to strike up small talk with him the next time you see him. Don't think too much about the perfect thing to say - just walk up and say, "Hey, how are you?" From there you can exchange names, etc. You might not be able to score a date right away, but it'll make it easier to chat with him in the future.


If you make the first move, he'll know that you think he's cool and if he's interested in you, he'll be compelled to chat with you more often. Don't try to push anything too quickly, cuz it takes time to get to know someone. It does make it a bit harder that you don't go to the same school, but it's not impossible for something to happen between the two of you. Once you've gotten to know him a little better, ask him to hang out sometime outside of school or band - try to avoid going to the movies though, an activity where you two can talk (like bowling, ice skating, etc.) is a much better choice. Good Luck!


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