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Dear Dish-It,

I'm in a huge dilemma right now. I like this kid Clayton and have been pursuing him for a while and he says he doesn't really want a relationship with me 'til summer but we hardcore flirt and stuff. Then there's this other guy I just met from another school and I flirted with him too and he's really cool except he has some bad habits that I don't know if I want to get involved with. Please help me with which boy I should pursue? PLEASE HELP!
pink_chica


Dear pink_chica,

It sounds to me that you really dig this guy Clayton but are frustrated that he doesn't want to go out with you right now. That's probably why you've started to flirt with this new guy from a different school. If you actually like the new guy, then cool. Just don't start dating him to get back at Clayton. You haven't been too specific about what this new guy's bad habits are, but it seems like you're not that comfortable about them. As frustrating as it can be to crush on someone who isn't crushing back, you don't want to get yourself into a situation where you feel pressured or unsure about yourself. Go with what your heart is telling you - I have a feeling it's saying you want to wait and see what happens in the summer with Clayton.


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