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Dear Dish-It, My Family Is Falling Apart and It's My Fault

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Dear Dish-It,

I have a serious problem. Yesterday I got in a huge fight with my mom. She wanted me to clean out my drawers and I had plenty of time so I took my time doing it. So, five hours later I'm still not done so she goes crazy and starts trashin' my room then my dad stepped in and I got a whole lot of lecturing and I got kicked out of my room. Now all my clothes are in bags and I have to sleep in my little sis's room. To make matters worse, she found a note I wrote about me hating her whenever I do something wrong and now she can't even look at me. She says to my dad that it's either me or her that's going to leave and if she leaves my three younger sibs won't have a mother. Not to mention how bad she'll make me look to my relatives. And if I leave she'll look like a bad mother. I really love her deep down but I don't know if she feels the same way. It's like my entire world fell apart and my family's going with it. I seriously need advice on how to handle this. HELP!
shawty240


Dear shawty240,

This is one of the most confusing times in your life. You're convinced that you know what's best for you, while your parents aren't quite ready to let you make all your own decisions yet. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mom, but I do know that everyone has showdowns with their mom at some point in their teenage life. It sounds like you were kind of mad that she was making you clean up in your room, so you took your time in getting the task done. You've probably had similar fights with your mom in the past and when she realized that after five hours you still hadn't completed the task she had given you, she was angry. She probably over-reacted, but remember that your mom is only human, so when she's angry and frustrated, she may not always be 100% rational.


Your mom was angry, but I doubt that she wants either of you to leave. What she might want is to hear that you are sorry for trying to make her life harder by fighting with her about everything she asks of you. Sit down with your mom and have a chat about the recent fights you've been having and what might make your current situation better. Your mom definitely loves you, she's just doesn't know how to communicate with you right now. Be the bigger person and initiate a nice, calm chat with her. There will probably still be conflict with the two of you in the future, but they won't be nearly as dramatic if you each know what the other is feeling. Good Luck!


Dear shawty240,
I think your mom is just trying to scare you. My mom used to do that all the time. Try to do something to tell her how sorry you are.
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    linkofhyrule

    linkofhyrule wrote:

    yeah, every once in a while every one fights with their mom, and she usually tries to w...
    commented: Fri Aug 08, 2014

    SchoolRocks1

    SchoolRocks1 wrote:

    I belevie if you fight wwith someone you also love them alot i also somes fight with my...
    commented: Fri Aug 08, 2014

    arusharocks99

    arusharocks99 wrote:

    i fight wid mum alot... she fights with dad alot..bt nthng eva goes that serious! :/
    commented: Fri Aug 08, 2014

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